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I lost it at work
I am a nurse and work on a pediatric floor. Ever since I found out that my baby has anencephaly I don't talk about it at work, because I still get too upset. Last night I was taking care of baby. The baby"s grandmother is staying with her. The baby has been there almost a week and the grandmother is frustrated that she is still there and not bettter (which I completely understand). So yesterday she was ill with everyone that walked in the room (dr.s, nurses, etc). At one point I was trying to give the baby her medicine and the grandmother was just constanly bad mouthing us and trying to argue about everything. After about five minutes I was fed up and I said "I don't understand why you are so frustrated with me, I am trying to help." She got irrate, looked at me and said "I am worried about her. You are pregannt aren't you?" I said "yes ma'am." Then she actually said " well I hope when you have your baby something happens and you will know what it feels like!" I lost it. I told her that my baby was going to die, and that she shouldn't wish things like that on people! I was so upset I was shaking and my heart was about to beat out of my chest. I know it wasn't professional, but It just came out. It shut her up. Then she started crying and apoligizing and I started crying. It was a nightmare. I just don't understand how people can be so mean. Who would actually wish something like that? Anyway, I just had to vent.
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Re: I lost it at work
OMG - I am so sorry to hear about your baby and the rudeness of this woman. What a horrible thing for her to say! I think you handled it better than I could've, and probably most other women, so please don't feel that you weren't professional. It was not ok for her to say that to anyone, regardless of her situation.
Sending you hugs and strength!
Dx with Ectopic on 12/7/09. Laparoscopy, D&C, and lost my left tube on 12/08/09.
01/11 = BFP!
Finnegan Alexander born 9/25/11 via emergency c-section
I am so sorry about your baby. It is sad that someone would wish that on anyone and I think that you handled the situation well considering what you are going through. My t&p are with you.
I am so sorry to hear about your baby, and that awful woman. I know that she is worried and having a hard time, but you can't be mad at people who are trying to take care of her granddaughter!!!
I think that you did the right thing by saying something. Just cause she is having a hard time doesn't mean that she should wish that upon anyone! I know how angry and bitter and jealous we all are about other pregnant women who will have a happy healthy baby to take home with them, but I don't think that any of us would ever say any of that to their face.
I am so sorry that you had to go through that!!! I can't even imagine! My thoughts are with you honey! ::BIG HUGS::
Oh no.. I'm so sorry.
Is there anyway you can be reassigned to another ward while you are going through your pregnancy? For me it would be way too hard to work with babies given what you are going through.
You should (if you haven't) reach out to CoolTeacher (Stacy). She delivered her sweet little boy last October. She would be a great resource to you.
Best to you.
Jenn
IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN
Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10
BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11
Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11
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