If you SAH, what are your duties?

winery · December 2009

Beyond taking care of your children?

Because mine is, as it's coming to light, all duties relating to the house, the household finances, cooking and cleaning (but not grocery shopping) and buying clothes, making sure they're cleaned (dry cleaning or laundered), as well as all things relating to the kids.

DH does all the stuff I don't want to do or cannot do, like cut grass, take out trash, change air filters, etc.

pincushions · December 2009

everything but the lawn, garbage, finances.

amiamish · December 2009

Mine will be: cleaning, laundry, shopping, meals, bill paying....and probably trash sometimes too (i think that's it.)

DH will still have to do the yard work and household fix ups.

emilykristene2006 · December 2009

I do everything you do. Including grocery shopping. How come you don't?

DH does everything your DH does.

They are really not duties, just how it ended up. I'm home so I might as well take care of what I do. When DH gets home, all his attention goes to the kids. I get a huge break!

~Kat~ · December 2009

Pretty much everything relating to maintaining the house, finances, and food.

DH handles the cars and yard. He pitches in with cooking about 25% of the time, but I have already purchased the ingredients and told him what to make.

Mickschick · December 2009

I don't think I have any real "duties".

DH refuses to bathe the children. He says it makes him tired so I always do that. If I'm sick or something than he will do it. I take out the trash in the house, but usually leave it on the front porch until he gets home and he brings it in the garage. We both do the laundry. He will wash the kids- I have to fold it and put it away. He was wash and fold ours but I have to put my own away. He does our finances. I do the grocery shopping and the cooking. I think we do equal cleaning.

samanthony · December 2009

pincushions:
everything but the lawn, garbage, finances.

This.

aknjcp · December 2009

Laundry (except on weekends), breakfast and lunch dishes (hubby does dinner dishes), straightening, dusting, vacuuming, and finances. Errands are done when I can, but hubby likes to go out as well, so we often do shopping together.

winery · December 2009

Okay, so it sounds like we all do the same amount of stuff.

EK, DH does the grocery shopping. I mealplan, make the list and he goes and buys it.

DevonPow · December 2009

We always say that I am the COO of the house, and DH is the CFO - he is in charge of all finances (and making the money), and I am in charge of house operations. So, basically I do all the cleaning and errands, everything relating to DS (setting up appointments, buying his things, doing all the preschool searches this year, etc etc etc) or I am in charge of delegatig specifically to DH any of those particular things he needs to do. I even make DH's appointments for him. I feel like he should pay me as his personal assistant.

DH also does all car related things (I don't drive so we only have one car, though) and mows the lawn because I hate it He also cooks dinner on the weekends (he isn't home to do it on weekdays)

It works well for us - DH works very long hours so if I didn't do everything it wouldn't get done.

CleoKitty · December 2009

I do most of the grocery shopping, meal prep/cooking, running the kids and my MIL to their various appointments, take the animals to the vet, etc.

I wash and dry all of the laundry myself, but dh helps me fold and put most of it away. He pays all of the bills and financial stuff (I used to do it but recently gave that chore back to him). I clean a little bit during the day, but for the most part I'd say that the household stuff is split pretty close to 50/50. I wash dishes, he puts them away. He sweeps the floors, I mop.

That being said, I am a WOHM. However, I have untraditional hours and I'm home with the kids all day during the week so I really do the SAHM thing too.

cranburycakes · December 2009

EVERYTHING that has to do with the house, kids, running our lives.

This includes taking care of kids, cleaning, grocery shopping, cooking, making sure bills are paid, birthday/holiday gifts for friends and family, planning our social life, social events planned. My husband is a pm at an investment fund so he works a lot and takes care of "high" finance stuff like our investments, taxes, etc. When he is home, though, he is an equal part of taking care of the kids, giving them baths, etc. He will do any other chore that I ask of him, but he won't remember things like taking the trash out on Tuesday morning, unless I ask him.

I do have the house cleaned once a week b/c there is no way I would be able to keep up with it while taking care of two little boys and two dogs. I do the daily cleaning, vacuuming, dishes, laundry, etc.

I have a law degree from an Ivy League law school and I do sometimes resent that he gets to have a fabulous career while I change diapers all day but it's the choice I made (for now) and he would support me if I decided to get a job. It's hard, though, this stay-at-home-mom business - on many levels.

SumnerBride · December 2009

I do everything inside. DH takes care of the outside (garage, lawn, cars). We sorta split the finances part. Since I'm the main caretaker for the kids, I make him take care of the dogs.

Yodajo · December 2009

pincushions:

everything but the lawn, garbage, finances.

ditto, except my DH does monthly finances and I do investments/taxes

emilykristene2006 · December 2009

winery:
Okay, so it sounds like we all do the same amount of stuff.

EK, DH does the grocery shopping. I mealplan, make the list and he goes and buys it.

You're so lucky!

BTW, we finally bathe the kids together. Finally.

darlene'smommy · December 2009

I do anything in the house, cooking cleaning paying bills and foos shopping. I feed all the animals in the morning. At night who ever gets to the dog bowls feeds them and same on the weekend.

He does anything outside. lawn, blowing the leafs to the gutter for pick up, dog yard. I check the levels on the pool and he puts what I tell him it needs.

He also gets up with dd on the weekends and does her breakfast so I can sleep a little longer. Weekdays he is gone by 4 am so dd is not up yet.

AnnapolisLari · December 2009

Everything but the actual going to a job site every day, taking out most of the trash, and the lawn.

breezee_bean · December 2009

pretty much everything. Except my DH does the finances, banking, trash, lawn mowing (I usually shovel the walks when it snows during the day. Mostly, because the kids like to play in the snow, so I just do it while they are playing. DH does the walks after he comes home in the evening.)

The weekends we usually both take care of the kids equally. But I usually use the weekends to catch up on laundry, organizing etc. while my DH plays with the kids.

cokt · December 2009

I take care of DS during the day (obviously), run errands, meal plan, have lunch ready when MH comes home in the middle of the day, cook dinner (although he helps me a lot of the time), clean, and do some laundry. He does bills, most outside stuff, and helps me with laundry and cooking. He also does a lot with DS at nights and on the weekends. He doesn't work many hours though-maybe 30ish a week.

Zenya · December 2009

I think as a SAHM I should be responsible for all the cleaning, overnights with the kids, shopping, cooking.

In reality though DH helps me b/c sometimes it's just a lot of work and sometimes I am lazy . I feel bad about the latter and have worked really hard to counter it.

Basically if he gets 45 minutes 'break' at work I think that's how much I should get too. But I get way more. So that's why I've been working to get off myass more.

karen6784 · December 2009

I take care of everything except lawn mowing (someone cuts it for us) and occasional garage organizing. In addition, I also run an Ebay webstore and I am working on my own ecommerce website.

praline · December 2009

Plan and cook meals, grocery shop, clean (but we also have someone come in and DH cleans too), laundry for myself and the girls.

I don't know...it's fun!

Bellisimo · December 2009

Everything except scoop poop and heavy lifting.

eclaires · December 2009

I think I'm lazy...

My only responsibility is taking care of Jackson and picking up after us during the day. MH does the finances and works, and then the rest of the stuff is split between the two of us as needed.

Granted, I do do a lot during the day like the grocery shopping, appointments, cleaning, laundry, etc., but it's not my job - I just do it because it's easier for me to get it done then instead of when he gets home. If I didn't do it, MH wouldn't think I was slacking and doesn't expect me to do it.

So the only thing I consider my responsibility is Jackson's care and picking up throughout the day.

goodheartedmommy · December 2009

DH cuts the grass (but I CAN do it). I do the rest of the yard generally, though he does things like leaf-blowing/raking. I take out the trash 99% of the time (taking it to the bins and then to the curb). This is because he works nights, and it's not supposed to be out before 7pm. I handle all of the finances and paying bills. I do most of the shopping, but he can do it (he just calls a million times to ask questions). He cooks occasionally, but is generally not up while I'm making breakfast lunch, and is gone for supper. He does help with the cleaning, but due to his work schedule, I do the majority of it. He's more than happy to do it when he comes home for work (well after I'm in bed), but I can't stand to go to bed with a messy house or dishes in the sink. I don't mind most of the time--he works hard so we can have a nice life and a good future...but at times it gets to me that the majority of work involving our home and family is on me.

muchlove · December 2009

It sounds like we are pretty much on par with most of the OP's. I do pretty much everything but finances and the moving of heavy objects. DH does pitch in with other things, as needed.

As much as I try not to "keep score" will tell you in the 8 years we've been togtether I am fairly positive he has never EVER cleaned a bathroom. But if I asked him to do it, he probably would. Just not to my satisfaction

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