Did u become a SAHM after your multiples were born?

SLM05 · December 2009

I was wondering how many of you became a sahm after the birth of your multiples. We already have a almost 3 year old and after the triplets it will not be worth it for me to work compared to the cost of putting all 4 in daycare. I am super excited to stay home but as it gets closer i am worried about money, all the medical bills from the birth and if i have to do hospital bed rest. (i live almodst an hour from the hospital) We have been living off DH salery for a few months nad it is tight. I am also trying to figure out we will pay for a larger vechile, any tips, aideas or just what you did would be greatly appriciated. Thanks!

robinsokj · December 2009

I will be. I was just thinking about it last night actually. I think I'm going to try to find some hours at a gym with free daycare ( I am a massage therapist) after Im back to normal. Then, I might try to find more of a job after they start school and the daycare wont be as much of an issue. It just doesnt financially make sense for us at this point for me to work as it wouldnt cover child care (probably)

MrsARC1105 · December 2009

I did. I worked at a non profit so when we crunched the numbers(my salary, benefits, my hour commute) plus my weird hours, DC just didnt make any sense.

I now have my own p/t business which is bringing in some extra income.

laceymb · December 2009

I was a SAHM getting ready to start my job as an attorney when I found out I was pg with twins. I decided to stay at home with all of them for the same reasons you mention. We traded in our car on a used minivan that we got an awesome deal on. We cut costs by planning out our meals carefully and eating out less, like hardly ever. I found I can make my favorite restaurant meals for a fraction of the cost. Cut coupons and tell friends and family to cut them for you if they see some they know you will use. I hardly ever buy diapers without a coupon. Try generic brands, many times they are just as good and are consistenly cheaper than name brands.

If you have medical insurance you should be able to easily find out what your OOP max is and plan on spending that amount. Start saving money now and cutting out everything that you can. When I ended up on bedrest in the hospital unexpectedly I was really lucky in that family, friends, and good neighbors helped out. When somebody asks you how they can help, give them a way. Having people bring over frozen meals or babysitting your toddler for an hour, or even grocery shopping for you are easy ways that others can help and make a huge impact. Don't be afraid to use all your resources and take advantage of those offers to help.

Look into free entertainment in your area. Libraries, parks, and community attractions often have free events or majorly discounted events for families if you just know how to find the information.

outofcntrl82 · December 2009

I will be but after 3 months, will start to work from home part-time.

kristyn&ken · December 2009

I'm planning to SAH once the twins arrive. My biggest concern is not losing the second income but losing my mind! I like working but after daycare for 3 (I have a 2 yo DD) I won't be making much money. I'm trying to think of the positives - like that this gives me the next 2 years before DD starts school to be home with her. Plus it's temporary - when DD starts school I will have the option to work again if I choose to.

sawyer918 · December 2009

I plan on being a SAHM as well. I am a bit worried about the money issue, but I plan on getting a p/t job 6 months to a year after they are born just to socialize and get out of the house. We have already cut back on going out to eat, and plan on clipping coupons to make things work. It's going to be tight but like most others said, it just doesn't make sense to do daycare.

daisybride78 · December 2009

I plan on being a sahm after the boys arrive (tomorrow!!). DH and I have been planning this for awhile, so we have been banking my entire salary for a little over a year and I still have 16 weeks of paid maternity leave as well. I know we're going to have to make sacrifices and change our lifestyles, but it feels good to know that we have a decent emergency fund should we need it.

Also, I used to teach, so I might look into tutoring in the evenings a few times a week after the boys are a little older.

ancjph · December 2009

I stay at home now. I taught preschool before the triplets came along and I was so not worth it for me money wise to go back. We have cut back on many things to make it work. Dh tries to pick up overtime when ever he can too.

Temp159135562506975 · December 2009

I went part time after my maternity leave with the twins. I'm in sales- and either way (full time or part time) my base salary was going to go towards daycare costs --- the only income for me would be bonus and my benefits... so we figured i might as well get more time with the kids and be part time (since an opportunity opened up for me to go PT right before i went on leave - i was VERY fortunate b/c it's hard to come by).

money is TIGHT now- but we're making it (so far, lol). I LOVE being part time- it's the best of both worlds to me- I keep my career and have time with the boys... and they get time with other people- which I like them to have- so they aren't totally mama's boys.

TripMomma · December 2009

I did become a SAHM after the trio were born...I have LOVED every second of it! Money is tight, but thankfully we are doing OK. We tightened our belts on cable and cell phone packages, scaled back to the basics. We bought a mini van that we make a payment on and DH drives a junker to and from work that is paid off. We try to do bulk shopping at Costco, and when they were on baby food we made most of it ourselves. We do not do a lot of eating out or movies or things like that....but with 3 babies I don't want to much anyway

atc282 · December 2009

Yes, I'm a SAHM now. I was a teacher but didn't go back this school year (mailny b/c I was living abroad until late summer anyway). So, I've been scaling back spending-wise since then and we're budgeting as best we can now. I am 3 classes shy of finishing up another degree--hopefully this summer (DH's work has a daycare; I plan to put the girls in their 2 evenings/wk). After that, TBD if I'll go back to teach for next school year.

meldoo2002 · December 2009

I was going to go back to work full time, but once the boys were born premature the doctors recommended no daycare for 1 year due to lung issues, germs, etc. I now work part time. I do about 20 hours/week usually 8-1 four mornings and my MIL or DH has them while I work. It was not possible for me to stay home full time because of our mortgage and medical bills, but overall I enjoy working some of the time. I think that 4 in daycare would probably be crazy expensive! Good luck in your decision!

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