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what was your holiday schedule?

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DS was with me Christmas day til 6, then spent the weekend with ex. New Year's Eve/Day is always spent with me, as is the rest of Xmas vacation.
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  • cearleyjaycearleyjay
    my DDs' dad came into town for xmas, so he had her eve/day.  they invited me over for for presant opening.  they wanted me to stay, but im starting to show and dont want to tell them yet, so i left after opening presants and pretty much cried the rest of the day. 
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  • mom2onemom2one member
    Holidays are so tough for those of us who have to share our kids on them. It's awful. I have only had one Christmas morning without DS and we split the day at 2 pm that day...going the whole day would be torture. :-(
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  • vxs0038vxs0038 member

    SS decided he didn't want to go see his mom this Christmas.

    Needless to say she was p!ssed and blamed us.

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  • lwilkinsonlwilkinson
    SS and SD on odd years have XMas with BM and DH gets them Dec 26th at 11am until New Year's Day at 6pm. On even years we get them from the day they are released for Christmas break until Dec 26th at 11am.
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  • cabbage5215cabbage5215 member

    Our CO only has it set up for school age so it say that in odd years BD has DD the first half of the break until the 23rd and I have her the second half to include both holidays.  next year vice versa.  I really don't like this but it was what he really wanted and it wasn't worth going to court over since we agreed on everything else.  The way it actually worked out this year is BD had DD Saturday (Dec 19th) and he will have her the long New Years weekend(Jan 1st-3rd).  That is the way that he wants it for this year. 

    Edited to make sense.

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  • cabbage5215cabbage5215 member

    imagelwilkinson:
    SS and SD on odd years have XMas with BM and DH gets them Dec 26th at 11am until New Year's Day at 6pm. On even years we get them from the day they are released for Christmas break until Dec 26th at 11am.

    This is what I wanted but for some reason BD was adamant against it. 

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  • Ginlyn0Ginlyn0 member

    We had DD from when school got out until Dec. 26th at noon and now she's at her BF's until Sun. Jan 3rd @ 6pm. We picked up skids early on Dec 26th at 11am. We aren't supposed to get them until noon but we picked them up early so they could see DD before she left for her dad's. We have the skids until Sun Jan. 3rd @ 5pm when we are dropping them off at BM's an hour early (since we picked them up an hour early) before heading to get DD back from her dad's.

    We have already worked out the details with skids' BM for next year to prevent the kids from not being together on the holidays. Next year was supposed to be our Christmas with skids while DD was at her dad's, but we are trading her holidays so DD & skids can be together so we are giving up our Christmas day with the skids for the greater cause.  So next year we will have only our LO on Christmas day and then we will have DD & skids & LO on the 26th. The following year we will have all the kids on Christmas day. 

    We basically have had to do the Christmas running around between our house, my parents and my IL's house for 2 days in a row every year. We jokingly call it the 2 Days of Christmas.

     

    DD(14),SD(13),SS(11),SS(9),DS(3)

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  • LorelaiOctoberBrideLorelaiOctoberBride

    Right now, since they live close and this is the last year for Santa... (we believe)...

    She had them for Christmas eve, Day... we picked them up Saturday-Sunday...(we got back late Fri eve otherwise would have picked them up). We did see them at church Christmas eve and went over to see their gifts and brunch on Christmas Day. .. Plans are for her to have them over NYE-as that's her wkend, but is subject to change...

    We'll take them whenever we can!

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  • ScissorTailedFlycatcherScissorTailedFlycatcher member

    Our vacation time guideline is worded so goofy. We always alternate Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, so each parent has the opportuntiy to wake up with them on Christmas morning. We took them from 11 to 8 on Christmas Eve this year. For the rest of their two week break, we basically divide it in half. We have them now through this morning through next Sunday night.

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  • KyahKyah member

    DH and BM do not have the holidays laid out in the CO so it changes every year....

    This year what they agreed on was BM would have SS on Christmas Eve  and drop him off with us at 9am on Christmas morning. We have SS every weekend and Fridays is our normal day. We took SS back to BM's early on Sunday so they could go see a movie together.

    New years SS is always with us. BM likes to go out and DH and I are more homebodies. 

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  • mommanursemommanurse
    My kids haven't seen their dad in 3 years so that's not an issue.  DH had his kids wake up with him on Christmas morning for the first time in 6 years!!  It was awesome!  We got SS and SD after school got out for break and BM got them back 12/26 at 10am.  It was perfect!  Next year she gets them for Christmas and we get them the day after until they go back to school. 
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  • J+RJ+R
    Holidays were not put into the CO... We've never had SD for any holiday, ever... :(
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  • taagenttaagent member

    We switch Christmas only so this year BM had SD Christmas eve to Christmas morning 9:30 (BM gets everyone up REALLY early so 9:30 isn't an issue) then we had her until about 5pm, then BM had her for her weekend and as I said in an earlier post was supposed to have her all this week. 

    New Years eve and New Years day is spent with the parent who has her that week, but now that we have SD this week unexpectedly I am not sure what is going to happen as BM has NY's eve off, but I am not sure about NY's day.  I guess it will be last minute like everything else she does!

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  • Shel77Shel77 member

    usually DSD has wanted to be at her grandmom's for Christmas Eve and then her mom would p/u late morning.

    This year, DH and I p/u SD at around 1pm and although I know she was excited to go to our house, still felt sad that she had to go anywhere-a flashback to my own child of divorce holiday splitting.  

    As for the week after Christmas, that's kind of anything goes and we really all try to be flexible with schedules and SD who absolutely gets tired of changing houses.  She missed her mom yesterday so I called and she picked her up a little early.  We'll probably see her later this week.

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  • J&A2008J&A2008 member

    We were an hour away from BM, but she never contacted us.  We had told her a few months ago we would meet her so she could see them.

    Stay at home mom to a house of boys: two amazing stepsons, 12 and 9, and our 4 year old.
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