Hubby wont read the books :(

maureen1984 · December 2009

I understand that people having been having babies long before "what to expect" has been around. But my hubby get full out pissed at me when I bring up that he should read something on baby care! I'm not asking him to memorize a novel, I just want him to be somewhat prepared. Last night he just blew up at me when I turned to him in bed. He outrightly says NO I'M NOT READING ANYTHING, and wont give me an answer as to why.

Its not that he's been dreading the baby coming. He is happy for it, but I dont understand why he takes no interest in reading how to care for a baby!

I cant get a word in edgewise to talk to him because he starts screaming everytime. What should I do?

soontobemrs.S · December 2009

Just let him be. Some people, me included, just need to learn on the job. No book could have prepared dh or I anyway. It's the wildest and best ride of your life. Reading helps you prepare but it might not be his way. You admitted he's happy about the baby, once he or she is here I promise he'll flourish.

12bailey18 · December 2009

My DH hasn't read any books and I've never pressured him to. If I read something worth mentioning I'll just inform him about it. I think some men are a lot more "hands on" training than actually reading about it like women are. I wouldn't worry about your DH, he sounds completely normal!

nowmrsbinkc · December 2009

My DH has skimmed parts of one...but honestly, I have yet to get through any of them myself. We both enjoyed birth prep class a lot more and will learn better once we have our own baby and it is "hands on" experience.

Greyfaery · December 2009

I think that's normal among dads-to-be. I had to leave my baby books in the bathroom for DH to even pick it up. Maybe try that?

frostnoel · December 2009

Maybe someone should came out with a "what to expect" video game. Bet most guys would play that before they read the book.

mikkelsonch · December 2009

I think the bigger problem is that he yells at you. I hope you were only exaggerating because I grew up in a house where my dad yelled at my mom and it was horrible. To me, it's just like hitting.

I too would suggest a class. We love ours.

fIowerchild · December 2009

MH didn't read any books, we giggled all though the 'baby care' class and he wasn't much into feeling the baby move. But he is the best, most hands-on Daddy ever. He loves, loves his little boy. Some guys are just not that much into pregnancy. Come to think of it....some girls aren't either (me). Hurry up baby.

madameprimm · December 2009

Not everyone feels like they need a book to tell them everything. I haven't picked up one book about parenting, childcare, or pregnancy because it's really unnecessary. From what I've seen, it just makes people more paranoid and anxious than anything. Just because it's something you feel compelled to do doesn't mean your husband needs to follow suit. Let him handle things how he wants.

dionnemd10 · December 2009

men don't read owners manuals-they would rather try to figure it out on their own. sit back and let him figure out how to be a dad on his own-believe me they catch on pretty quick!!!

brideofscowboy · December 2009

Leave him be. He might surprise you with what he knows...a lot of it is common sense anyway.

I had an L&D and C/S that went wrong and could not even get out of bed for the first few days. DH who's never handled a baby, let alone a NB figured out how to change, swaddle, rock, etc DS perfectly fine.

kbugeau · December 2009

Mine hasnt read anything either, not eve the husband book that hilarious that his boss bought him. I didnt expect much though - he hates reading! He is going to three different classes with me though!

kimberleigh30 · December 2009

My DH is the same way. It's just how he is. I think he'd prefer to learn hands-on rather then from a book.

MrsJax09 · December 2009

frostnoel:
Maybe someone should came out with a "what to expect" video game. Bet most guys would play that before they read the book.

I think you just found out how to pay for LO's college education! LOL I can see the levels now:

-Bathtime Blitz
-Dirty Diaper Derby
-Feeding Frenzy.

Hahahaha

ColTim32 · December 2009

I couldn't get my husband to read much before the baby arrived. Once she was born and we brought her home, I think he realized he needed to read up on a few things to learn some of the basics. The funny thing is, he has been relaying all the information he reads in one of the books thinking he's helping me out. I was like, "I know, I already read that." But I try not to criticize or harp on his technique too much, unless he's doing something completely wrong. It's cute how he all the sudden wants to learn more about the baby and how to care for her.

goldfishpretzel · December 2009

Mine hasnt and I never really expected him too

beckyanddon · December 2009

People have given him specific daddy books and he wont even read those. I am past trying and it has become no big deal. I am going to have him read the short 2 page summary in the happiest baby on the block though and he aggreed to that after I told him that babies like noise.

octwed07 · December 2009

Mine won't read any also and i really don't want to force him, but we did take a newborn class, and i think that was soo helpful for him. I knew a lot of the stuff in the class already but i played dumb so that he'd pay attention also! It worked like a charm! He was all telling me what to do when we had to do a few things with the dolls!

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