Being cheated on has made me want to be a "cheater tattler."

Trixie6717 · December 2009

I was cheated on by my ex-FI. I was with him for 10 years, we were set to get married in Hawaii for our 10 year dating anniversary and BAM I get a call from his "girlfriend".

So, now, I am of course sooooo grateful I didn't marry him, and every thing happened for a reason and I love my DH and my boys and my life and can't imagine it any other way. BUT, I now know for a hard core fact that he is cheating on his new fiance, who he has a baby with, and I want to call her and "warn" her before she marries him and makes a huge mistake. BUT I WON'T...It is none of my business. But mannnnnn do I wanna. I just really feel sorry for the girl.

/random vent

deeanneharris · December 2009

I am the same way! It is very hard to stay out of it; I understand.

risysmama · December 2009

Man, that sucks for her. Good thing you got out when you did. I'm a firm believer that sh!t happens for a reason.

californiaclaire · December 2009

Dude... I would tell her. Let her be glad she dodged the same bullet you did.

My boyfriend in college cheated on me all along & it was LAME when I finally found out. I told his next girlfriend to watch out & she didn't believe me.... three years later, they move out to another state together, move in together and she finds pictures of him with other women.... LAME. She should have listened to me and not wasted those three years of her life.

Scumbags!

CalinsBride · December 2009

I would tell. You have more restraint than I do!

erin.m · December 2009

Does she know what "happened" to you? You think she would be smart enough, but she does have a kid with him. I would TOTALLY want to tattle too.

skaplan000 · December 2009

I feel the same. I know that its none of my buisness but I cant stand when people cheat on their spouses/partners etc. I always feel the urge to tattle but I don't... unless it's with my sisters! Don't eff with my sisters!

smellycat15 · December 2009

I'm not going to lie, I totally would. Its not fair to her that hes lying to her and seeing someone else before they even get married. Its easier to get away now than when married. If my FI was cheating on me, I would rather someone tell me before rather than later. What if she never finds out? What if he gets someone PG? What if he gives her an STD? Too many things that I would feel shiitty about if I could have stopped it ahead of time.

I know most people will say its none of your business.

kerivp · December 2009

Wow, with a baby in the picture that is especially sad. What a scum! I'd be tempted to tell her too.

Bancation · December 2009

Anonymous email. I'd tell her.

desmerelda317 · December 2009

If I were in her situation, I would want to know. So I would tell her. If she gets angry and defensive and doesn't believe you, well then she has nobody but herself to blame at that point.

HeyyRed · December 2009

I would tell her under the guise that someone did it for you and you have been blessed as a result and you are just paying it forward.

Trixie6717 · December 2009

Bancation:
Anonymous email. I'd tell her.

How do you do an anonymous email...cause I'd love to get it off my chest anonymously. And then even if she doesn't believe it, maybe she'd open her eyes and find out for herself.

deeanneharris · December 2009

Trixie6717:

Bancation:
Anonymous email. I'd tell her.

How do you do an anonymous email...cause I'd love to get it off my chest anonymously. And then even if she doesn't believe it, maybe she'd open her eyes and find out for herself.

Just set up a fake yahoo one. Then make sure you put a subject title she will read. Maybe use his name LOL.

bnljane1988 · December 2009

Ung. Thank God you got out. Honestly, I'm one to "stay out of it." I don't think I'd say anything....actually, I know I wouldn't. (I've seen it before and not said anything.)

And yes, I've been cheated on and would probably have liked to have been told. I had the pleasure of finding out when I found naked pictures of ex with another girl. Yep, what a great guy! And a genius too!

Twin.Peaks · December 2009

Want me to call her for you? Big Smile

RandZB · December 2009

I would totally tell. Set up a fake e-mail account and let it fly. If I were in her shoes I would like to know. It would suck, but at least she would know. Then she could make the decision to go ahead and get married and then bust him later on and take half of the marital assets, in addition to child support. If she doesn't sign a pre-nup, that is.

ChefBrit · December 2009

i agree with a fake email. she should know, and will eventually be thankful for having been told.

kiki-W · December 2009

use

ivanatellya@gmail.com

subject: you need to know this. from a friend.

please tell her. you said your life is better b/c some woman had the guts to tell you befor you made that same mistake. tell her how a "friend" did the same for you and you are gratefull for it today.

i've done it.

Disneygeek77 · December 2009

Honestly, I would do it anonymously. I would give her details ( without giving myself away) and then say if she doesn't believe me, hire an private invesitgator.

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