If you told early...

LCB34 · December 2009

Our families and close friends already know the good news as most of them knew about our struggle with infertility and our last IVF cycle.

I am having a hard time keeping the news to myself but know I should.

So, if you told early, how early did you start spreading the news?

erincon8 · December 2009

I told after I saw the heartbeat at 6 wks 2 days to some people outside of my immediate family. I think it was a little too early to tell but I couldn't keep my mouth shut.

Ohio_Wedding · December 2009

we just told - nothing special or creative. since it had been a little journey to get to the BFP, it seemed silly to try to do something silly to announce it. we told early because we wanted family to support us. and, since it has been a difficult 13 weeks, we've been glad that family has known.

LovePink2850 · December 2009

I told at 5 weeks. Dh made me wait an extra week. I wanted to tell as soon as I got my BFP because I was that excited and if something were to happen, I wanted a big support system to be there for me. It's totally up to you though. I can't even imagine how excited you are! Congrats!

mkanderson85 · December 2009

I told my mother the day I got my BFP. I told everyone else in my family around 6 weeks. I didn't say anything to a lot of people that I work with or that I'm friends with until about 8 weeks. I still haven't completely let the cat out of the bag to everyone yet.

AliciaCM · December 2009

haha we told everyone the same day i got my BFP, i was too excited to hold it in.... so i was like 4 weeks when i told everyone

Ohio_Wedding · December 2009

sorry, i didn't answer your original question. we told some family at 5 weeks and others at about 7 weeks.

elledubs06 · December 2009

We told our very closest friends (like 4 people) right after we got the BFP. We waited until christmas to tell the whole family (i was 7 weeks).

And now that the family knows, we've started telling everyone! I know I'm only 7 weeks along, but we had our first sono and the heartbeat and measurements were all perfect, so we are very optimistic. I just don't know how people can keep it in so long! I envy you! I can't imagine waiting until february when I'm out of my first tri...

BelhurstBride · December 2009

We told my parents immediately and told DH's around 8 weeks. I also told my closest friends immediately. Everyone else we waited until around 14 weeks and I refused to let anyone mention anything on FB until after 20 weeks.

nina&matt · December 2009

We told family and close friends right away, for everyone else we waited until we got released from our RE (early this week). GL.

ClaireCecilia · December 2009

I told my parents and siblings after I saw the heart beat at 6 weeks. Three people know at work and some of my closest friends know. I am waiting to tell grandparents, aunts, and cousins until after my u/s in two weeks OR at 12 weeks..haven't decided.

bethanylang · December 2009

We held out, I think it was the shock. We just told our parents and immediate family this week and are planning on telling our friends on NYE. Once we saw and heard the heartbeat it seemed real enough to start telling people.

EnnuiDC · December 2009

I told 3 of my good friends right away, because I had to tell someone. We told our immediate families when I was 8 weeks. We're waiting to tell everyone else after the 1st tri.

afwife08 · December 2009

We told right away- I wanted to have support from family just in case and than my family is quite the bunch of loud mouths so it only took a day tell everyone knew. We were okay with it though. It was also nice since we made a 3 state move about 3 weeks after we found out and got a lot of help.

erbear · December 2009

we told family around 6-7 weeks and I told some friends from work (including my boss...it was the end of the school year and I didn't want to wait until I was 5 months in September to spring it on him) around 8 weeks. Most people, we waited until about 12 weeks.

susan1017 · December 2009

Hey LCB!

GREAT to see you over here! I was a semi-active poster on IF and was following your story! Congrats on the wonderful news!

I told early too. I saw the HB at 5.5 weeks and 2 more times by my 7th week so I felt pretty sure everything was going well.

It was so awesome to have good news to share after all of the IF struggles. I felt as if my friends and family had to hear all of the crap, I wanted them to share in the joy as well. Also if things didnt proceed then I would need their support even more! My suggestion is to tell as you feel comfortable.

Congrats again!

kofmkg · December 2009

We started telling family and friends within hours of getting our BFP. It was no secret that we were TTC and we'd want the support of our family and friends if we miscarried.

driveshorses · December 2009

4 or 5 weeks. They're my family, I would want the support whether something happened or not. I guess I never understood waiting until 2nd tri to tell family.

AKBride24 · December 2009

I told everyone else after DH, I was a little over 6 weeks along. For me, I would rather share the joy asap, if anything were to happen I would have alot of love and support. It's all a matter of what you are comfortable with.

genniemg · December 2009

We told the parents on Christmas and I told some of my closer friends on Christmas eve. I just didn't feel comfortable till then.

HBaylies · December 2009

I lined up my in-laws to take a pic of them all on Christmas Eve. I also had the video camera rolling. I had them say Merry Christmas and took a pic, then said one more pic please!his time I told them to say "Heather and Scott are pregnant!" and we got it on camera and video.

I did the same for my mom's family on Christmas, but stupidly had left the video camera on standby instead of record.

For my dad's family I had my 10 year old cousin go to the dining room just as we were about to sit down to Christmas dinner and give my step mother the ultrasound pic and say she found it on the floor and what is it. My cousin was so excited she got to be the first one in the house to know. I got that one on video, too.

Redlass13 · December 2009

We told very early about my daughter, Giuliana. She was an IVF baby and we just couldn't contain ourselves, since all of our ultrasounds were going so well! As soon as we heard the news from the doc, we told close friends and family. We continued from there!

willowcormar · December 2009

I was calling people before the pee stick was dry!!!

kg_08 · December 2009

this is our very first baby, and we told mostly everyone the day of our BFP or just a couple days after. i'm trying not to worry about anything going wrong and just enojy my pregnancy, and i want everyone else to be able to share in this blessing!

citygirl_ · December 2009

We told our family as soon as we found out... and friends shortly thereafter! We couldn't keep the news to ourselves!

Bride_Best · December 2009

See Siggy Pic. We e-mailed it out on Christmas morning, as that is when we got the BFP! For those that we saw on Christmas, we had him wear the shirt! It was great!

KRISTA555 · December 2009

LCB34:

Our families and close friends already know the good news as most of them knew about our struggle with infertility and our last IVF cycle.

I am having a hard time keeping the news to myself but know I should.

So, if you told early, how early did you start spreading the news?

Why "should" you? If you want to tell, TELL!

We told our families the day after our BFP. Why? Because

#1 We don't believe in bad luck

#2 If something, God forbid, did happen, we would want the support of our family as we got through it. If something had happened, I would want my family to understand why I'm not being very talkative, etc. KWIM?

So again, I say, there is no right or wrong answer here. If you want to tell people, tell em!

qthairstyle1129 · December 2009

We told Our family and close friends at 5 weeks we were just too excited. And My mom said if I would have waited to tell her she would have killed me. LOL!!! I don't think I could keep it a secret anyways especially with the morning sickness and being so tired people would have figured it out

Cupcake Mom · December 2009

We told our immediate families on Christmas, at 6 weeks. We're waiting til the end of the first trimester to tell everyone else!

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