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Kari Merks
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S/o overnights without LO
Kari Merks
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Do you think it's like ripping a bandaid off? Just do it and get it over with and you'll be okay?
We haven't left Stasa overnight (could you tell?) and I'm sure there's going to come a time when it will be necessary. So I was thinking maybe we do a dry run just so it's been done before. WDYT?
Stasa 01.15.09 * Lexi 03.24.11 * Tommy 04.27.13 * Merklet #4 due 10.10.15
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Re: S/o overnights without LO
i dont know.. i would never do it unless i had to but, i do know what you mean.
when we went to the game i was having crazy thoughts (that we shouldnt take the trip bc we could get into an accident and die and L would be alone) and i was crying over it.. but once we were on our way there, i was fine -- needless to say, im so not looking forward to the day that i need to leave her for a length of time
Good band aid analogy! I thought it was going to be really hard but it wasn?t so bad. DH and I left DD with my mother overnight and didn?t do anything crazy. We just went shopping and out to dinner. We picked her up at 7:00 the next morning and I realized that I really didn?t miss anything besides her sleeping.
I was never away from my parents until I was old enough for sleepovers.
Other than younger children being born, I just don't see it happening in our family. I guess I just don't think it's a necessary part of childhood.
Whatevs.
lol now THIS seems a little extreme in the other direction. when i was young (toddler age) i LOVED going to my grandparents to stay over, it wasnt some trauma!
My mom pretty much forced me to when the boys were only 4 weeks. I didn't put up much of a fight though. I was soooo sleep deprived. I dropped them off and slept for like 12 hours straight and it was the most glorious night of my life. I felt like a new woman and rushed back over to her house to pick them back up.
They have only spent one other night away from me and I don't see any in the near or distant future. They are so set in their bedtime routine I hate to do anything that may "mess" it up now.
I'm the oppsosite of most previous posters, for my DS I see overnights w/o DH and I as essential and very important. It's important to me that he has those special times w/ his grandparents and his cousins, without his parents around. Much more fun for him!!! Now I wasn't pushing him out the door at 3 months, but even as young as 9 months he would squeal with delight when he spent QT with his cousins. I guess for that reason I never had a hard time leaving him overnight and I welcomed that time to be alone with DH or to have a girls weekend. BUT that's my preference, if I wasn't comfortable leaving him overnight I don't know that I'd do a trial run...... if you're not into it, will it really need to be necessary in the future? I guess follow your gut on this. Maybe you can do a day away and not a whole night to get a little used to being away from DC.
Good Luck
Zoie has stayed with my parents a hand full of times with no issues. She is a great sleeper though. Is the person she would be staying with close by? I would say that if you plan on having her stay with someone while you go out of town or something it may be smart to have her stay away as a dry run to see how it goes then you will still be close in case it doesn't go well.
We left DS with my parents for two nights when he was 2 months old and again when he was 3 months old. DH and I both missed him a lot but it was great to get away just the two of us. We reconnected and had a great time together.
I actually look forward to the times they watch him overnight. I like that he'll grow up being really close to his grandparents and not overly dependent on us. Like PP, one of my favorite things to do growing up was to spend a week w/ my grandparents in the summer. DS will definitely be doing that!
Yes, I do think it is like ripping off a band aid. We left B overnight with my sister and her husband and kids for 1 night in November- and I was dreading it (despite the fact that it was to spend the night in a swanky hotel with MH for my best friend's engagement party). We dropped her off and she was so happy playing with her cousins- I cried for 10 minutes, and then it was fine. She had a blast because she was constantly entertained and I felt great knowing she was with people she knows really well.
While I don't look forward to leaving her again, I know she'll be happy there when/if the time comes.
DD stays with my parents every Monday night. They watch her on Tuesdays (we are fortunate to have DC 3 days/week and one day with my parents and one day with ILs who have flexible work schedules) and prefer to do that v. picking her up at our house early on Monday mornings. In fact, they suggested it. She adores them and they have a great time, and H and I always go see a movie or go out to dinner. I miss her dearly but adult time is important for our marriage and I also stayed with my grandparents quite a few times when I was younger and have very fond memories of that time.
ETA: I'm taking H on a surprise birthday trip in April for 6 days and she will be staying with my parents as well. She'll probably be pissed when we come back LOL
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three years and only did it once (to give birth).
I'm not going to be any help ... sorry!
I don't really see a need to leave DS overnight just to do it. If something came up that necessitated it, that's one thing. But just to do it...eh, I don't get it.
Obv, once he's older if he wants to stay over his grandma's or cousin's, that's one thing. But he's still a baby, so why rush it?