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2nd Trimester
Sept1799
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In-Law Question
Sept1799
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Since all you ladies are about as far along as I am I have a question for you.
When you told your In-Laws about your new arrival...did they acknowledge it?
What I mean is a card, a small gift? If so what did you get?
I am courious.....my in-laws know (they are divorsed (sp?)) and know about the baby but never sent a card or gave a gift....nothing......
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Re: In-Law Question
Mine were really excited but no goft or anything.
My mom is really the only person that has given us anything for the baby and it was part of our Christmas gift. It was so sweet of her.
I bet they have told all their friends though. Tey will get excited as time goes by. That you can count on.
My mom has bought lots of things, so have my bff, my sister, my aunts, and DH's aunt.
MIL not yet, but she has said she can't wait to buy the baby girl outfits.
Mil is really excited. BIL and his wife are also expecting a baby boy with a due date 2 days before mine. She brought over a little baby toy the day after we told her. She also got the baby a few random gifts for Christmas.
FIL and his wife are much more laid back then MIL. FIL hasn't said much. but his wife gave us a little outfit on Thanksgiving.
Nope- they were SUPER excited (we have their reaction on video) but no card or gift... was I supposed to expect one?....
Same with my parents- excited but no card or gift or anything.... although my mom did put together a baby stocking for Christmas- it's tiny and my grandma knitted it for my mom when she was pg so it has "?" where the name should be- with a couple small goodies in it (a swaddler, teddy bear thermometer, and baby booties).
LOL!! I think I'm like your MIL. I've been buying my MIL crap for when she watches the baby!!
To answer the question: honestly, I don't see why they would send a card or give a special gift. Be excited? Yeah, that would be nice. My ILs are really excited, they had a kind of hard time when we FIRST told them because we told them really early on (like 4 weeks) and before the Dr. had confirmed it so I think they were nervous about whether I really was pregnant. Technology on those pee sticks must have been different back then.
But they still cried with excitement, and they're ridiculously excited now. My mom was NOT excited at first (it was unexpected for us, and she was understandably worried about the career I've spent my whole life working towards and just got started on) and it took her a while to come around.
My ILs did get the baby a couple onesies for Christmas, but more because my FIL had asked for a onesie with a specific saying on it. My parents are buying us stuff, but because I asked for it. I'm really the only one shopping at this point. But MIL is planning to make her own nursery too, so its not like I would ever expect stuff from her for us, in addition to her expenses in getting together a nursery (in fact, I feel guilty so I'm helping get things for her to use).
I never got a thing either. Not even phone call, just a relayed 'my mom and dad say congrats'
And we have a good relationship! I know they are really excited and they really like me, we get along well, and are fairly close, no bad blood or anything at all. His mom has called me a few times throughout, and his dad (who is NOT a phone guy) called me once, but no card, no present, nothing for christmas....nothing really, at all
My mom has been sending me regular packages, surprises, cards, emails ect... I got several nice cards and presents from friends and my sister always buys and sends me stuff
I just mostly think it's odd, it never occured to me to feel bothered by it, but I do find it at least a little bit odd that they haven't really made any effort. This will be their first grandchild, and they claim to be really excited about it
Let me preface by saying that Nate and I are not married but they are my in laws in every way so I will refer to them as my in laws as to not get complicated.
My in laws are ecstatic about the twins. One of my SIL calls me all the time to ask about the pregnancy. My MIL calls almost everyday (kind of overbearing but she's really sweet). My BILs and other SIL keep updated by either calling Nate or me.
We did request no baby gifts as yet but I am pretty sure they have all begun to buy and are just waiting for my baby shower to give me. My SIL and MIL are involved in baby shower planning along with my mother, sister, and best friend. They get along GREAT with my family and we get along very well. I am lucky.
Mine were (and are) very excited, but didn't give a gift or card in response to the announcement.
Frankly, it never would have occurred to me. They're happy, and they're going to do a lot for the baby once she's here.
Perfectly normal and acceptable. Most people don't send anything till later on. We got congratulations verbally, but I didn't expect anything.