Baby Showers
Awkward suggestion for shower
MIL and SIL are throwing me a shower, and we were going over the basics of it last night. In general, it sounds good, and I have no big issues with what they are planning.
However, my SIL asked me last night if we had a piggy bank for LO already. They are planning on getting one and putting it out so that people at the shower can put change in it.
I'm really not so sure about this one. I just don't feel like I can ask people to come to the shower and then, surprise, give me your change too!!
Maybe I can just hide it once I get there!
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Re: Awkward suggestion for shower
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Exactly!
I have never seen it at any shower I have been to - and the way they were talking about it - it wasn't going to be part of a game, just there.
I just know what they are like, and someone's going to end up with hurt feelings.
I would try this suggestion, too.
Piggy banks were passed around at one of my showers and DH and I were very uncomforable with it. Had we known the hostesses were planning to do this, we would have asked them not to.
This
I agree.
Me too!
I agree that it probably shouldn't be out at the shower, and I think that ame idea is going to make a lot of people really uncomfortable... not only are you unexpectedly hitting them up for money, you're also asking them to guess how generous (or ungenerous) the group is?! Yikes.
I don't typically carry around any change, so if I showed up at a shower like that I would totally WANT to donate change to the baby, but I wouldn't have any and would be a little upset that the hostesses didn't warn me that the piggy bank would be there. I think it's safer to either not use the piggy bank, or if you are, you should let guests know about it in the invitations and clarify that it's optional.
At my SIL's shower there was a piggy bank passed around. The hostess' provided the quarters, and when the bank got to each person, they made a wish (out loud) for the baby and/or mom then put some change into the bank. It was fun and some of the wishes, especially grandparents/great-grandparents were very touching and sweet to hear. Just an idea that would still allow you to use the bank if you chose too.
I think if they want to give you a piggy bank with a little money inside for LO then fine, but to request guests to add to the bank is a little off-putting. It would make me very uncomfortable if I were in attendance and think that it was over-reaching. I mean, if I arrived at a shower, I would have spent whatever money I had intended to on the gift in hand and would not expect to dole out more $ to add to a piggy bank.
If it were my shower, I think I'd just say thanks but no thanks.
This. I think it's okay to have it out with little slips of paper for guests to write best wishes for the baby, advice, etc, on and put in there. And then, if guests DO feel generous/inclined they'll put a few coins in as a "surprise" to you.