Need advice.. can we still use this name?..long
About a year before ttc we started talking baby names. We almost immediately agreed on John Robert. John is hugely popular on both sides of our families. My dad's middle name, 3 of my uncles, and some cousins, dh's 2 uncles, cousin, and middle names all over. So John is perfect. Robert is dh's late granfather's name as well as uncle and cousin's name plus SIL's middle name is Robert(they live in the south so mens names are used for girl's mn's). Obviously ther are too many John's to call him John so we planned on calling him Jack.
We'll 6 months ago before getting KU my cousin had a boy and named him John Robert and they are calling him Jack. They had no idea that was our fav name. Our last names are different but, I don't want to name our baby exactly the same thing. Well the problem is we can't come up with anything else that even comes close to John Robert, for us. I keep comparing every name to the one I really want to use and I feel really bummed about it. Some family members are saying who cares just use it and now I'm thinking about it but, I'm hesitant. My mom actually spoke to that cousin and his wife about it, which I did not ask her to do, and they said that we should just use it. I guess they could have just been being nice though, I wasn't there.
So I know I'm over thinking this but, what do you all think. Should we find a new name or use our fav even though my cousin used the same name?
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Re: Need advice.. can we still use this name?..long
Were you planning to call your son Jack also? If not I would still use at least one of the names and maybe a variation (Jonathan Robert for example?) of the other. You could also use it and call your son J.R. We will prob use initials for our LO, we love that. GL that is a tough one! Since it took us a long time to get a sticky pregnancy a few names I like were "taken" also...
We'll 6 months ago before getting KU my cousin had a boy and named him John Robert and they are calling him Jack."
If you love, love, love the name, I don't think there's anything wrong with using it
Personally, I wouldn't. For several reasons: the first being that the family is already flooded with John's and Roberts. That seems to be a positive rather than a negative for you, so that wouldn't really apply. The second being that when you announce your name it might be a little anti-climatic, even confusing to some people. Not enough of an issue for me to say you shouldn't go there, but enough that it would make me seriously rethink. Especially if you plan on using the exact same nickname. It might be a bit of a head scratcher
Do you see them very much? Do you live close at all?
I had two customers that were cousins and had the EXACT. SAME. NAME. They were close in age too. We were always confusing one of their acct's with the other and it was a hassle.
If you don't live close/see them much, then maybe go ahead and use the name.
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I wouldn't. if you read my "am I wrong" post you'll see that I am in a kinda similar situation (even though Im not KU yet lol)
I wouldnt use the same name, but its your kid and name him what you want.
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Me too.
Honestly, both those names are really common. No wonder you have a lot in your family - John was the most popular boys name for about 80 years in the US. Its not like you had a really unusual name and they happened to use it. Because of that, I think this could go either way, but I personally wouldn't do it.
My dad and grandfather were named John, and I've considered naming my son Ian, which is the Scottish version of the name (I'm part Scottish). Maybe you could do something like that?
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I REALLY like this idea! Ian Robert sounds awesome!