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3rd Trimester
If You're Having a Boy...
When people ask you what you are having, and you tell them it's a boy, do you ever get this really weird reaction from them, along the lines of, "Oh, a boy? Good job on makin' a boy!"
How do you react? I find it very awkward.
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Re: If You're Having a Boy...
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Not really that so much but some strangers act super excited about it being a boy... or like a "oh thank goodness" reaction.. Which I don't get because they're strangers... why do they give a damn?
Yeah, I totally don't get it.
We have gotten this reaction probably... ten times.
We just smile, thank them and of course express our excitement but when we get along, we're always like, "WTH? Why do they act that way?" Makes us feel like we're in China and they think boys are more valuable. lol
I have a DD and people always say something like "oh good, now you have one of each" as if it would be bad if this baby was a girl.
We would have been thrilled either way. I don't get people's reactions to the gender of your child...
We usually get the "Oh good!" or "I'm sure your DH is SO happy," but I think that is mostly because we already have a little girl.
With DD I got a lot of "How does your DH feel about that?" questions, like he should have been disappointed we were having a girl. And my MIL was the worst, she actually said, "Oh, are you guys having any more then?" when we first told her it was a girl with DD. Talk about insulting. I guess she was really hoping to pass on the family name since DH's siblings have all had girls.
When people found out we are having another girl they asked if we were going to try again. I still think it is an odd thing to say to anyone. Also when we were pg with DD and told everyone she was a girl one of my Dh's family members said it was good because now I didn't have to debate circumcision with the family........
We generally get the opposite....ppl feel bad for us. It depends though, when DH tells other men or is on his own, PPL give him the "way to go", but in general most ppl assume that we wanted a girl and say "so are you going to try again?"
They are always a little surprised when I say "first, I wanted a boy and we are thrilled! Second, I don't do pregnant well so be surprised if you see me pregnant again!"
Same here. I have two sisters and two nieces. My dad will never admit it but he is really happy that I am having a boy.
He loves all of us girls but he's excited to finally get a boy in the family.
All the time! Especially if the SO is around, he usually gets a high-five and a "only men can make men!" I've even gotten "girls are cute but boys are the real prize" and "everyone knows that boys are the superior gender."
I just smile, I really wanted a boy so I don't mind it...
I get a lot of "Your husband must be so thrilled!". The funny thing is, my husband was the one who wanted a girl. Depending on how well I know the person, I mention this, and they always look a little surprised.
People are jerks..who cares what you are having as long as it is healthy..especially if it is your first why would you be mad about the sex?????
I am having a boy...and everyone is so excited and guess what if I was having a girl they would be the same excited because it is my fisrt child and the first grandchild in our families..
Heh. A cousin of DH's, over Christmas, brought his latest girlfriend from Colombia to dinner, who doesn't speak a word of english. She asked me, "Nino or nina?" I told her nino, and she immediately started shaking her head, and pointing to my hips, widening her arms to make it out as if I was a fatass - this apparently means nina. Her boyfriend was horrified, refused to translate (I took 9 years of spanish, totally not necessary), and another of DH's cousins laughed it off, informed her in spanish that I was the hottest pregnant lady in the family, and that my child's u/s pics looked like he will be loved by the ladies LOL!
I'm actually shocked pregnant hormones didn't kick in. I was more confused as to her determination since I still fit into size small jeans, just maternity sized, lol.
The strangest comment we have received was from a friend of my mother "Oh, a boy? You know there are a lot of people having boys lately. That means that in another 20-30 years we are going to have another world war."?
Umm...What?! Thanks lady, like I wasn't worried about my son already. ?
Yes, people seem to act like a boy is what everyone is REALLY hoping for, so I must be so excited. Especially since we already have a girl, a lot of people are like, oh, good, so now you'll have your boy.
To be honest, I originally really wanted a little sister for DD. I grew up in a family with two girls, and my sister and I are very close. DH was also kind of ready to have a girl again, because he has LOVED having a daughter. Now that we've adjusted to the idea of a little boy, we're both thrilled. But we may still want a third child, and people act like, now that we have one of each, why would we want any more?
I do find people's responses slightly offensive, b/c it seems to value girls a little less than boys. But I usually just smile diplomatically and say, "Yes, we're very excited."