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TTC After a Loss
BFF's DH is a jerkface
BFF married this guy that none of us liked. He's really controlling (I'm talking he has her step on the scale every morning and chart her weight on an excel chart, gives her an "allowance" even though she works too, etc.) and he won't talk to anyone in our group of friends, even the other husbands.
Well, BFF and I hadn't seen each other in a while so we met halfway between our two towns in our college town. She used to be nice, I swear, I lived with the girl for two years in college and we've been friends for like 7. First she was sort of a jerk about the whole babies thing, saying that she would "die" if she got pregnant right now and how this is just "god's plan" (BARF). I then talked about adoption as an option, but that we wanted to try all our options first.
THEN, I was talking later about my depression, and my family's history of mental illness and how that made it rough and her response was, "well maybe you should look into adoption" WHHHHAAAAT?????
He's turned her into a vicious trollop. She basically just gave me lectures about how Jesus hates me now because I don't go to church as often because it hurts and that the depression and ectopic are my punishment. She NEVER EVER would say things like that before.
I'm going to go curl up with my awful genetic makeup and cry.
oh please. not KU. effed up.
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Re: BFF's DH is a jerkface
What. A. Fugging. Whore.
Get rid of her. She is completely toxic. What a horrible, evil person. Right, I'm sure Jesus doles out dead babies as punishment. WTF is wrong with people?!?!
I am so sorry. Just know you are not getting punished for anything. I HATE it when people say, "it was God's plan" because even if that IS the case, don't you think i've heard that a million times by now and that I just MIGHT be annoyed by it?!
*hugs*
Missing our sweet Angeline. BFP #1: 7.12.09 / EDD: 3.15.10 / Missed Miscarriage: 8.14.10
BFP #2: 3.16.10 / EDD: 11.28.12 / Collin Rex born 12.1.10
TTC#2: May 2012
BFP #3: 7.5.12 / CP 7.12.12
BFP #4: 1.28.12 / EDD: 10.11.13
betas: 10dpo: 91 / 14dpo: 493 / first u/s: 3.4.13
Wow. I'm glad you don't see her often. I'm sorry she was so hurtful though.
*big hug
Am I allowed to drown my bad trip sorrows in ice cream?? Please say yes......
First - and pay attention here cause this is very important - yes, you are throughly justified in drowning your sorrows in ice cream provided it's not some splenda, fat-free crap... only full-on indulgent ice cream for you missy.
Second - I totally understand not wanting to go to church. I consider myself not just a very spiritual person but also a strongly religious person... And I didn't go to church for about two months after my 1 mc and didn't go last week when mc was found.
Third - I know you love her and I understand the strength history brings to a friendship. But I do think you need to distance yourself from her AT LEAST until you're in a better place.
Take care of you.
Do you even have to ask??? Ice cream fixes everything.
THIS!
I second this. You don't need someone like this in your life.
BGP is smart. Listen to her.
Jenn
IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN
Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10
BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11
Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11
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THIS!
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. She doesn't sound like a very good friend. Unfortunately people sometimes change for the worst........rid your life of her.