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Parents/IL resistent to new baby technology??

funnibabyfunnibaby member
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Just wondering if anyone else has butted heads with parents/IL regarding proper safety equipment for the baby?

We were at IL for Christmas.  My MIL was going to feed DH's 15mo niece lunch and I offered to put her in her booster seat or high chair.  MIL brought out a rubbermaid step stool and a belt from a raincoat!!!! She proceeded to put the baby on the step stool on a chair and threaded the belt through the rungs of the chair and tied her to the chair!! I just about fell over in shock.

BIL also brought over a pack-n-play for naps that MIL refused to use.  She refuses to have any baby gear at her house or use it.  This is our first and I already told DH that would not fly with me - they either use the gear we bring or we don't come.

 Anyone else experience this?

Heather

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Re: Parents/IL resistent to new baby technology??

  • Pamela82Pamela82

    I'm laughing at the chair thing, b/c when my son was smaller I did the same thing.

    Whenever we went over to my parent's house I would just put him on top of a pillow in the chair and put a belt around the chair and his waist.  It works.  lol.  And he was strapped in.  It's not like I left him unattended.  :)

    But older generations always resist new technology.  It's the whole idea that they didn't have it back then so why is it necessary?  You just have to put your foot down on the things you feel are true safety issues and maybe not stress too much about the little stuff.  Oh, and putting the kid on a step stool was probably not the sturdiest.  lol.

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  • chazlewochazlewo member
    nope... my parents and ILs each have a high chair or booster, and until recently a p&p or crib at their homes... did your mil not use a crib or high chair with her kids?  i've never heard of such a strange thing... i could understand if she didn't want to buy them, but not to want to USE them?? crazy.
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  • rhabelrhabel

    What the F? a step stool and a belt from a raincoat? That's totally whack-a-doodle!  Did your BIL say anything? Why wouldn't she use the pack and play? Seems like that makes things lots easier.

    I've had a similar experience with my IL.  They still use methiolade (mercurochrome/antiseptic from decades ago that has since been pulled from the market).  DH and I joke because they have a 30 year old bottle they still use.  We told them they won't be using that on our kids b/c it's not recognized as safe anymore by the FDA.  FIL asked what you use now, and I told him neosporin.  MIL said, "Well we'll just use methiolade and tell them not to tell mommy and daddy".  And my response was, "And you will never see your grandchild again.".   DH and I have already said we'll start telling LO from the get-go not to let Nanny and Poppy put any red stuff on cuts or scrapes, that there's neosporin in their bag. 

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  • newlywed26newlywed26
    Oh yeah at my parents' house.  I really don't care though.  I'm fine.  My brother is fine.  Who cares?  I'm talking about the chair thing.  What would she rather put him in to sleep?
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  • rissa06rissa06 member
    no not really.  my parents and DH's parents realize that times have changed. . i will say that we did have to get inventive when we went to visit my grandmother in the carribean .  because there isn't a crib, pnp, or high chair and we couldn't bring all of that stuff . . cost to much to fly with all of that. . 
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  • Raffes484Raffes484
    I could see doing the step stool/belt thing if there was no other option, but my parents and IL and my grandparents all have a high chair at their homes for the babies. I've started bringing a booster with us though incase there is more than one baby expected at a family gathering.
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  • funnibabyfunnibaby member

    In general ILs attitude is that it is a waste of money to buy anything for a baby.  BIL & his wife got attitude when they were going to buy a crib when she was expecting!!! 

    So BIL and his wife did say something.  They said that they would buy a booster seat for her house and MIL flipped out telling BIL she wouldn't babysit anymore if he brough any baby stuff to her house!  He told her fine his MIL has all the gear and is closer anyway.

    Why she won't use the pnp, I have no idea.  She put DH's niece on the floor on top of a pillow.

    My parents have all this stuff (high chair, pnp, car seats etc..) since they already have 7 grandchildren and have no problem using it.  I just never thought ILs would refuse to use it if we bought it and brought it to their house to use.

    Heather

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