Clicky Poll - etiquette

papagena · December 2009

I didn't do this - just wondering what you think about it.
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ab&jim · December 2009

I voted yes. And here's my reason. I think the inviting should be done by the host/hostess. Not other guests.

I was once invited to a baby shower only after the H said "See you tomorrow at the shower" and I was like "huh?" They figured out that the hostess never sent me the invite and were embarassed and gave me a verbal invite. I didn't go b/c I didn't think it was the right thing to do.

ksmeg78 · December 2009

Overall I think it's rude to ask at all. But it depends on the host and your relaitonship to her. If you are really good friends, I think it's fine. If you know she's really laid back and wouldn't mind that kind of thing, sure. But otherwise, I think the most you can see is, "I am so sorry we have house guests and wouldn't want to leave them so we can't make it" (if they are your houseguests) and see if she offers.

luvlieK · December 2009

I don't know

but I answered your PM lol?

papagena · December 2009

luvlieK:
I don't know
but I answered your PM lol

*chuckle* got you back!

Hippinski · December 2009

I think it would depend on what kind of party and the personalities of the host & guest. But then again I'm also a 'more the merrier' type of person and wouldn't think twice about having people I don't know come to one of our parties. Heck...I've got two people coming tonight that I've never met but they are guests of my friend so I said invite them for sure.

Em&B · December 2009

I've had a couple of situations where I had my mil in town and friends were having an informal get together or birthday party or something and I've asked if it was ok for her to come along. If it was something formal, like a wedding, I wouldn't ask.

Lotte134 · December 2009

k-statebride:
Overall I think it's rude to ask at all. But it depends on the host and your relaitonship to her. If you are really good friends, I think it's fine. If you know she's really laid back and wouldn't mind that kind of thing, sure. But otherwise, I think the most you can see is, "I am so sorry we have house guests and wouldn't want to leave them so we can't make it" (if they are your houseguests) and see if she offers.

I totally agree.

Joes_love · December 2009

i voted yes, but then realized i've done it before...so now i think it depends on the situation.

when i did it, it was for a close friend whose family is far away and i asked my g-mom if it would be okay to bring her for Thanksgiving.

papagena · December 2009

I'm afraid this is an issue more because it is a friend who I am just not able to let certain things go with anymore. I'm generally pretty laid back, but with my stupid annoyance issues and the fact that tonight is last minute anyways (so my house is less than ideally clean) it irked me. Thanks for your feedback - I can't really vent to anyone else, and I wanted to know if I'm going overboard or not.

papagena · December 2009

Joes_love:
i voted yes, but then realized i've done it before...so now i think it depends on the situation.

when i did it, it was for a close friend whose family is far away and i asked my g-mom if it would be okay to bring her for Thanksgiving.

If it makes you feel any better, I don't think asking family is quite the same. I'd ask my parents & even grandparents to do this for a close friend. I wouldn't consider that rude.

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