To know or not to know...

Re: To know or not to know...

• jettagurl member

  January 2010

  Wait.  My 1st was a surprise, and I really wish they all were.  It was so exciting to meet him and find out he was a boy and surprise everyone with his name all at the same time.  My husband really wanted to find out with DD and the twins, so we did.  I wish we had waited with DD, but I gave in.  With the twins it actually turned out beneficial - we had at least one U/S every week, so I probably would have figured it out....but also to know sexes helped with our delivery plan because often boys are bigger than girls of the same gestation and our baby A (first to come) was a boy and always measured bigger, which would factor into how we delivered

  IMO, I think the delivery was exponentially more exciting not knowing....but of course, now that they are all here, it doesn't factor into anything now.   

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• HotDish! member

  January 2010

  With my first, we knew and with our second we didn't. My H and I both prefered knowing. Whether you find out at the u/s or after you deliver it's a surprise either way. I didn't feel one way was more special or suprising than the other.

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• tammy79 member

  January 2010

  Well, we found out with DS and DD, and I liked it, and was able to get ready before the baby arrived. This time around we decided not to find, well DH really never wants to know, I always want to know, I was really strong and did not find out during my bg U/S, so now I'm getting anxious and impatient, and really want to know, but for DH's sake, I will do all I can to wait and find out, and I think it will be fun. 

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• LittleMamaB

  January 2010

  I'm impatient. Found out with all three.
  

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• chrismbel

  January 2010

  I found out with both of my DC.  Before I got pg, I was one of those "Don't find out...there's so few surprises in life..."  but then when it was my turn, I couldn't wait to find out!  I'm a total control freak though and very picky about things like bedding, nursery decor, etc.  I knew that I could register for "gender neutral" stuff but once he/she had arrived that I would want pink dresses or blue bedding, etc.  And I also knew that having a new baby would be tough enough those first few weeks, the last thing I needed was to be stressing out about stupid stuff like crib bedding.  In hindsight, they spend SO little time in the nursery those first few months and you get SO much pink/blue clothing as gifts once he/she is born that it would have been just fine.  We just liked being prepared (and we had just moved into a new house and were painting rooms) so we chose to find out again the 2nd time around.  I regretted finding out with #2 because we found out we were having a DS....we knew immediately that he would carry on the tradition in DH's family and be named after his father and his grandfather...so for 6+ months we knew we were having a boy and we already knew his name...it was kind of boring!!

  I already made my DH promise that if we have a 3rd, it will be a surprise.  Since I already have girl stuff and boy stuff from my 2 DC, having a surprise 3rd would be fine for me.  I think that would be exciting.  But honestly, the whole thing is so exciting either way.  It's still a surprise when he/she comes out even if you already know what you're having...who does he/she look like, how much does he/she weigh, does he/she have hair, birthmarks, etc.  There's always an element of surprise and excitement there.

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• littlemermaid member

  January 2010

  I found out with both and wouldn't of had it any other way.  I felt bonded even more so to the baby because I could concentrate on one name and getting the room ready to a specific sex.  There are way more suprises to that baby than the sex. 

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• Expecting0207

  January 2010

  I knew with my first but the second wouldn't cooperate so we didn't know until delivery.  I preferred knowing - putting a name to the baby, knowing if it was a he/she, to me it was just more exciting that way.  Plus life has thrown me plenty of surprises - not all good ones, so I've had enough excitement from surprises.
  

  J1 1.19.07
  J2 11.17.08

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• hopefulmom member

  January 2010

  Didn't know with any of them.  The first two wasn't even an option because I never had an ultra sound.  With the last two...we could have found out but didn't.  I agree that finding out the sex at delivery is the ultimate surprise!  Really, what surprise is bigger than that?  My SIL found out fairly early in her preg. and I got sick of hearing her call her unborn child by HER name so that when HE was born it was a surprise to us ALL.  lol  My SIL was pissed because she had bought all of these gender specific clothes (lots of dresses, frilly panties to go over diapers, cute little shoes...not to mention doing the nursery up with frills and lace and lots of pink!  Unfortunately, she couldn't take most of it back because she had bought it too far in advance.  OPPS!

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