Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

People don't really think

I posted earlier about my friend going to L & D for a false alarm. Well she's back there again and has been texting me all about it. I know that she's nervous and doesnt know what to expect because this is her first pregnancy but she sent me a text that said "Bleeding when your not supposed to be isn't a very good feeling"...I read it and didn't know what to say...All I could say back was "Yeah I know". I'm just feeling very overwhelmed tonight and that one comment from her made me cry because it just brought up what I went through the day of my loss and being scared in the ER and not knowing what was wrong. This sucks!

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Re: People don&#039;t really think

  • I'm so sorry she's texting you all of that. You are a stronger person than I am. I'd be responding with words I can't post on here. It amazes me how insensitive people can be.

    Maybe you can have someone else read them and if they're pregnancy related, just delete them, if not then let you read them?  

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  • Everyone I know tells me that I'm "to nice" because I feel guilty if I'm not there for my friends all the time. I was the first person she told when she found out she was pregnant and I was there for her the whole time up until my loss. So I feel bad not being there for her now because of what I'm dealing with. It's my own fault for letting her think I was ok with her talking to me about her pregnancy.

    "Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart"

    Our TTC Journey

    BabyFetus Ticker

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    I'm a mom to my 4 angel babies who were taken from us much to soon!
    BFP#1 on 09/29/09 and EP discovered/Left Tube lost on 10/19/09 EDD 06/12/10
    BFP# 2 on 03/21/2010 EDD 11/30/10 Natural M/C on 3/27/10
    BFP# 3 on 02/14/2011 EDD 10/28/11 Missed M/C discovered 4/19/11 and D&C 4/21/11 On 5/6/11 we found out our Oct Angel was a beautiful little girl <3
    IVF#1=BFP#4 on 8/31/11 EDD 5/12/12 EP discovered and MTX shot given 9/14/ & 9/21 M/C on 10/9/11
    IVF#2 and Stims started 12/2 ER 12/16 ET 12/21 transferred two beautiful blastocysts. Please stick LO's! BFP 12/26
    Benjamin Matthew Our Little Miracle Born 9/5/2012!
    BFP 1/2/14 EDD 9/11/14

  • She should have known though. That's my opinion though. Being nice doesn't protect your heart. I'm the same way you are though. I'm more of a passive aggressive type. Once I'm at a breaking point, though, I'm not really one to be crossed.

    You have to focus on you right now. Like you said, you're dealing with it. Not dealt. If she's a good enough friend, she'll be there when you're on the uphill road.

    I really hope I don't upset you with what I said. I have a hard time conveying what I mean. 

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  • No don't worry you haven't upset me at all! YOur absolutely right I just have trouble putting myself first sometimes!

    "Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart"

    Our TTC Journey

    BabyFetus Ticker

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

    I'm a mom to my 4 angel babies who were taken from us much to soon!
    BFP#1 on 09/29/09 and EP discovered/Left Tube lost on 10/19/09 EDD 06/12/10
    BFP# 2 on 03/21/2010 EDD 11/30/10 Natural M/C on 3/27/10
    BFP# 3 on 02/14/2011 EDD 10/28/11 Missed M/C discovered 4/19/11 and D&C 4/21/11 On 5/6/11 we found out our Oct Angel was a beautiful little girl <3
    IVF#1=BFP#4 on 8/31/11 EDD 5/12/12 EP discovered and MTX shot given 9/14/ & 9/21 M/C on 10/9/11
    IVF#2 and Stims started 12/2 ER 12/16 ET 12/21 transferred two beautiful blastocysts. Please stick LO's! BFP 12/26
    Benjamin Matthew Our Little Miracle Born 9/5/2012!
    BFP 1/2/14 EDD 9/11/14

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    I posted earlier about my friend going to L & D for a false alarm. Well she's back there again and has been texting me all about it. I know that she's nervous and doesnt know what to expect because this is her first pregnancy but she sent me a text that said "Bleeding when your not supposed to be isn't a very good feeling"...I read it and didn't know what to say...All I could say back was "Yeah I know". I'm just feeling very overwhelmed tonight and that one comment from her made me cry because it just brought up what I went through the day of my loss and being scared in the ER and not knowing what was wrong. This sucks!

    I probably would hve texted back, "Yeah, but your bleeding is going to lead to a baby."...but I'm probably not as nice as you are.
    dd(Brianna) 11/01/94, ds(Bram)10/17/95, ds(Jesse)9/26/97, dd (Annie Ruth) 7/27/05 5mc Jan '08, May '08, Feb '09, Sept '09, Apr '11 "And can it be that in a world so full and busy, the loss of one weak creature makes a void in any heart, so wide and deep that nothing but the width and depth of vast eternity can fill it up." - Charles Dickens

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