it is two days later and I am still angry!

carynmp · December 2009

I holded off venting on here because I thought my anger would subside but it has now been two days and I am still angry.

I know this girl - we used to be better friends - who is due one week before my EDD in March. We stopped talking for a while because the fact that I had a m/c made HER UNCOMFORTABLE. We had a long talk when she announced her pregnancy and I was genuinely happy for her. I told her this because we are friends. She said that she can't be around me and that we shouldn't talk on the phone anymore or hang out and just go back to emails. Nice girl right?

So I had dinner with her and a group of people two nights ago and this is what happened. At dinner there was also another girl who wants to be pregnant and her husband has such a low sperm count nothing can be done right now. And another girl who is TTC but lost one of her ovaries and is having problems. I have not seen p/g girl in over two months. The first thing she does is take out a baby book of ultrasound pictures and pass it around. Next she goes on this rant about how much she hates being pregnant and how depressed she is. She talked about how she should be hired to go to high schools and tell the teenage girls how bad being pregnant is and once they hear her story - noone would get pregnant again.

I wanted to smack her! In my mind - I did smack her. But in reality I went to my little happy place and tried to tune her out. But what an insensitive FH! I can't get those hurtful comments out of my mind and although I am trying to be a more positive person in life - it still hurt.

VENT over - I feel better already!

HugginAngel · December 2009

Dude I'm in NJ I can just go hit her for you...she won't know who I am.... :-)

AppleRidge · December 2009

I hate this person. Honestly, I think I would have written a nasty email (you know, because you're not allowed to call her) and tell her all the things you wrote here. I'm sure you'd be the hero of the other girls from the dinner.

sweetbossom83 · December 2009

Biootcch!

Tapsalteerie · December 2009

If I knew someone like that I would probably write them an email telling them how uncomfortable they are making me and tell them I no longer wish to remain friends with them because of their lack of support and compassion towards others.

medblonde · December 2009

HugginAngel:
Dude I'm in NJ I can just go hit her for you...she won't know who I am.... :-)

Ditto this... we can form a posse.

ColindaP · December 2009

Total FH behavior. Unacceptable. Does she know about the other two girls too?

carynmp · December 2009

Thanks ladies! I love the support that I get here! You are the only ones that truly understand and can make me feel better!

And yes - she knows about all three of us and our p/g struggles!

grr_aargh · December 2009

BBHME:
I hate this person. Honestly, I think I would have written a nasty email (you know, because you're not allowed to call her) and tell her all the things you wrote here. I'm sure you'd be the hero of the other girls from the dinner.

Whoa. Truly. That's so messed up.

Now here's the thing about being a FH: If you're a FH, you don't get it. I speak as a former FH. You do. not. get. it. Pregnancy is easy to attain and difficult to endure. . . the hardest part of pregnancy for a FH is. . . pregnancy. I'm not saying that to excuse her absolutely utterly selfish bullscat, but the fact is this wasn't hard for her and she doesn't appreciate it... not like her dinner companions would. Still, she should look outside of herself long enough to see she's complaining about something her companions want desperately.