Is this normal?

Cat2 · December 2009

We took DS home last night, and he and I didn't sleep at all. First he got really cold, so I called the NICU and they said wrap him up and hold him close until he gets warm. That worked, then he pooed 3 times, and wouldn't take his milk. Everytime I put him in his crib he cried. I am so tired I am jittery and have a bad headache. DH is taking him now while I pump (since he won't breastfeed). I feel like a total failure already.

lemen99 · December 2009

(hugs) You're not a failure!

I don't know if that is "normal" or not, but, I would say that coming from the NICU is a big adjustment for everyone so hang in there. As long as he's having wet diapers I don't think I'd be concerned. Maybe make sure the temp in your house is adequate and dress him in some layers and a hat. Keep the little guy nice and warm (not too warm).

Do you have anyone you can call? You need to take care of yourself too - maybe catch a nap, get some food, so you can feel better. Drink some water too that might help your headache. Since your pumping, maybe rotate naps/baby duty with your DH so you can both catch a break.

Hang in there!!

Merry Christmas

KellyMichelle · December 2009

My DS was the same way. I put him in his pack and play the first week or so. I rolled receiving blankets and put them around him so that he would feel more secure like they did in the NICU. I think the huge crib was just too much space at first. Also double swaddle to keep him warm. It is an adjustment at first. Even he is home it is a new place to him and he has to get used to it. I also played a lullaby CD for DS becuase the house was too quiet after being used to the busy NICU.

It really does get easier, the first few weeks are tough, but you will find a routine and he will get comfortable at home.

krissyh21 · December 2009

I had a really rough first night when I came home with my little guy. It was like he changed personalities the second he got out of NICU. Turned out he hated silence so we began playing either white noise or music in the back ground. It calmed him a lot.

I was also afraid he was too cold because his hands were always freezing. I had a visiting nurse come in and reassure me that infants hands are always cold because the blood circulation is working more going to their vital organs then their hands at this point. She told me to keep the heat at 68-72 and if I was comfortable, not to worry. I still double swaddle and he wears his hat when sleeping.

We have been home now for a little over 2 weeks and we both got into a routine that works for us. Hang in there, it will get easier.

Autumn_bride2b · December 2009

krissyh21:

I was also afraid he was too cold because his hands were always freezing. I had a visiting nurse come in and reassure me that infants hands are always cold because the blood circulation is working more going to their vital organs then their hands at this point.

Thank you for posting this. DD's hands are always cold, even when covered with mitten cuffs and swaddled. I was getting worried.

krissyh21:
She told me to keep the heat at 68-72 and if I was comfortable, not to worry. I still double swaddle and he wears his hat when sleeping.

I can't wait until we can turn the temp back down to 68. Right now we have it at 72 (NICU said 74!!!) and we are sweltering. Of course we will do it for DD, but we're just wearing fewer clothes now!

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