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How involved is your DH?
I get looks of awe when I talk to friends about what dh does... For me, its normal and don't know how I would feel if he did any less. We are in a modern society, as dh puts it, and fathers should be equal to mothers.
I get up with dd - dh always puts her to bed. He is going back to school, taking online classes at night, but always breaks for that. He loves giving her a bath (though we both usually wind up in there). I stay home, so I take care of daytime dishes and dinner prep on weekdays, but he does dinner dishes - especially when I cook. He cooks on the weekends. DD is a daddy's girl, so whenever he is around a lot of his attention is devoted to her. He helps with laundry on the weekends, too.
He has an office job and knows that I have a physically more demanding day so he has no problem chipping in when he is home. We both relax in the evening together. He likes going out, so we do most shopping together - I rarely go to the store alone.
Of course, if he gets the smallest sniffle then this all changes. He is worse than my 2 year old when he is sick!
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Re: How involved is your DH?
As he said to me last night, he is 'here to do whatever I want him to do'.
He bathes both kids and puts them down while I do the dishes because, Lord knows, I need the peace and quiet.
He gets up on the weekends with them, takes them away, has fun, does errands, cooks most of the meals, etc. He's full on Daddy mode when he's home.
And he's working 60 hours and taking Master's classes. He's tired.
Me with my littlest.
When DD was born he was able to move his days off, so he had 2 days home with her during the week, I had weekends, and we shared nights (ok I mostly had nights b/c I BFed). So he did baths, groceries, puke, feedings, dr's appointments, whatever had to be done.
With DS his schedule was different, but he'd get up with him, change him, etc, and hand him over so I could feed him at night. We trade off now if one gets up, he does baths most nights, he cooks dinner, I clean it up, etc.
During the day when I'm home with the kids I'm naturally the one that does most of the kid-related stuff. However, when he's home in the evenings/weekends I'd say he does more than me. I kind of sit back a little and let him do his own thing with the kids- I'm ready for the break and they're ready for Daddy time.
Overall, I would say that he is exceptionally involved. I work evenings/nights/weekends so he's on his own with them during that time. When dd was an infant that meant doing 100% of the nightime feedings, wakings, diaper changes, etc.
Dh is also the one that puts the kids to bed each night. After dinner he does probably 90% of the work involved in getting them changed into pajamas, teeth brushed, stories read, tucked in, etc.
Ds is very much an only mamma's boy, so I do a lot of "kid" stuff, but oddly enough, he allows dh to give him his bath. DH will play with him up there for a 1/2 an hour in the bathtub. He also goes sledding with him (when there is snow) and just today took him to the library for a couple of hours (read books, played with trains, played on the computer, etc.). When ds allows him to play with him, then dh is all for it.
I do almost all of the cooking. DH is not a cook, but tries sometimes. He also does all the floor washing, grass cutting, snow shoveling, organizing of garage, etc.
Honestly? MH is the single most hands on father I have ever seen in my entire life. He is amazing. He never ever complains, and is happy to do anything and everything that he can.
I won the husband/daddy lottery--- big time.
Liam is 5!
Me too! DH does everything and will pitch in whenever. He is an amazing dad.