2nd Trimester

Get this....(long-ish)

Sometimes I hate family.

My cousin is pregnant and due 4 weeks before me.  Not that it matters for the story, but she is 20 and the family is being harsh so I have really tried to be friendly and express interest in her pregnancy to be nice.  I would hate to not be supportive.  Anyways, I SWORE we were having a boy and she is having a girl so I wasn't concerned about names being an issue.  A few weeks after she found out she was having a girl I asked if she had any name ideas, just for fun.  She said we probably won't name her until she is born, but we like the MN Mae.  I assumed that was her nice way of not discussing it so I left it alone.

At Christmas my cuz was not there, but her mom was.  We found out on the 23rd we are having a girl also so of course everyone was asking about names.  We got on the subject of the name Emma and how everyone loves it (but it is not on the list for us).  My aunt says, "you need to check with Katie because she likes that name too".  Um...what???  I need to check with her?  It's a 2-way street here but whatever.  The name Emma isn't something we want anyways so I don't care.

The conversation continued and the same aunt commented on how she does not like one of the E names her daughter picked out so she is just going to call her Emma anyways.  Rude.  Then she tells me, you can name your daughter _____ if you want, and I will just call her by the name I like.  The name she likes isn't even a nickname for the name we were discussing, it is a totally different name.

I know I can't control what other people call our daughter, but how rude right!

Re: Get this....(long-ish)

  • Totally rude! This is exactly why we're not sharing our name ideas and probably won't even share the chosen name until the baby is born.
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  • Not cool!  My aunt has been driving me nutts, to the point where I've decided we're not telling her the name.  She's been sending me text messages and e-mails with names.  Originally I told her my #1 name and her response was 'you can't call her that!'  Ummm, I think I'll name her what I like, thanks!

    People are weird!

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  • I LOVE it! It's your baby but you need to check with your cousin about what to name her, and your aunt gets to pick the name she calls it. What is up with that?? 100% rude.
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  • imagelaurasue:
    Totally rude! This is exactly why we're not sharing our name ideas and probably won't even share the chosen name until the baby is born.

    This is our new plan too. 

  • imagelaurasue:
    Totally rude! This is exactly why we're not sharing our name ideas and probably won't even share the chosen name until the baby is born.

    This is EXACTLY what we are doing!!  No one knows the name until baby is here!



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  • Its amazing how rude our own family can be. It sounds like you handled the situation very tactfully and beside Easter you most likely won't have to see much family until D day. Good Luck!
  • Start calling your Aunt by a different name, when she asks you why, say "I don't like your name, so I'm going to call you _____"

     

    Sometimes it pays to be passive agressive.

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  • imageMotherBucker:

    Start calling your Aunt by a different name, when she asks you why, say "I don't like your name, so I'm going to call you _____"

     

    Sometimes it pays to be passive agressive.

    I told DH I want to do this!  LOL

  • Sorry but your aunt sounds batty. First off, I don't care who has a baby first you name your baby whatever you want and don't have to check with anyone. Secondly, ohhhhh she will NOT call LO any name she wants. That is not acceptable. It's one thing to come up with a sweet nickname. It's another to ignore the child's name and basically name that child something else because you don't like the name. I just might be a lil nasty and start calling Auntie something really random. She how she likes it. (I think I need to eat something, i'm feeling fiesty)
  • Wow that is totally rude.

    My DD is Katherine Belle.  We and everyone else call her Belle.  (Now that is is 3 I have taken to calling her Kat too though)

    Anyway my father insisted on calling her Katie Belle.  No matter what I did that is what he calls her.  It drives DH and I crazy but what can we do right?

    Well my father wants allthe grandkids to call him grandpa.  Well my little girl just won't she calls him Pa Paw.  i don't know where she gets that from but that is what she calls him.  He hates it and constatnly corrects her.  She laughs and says yes pa paw.  Over Christmas my dad wanted her attentioned and called her Belle she said yes grandpa (we were all floored) my dad was like oh katie Belle you called me grandpa, and of course right on cue Belle said yep pa paw.  We all laughed so hard we cried lol.

    So yes you can't stop people from calling your kid soemthing you don't like but Karma happens lol

  • imagegmugrad9:

    Wow that is totally rude.

    My DD is Katherine Belle.  We and everyone else call her Belle.  (Now that is is 3 I have taken to calling her Kat too though)

    Anyway my father insisted on calling her Katie Belle.  No matter what I did that is what he calls her.  It drives DH and I crazy but what can we do right?

    Well my father wants allthe grandkids to call him grandpa.  Well my little girl just won't she calls him Pa Paw.  i don't know where she gets that from but that is what she calls him.  He hates it and constatnly corrects her.  She laughs and says yes pa paw.  Over Christmas my dad wanted her attentioned and called her Belle she said yes grandpa (we were all floored) my dad was like oh katie Belle you called me grandpa, and of course right on cue Belle said yep pa paw.  We all laughed so hard we cried lol.

    So yes you can't stop people from calling your kid soemthing you don't like but Karma happens lol

    That is the best story ever!

  • imagegmugrad9:

    Wow that is totally rude.

    My DD is Katherine Belle.  We and everyone else call her Belle.  (Now that is is 3 I have taken to calling her Kat too though)

    Anyway my father insisted on calling her Katie Belle.  No matter what I did that is what he calls her.  It drives DH and I crazy but what can we do right?

    Well my father wants allthe grandkids to call him grandpa.  Well my little girl just won't she calls him Pa Paw.  i don't know where she gets that from but that is what she calls him.  He hates it and constatnly corrects her.  She laughs and says yes pa paw.  Over Christmas my dad wanted her attentioned and called her Belle she said yes grandpa (we were all floored) my dad was like oh katie Belle you called me grandpa, and of course right on cue Belle said yep pa paw.  We all laughed so hard we cried lol.

    So yes you can't stop people from calling your kid soemthing you don't like but Karma happens lol

    Best.Story.Ever!

  • It's rude for anyone to express their dislike or suggestions for what you name your child.  If you want to name you child Lemonjello, it's your child and no one else's business.  Sorry you had to go through this.  People can get really overbearing.
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  • imageMotherBucker:

    Start calling your Aunt by a different name, when she asks you why, say "I don't like your name, so I'm going to call you _____"

     

    Sometimes it pays to be passive agressive.

    Totally agree!

  • We're expecting the same crap from our extended families, as well (even though we aren't announcing the name until birth). For those who refuse to call my son by his name (with the exception of nicknames that actually apply to his given name), they simply won't be allowed around him. If they still keep referring to him by another name, I might try pp's suggestion and start calling them by some random name, hehe.
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