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  • CharmCitySmithCharmCitySmith

    For those of you that have taken the final step and gotten divorced...how did you do it? I know that's a bit of a crazy question but, I feel like while I'm pretty sure we're getting a divorce, I can't bring myself to go to the lawyer and start the process yet...there's something mentally holding me back.

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  • fauxshelleyfauxshelley member

    Maybe you're not ready. Don't rush yourself.  It is a sad thing to make yourself do (go see a lawyer).  Its the death of a dream, the man you were supposed to spend your life with and build a family with.  Just take your time, you will know when you are ready.  If he is in a hurry, he can initiate it.  Good Luck!

    ETA - BTW, who lurks here for drama?  Seriously people.

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  • peanutonthewaypeanutontheway member

    You forgot to add "divorced but I'm sleazy and XH isn't the baby daddy".

    Cuz that's how I rollz.

    ::eye roll::

    But seriously.  Embarrassed

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  • nbjenninbjenni
    imagepeanutontheway:

    You forgot to add "divorced but I'm sleazy and XH isn't the baby daddy".

    Cuz that's how I rollz.

    ::eye roll::

    But seriously.  Embarrassed

    Bwahaha. Love it.

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  • achase123achase123
    imageCharmCitySmith:

    For those of you that have taken the final step and gotten divorced...how did you do it? I know that's a bit of a crazy question but, I feel like while I'm pretty sure we're getting a divorce, I can't bring myself to go to the lawyer and start the process yet...there's something mentally holding me back.

    I agree-maybe you aren't ready yet.  I just had a feeling one day that I was ready.  Had kicked DH out at the beginning of the month and knew that I wouldn't make an effort to work on things.  So I just decided to do it.  And I felt GREAT after I did it.  Not sad at all.  In fact, I had my baby shower that day and in all the pics I look positively ELATED.  So obviously it was the right decision.

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  • achase123achase123
    imagefauxshelley:

    Maybe you're not ready. Don't rush yourself.  It is a sad thing to make yourself do (go see a lawyer).  Its the death of a dream, the man you were supposed to spend your life with and build a family with.  Just take your time, you will know when you are ready.  If he is in a hurry, he can initiate it.  Good Luck!

    ETA - BTW, who lurks here for drama?  Seriously people.

    People must think we're all a bunch of baby mama drama queens-lol!  Maybe they secretly aren't happy in their marriage but are afraid to come onto the single mom's board so they just lurk!  Watch out-you might catch the single mom bug-it's contagious!

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  • babygirl809babygirl809

    I lurk all over the place. I think that I have just been trying to find a place that wasn't crazy and drama-rific.

    I read a lot, I don't always post because I have a 14 month old on my lap half the time.

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  • ErinC27ErinC27
    I am surprised the lurkers even responded!
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  • nire99nire99 member
    I'm in the "been trying to get a divorce for over a year" category.  It's been an obnoxiously long and drawn out process and I can say with 100% certainty I will never get married again.
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  • nire99nire99 member
    imagelilcyndiluwho:

    And for those lurking for the drama... Confused  50% people. 50%.  No one thinks they'll end up divorced on their wedding day.  But half of us do. Who wants to place firm bets on which half WON'T need to be here evntually too and what the unexpected reason will be?

     

    I think I love you!  I was totally thinking the same exact thing about another board today.  I was definitely one of those arrogant people who thought it would never happen to me.  Famous last words...

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  • TxMama2010TxMama2010
    I'm in the never been married category. I was engaged for 2 years at one point. However, that is a tale of douchebaggery for another day when I'm a little more bitter and a little less tired.
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  • inbetweeninbetween
    imagelilcyndiluwho:

    And for those lurking for the drama... Confused  50% people. 50%.  No one thinks they'll end up divorced on their wedding day.  But half of us do. Who wants to place firm bets on which half WON'T need to be here evntually too and what the unexpected reason will be?

     

    As pathetic as it sounds, I have said several times "this wasn't supposed to happen to us". It's a bad nightmare I can't wake up from. On the one hand I have accepted it, and on the other I pray, wish, hope that he will come home every.single.day.

    Never on my wedding day, did I think 'In 3 years I will be a 22 yo married, divorced, single mom of 1'. That status still scares the crap out of me, and it's been 3 weeks.

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