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Douchey comment of the day

Mrs.M317Mrs.M317 member
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Aside from the recent "I told you so" drive-by....

My supposed BFF has been completely avoiding me lately.  I find out it's because I'm always "upset"  When I tell her I'm sorry, that I've been going through a rough time (with the m/c, working extra, and going back to school) and I just need support she tells me...

"You need to start to heal"

Seriously.  That is word for word.  As if I sit around and think of how else I can be upset.  Maybe a few supportive words would help me heal??  Thanks for being supportive No

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  • j_luvs_rj_luvs_r member
    "F" your BFF.  She is sucking at being a BFF right about now. (((Hugs)))
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  • OceanBreeze1OceanBreeze1 member

    Did you tell her "You're right" and send a quick throat-punch her way?

    That's how I "start to heal."

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  • AmberZ2beAmberZ2be
    ((hugs)) I'm sorry. That was wrong of her, and deserves a throatpunch.
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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
    Wow...friend FAIL on her part.


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  • gymnst1013gymnst1013 member
    Oh sure because you can just "start to heal" on command.  She gets a big fat fail.  Sorry you had to deal with that MrsM!!
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  • heathercaraheathercara
    And you will start...when YOU are ready!!
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  • williawwilliaw member
    She sounds like a gem. Sorry that your BFF isn't more supportive. Sad

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  • sschwegesschwege member
    Tell her she needs to start to act like decent human being.  That's awful coming from anyone, especially a friend.  I'm sorry. 
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  • chickpea912chickpea912 member
    Wow... that's not very BFF-y of her...
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  • Mrs.M317Mrs.M317 member

    I knew you ladies would get it!

    *tear* 

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  • mchupiemchupie member

    Wow.  In response I would have to her that she needs to stop being a b!tch...

    Not cool. 

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  • MissNikki007MissNikki007 member
    imageL&R70707:
    Wow...friend FAIL on her part.
    Seriously.
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  • DLD102DLD102 member

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    And you will start...when YOU are ready!!

    This.  Well said, Heather.

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  • XXXXX222XXXXX222 member
    OMG I'm sorry :/
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  • chuleysnacketychuleysnackety

    What the heck does that mean ? Maybe she should be saying something like.. what can I do to help you heal?? and even that is weird !

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  • DaniLovesPinkDaniLovesPink member
    People heal in their own time.  Don't let anyone pressure you to heal, or pretend to be healing, sooner than you're ready.  Jeez, with friends like that, who needs enemies?
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  • sefanieesefaniee member
    WOW! That's not a knife in the back. I'm sorry, you definitely don't need those fabulous words of encouragement!
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  • LadyXaverianLadyXaverian member

    Wow, you're right.. that was douchey. ((Hugs))

    You will heal... on your time. But you deserve to have your friend by your side during that healing process. ((More hugs))

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  • kelliejeannekelliejeanne

    Yeah, just start to heal so she can be okay. Kinda selfish, no? Seriously though, her job is to support you and give hugs and listen - for a day or for a year - as long as it takes. Different topic/similar situation: My mom has been out of work forever. It's not the economy - it's her. She's just got stuff she needs to deal with and some ignorance about taking action. I love her and I wish I could fix things for her. But I can't - and it's taken me a loooong time to be okay with that. I used to pray for her to be ok/get a job/get security so that I'd have an easier time and not worry about her. I can't give her money, or a place to live or anything other than support and hugs and prayers that she find her way in her own time. Point is, when we can't fix things for our loved ones it's frustrating. Your friend might be feeling that?

    Maybe you could tell your friend that you'll heal in your own time, but in the meantime you need distractions. Maybe spend time with her doing active stuff (taking a walk/sports/mani-pedi/anything that makes you laugh and keeps you busy)?

    In the end my advice is to take care of yourself at all costs. True friends will be there on the other side. Geez! Sorry this is so long! Good luck!Smile

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  • Mrs.M317Mrs.M317 member
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    Yeah, just start to heal so she can be okay. Kinda selfish, no? Seriously though, her job is to support you and give hugs and listen - for a day or for a year - as long as it takes. Different topic/similar situation: My mom has been out of work forever. It's not the economy - it's her. She's just got stuff she needs to deal with and some ignorance about taking action. I love her and I wish I could fix things for her. But I can't - and it's taken me a loooong time to be okay with that. I used to pray for her to be ok/get a job/get security so that I'd have an easier time and not worry about her. I can't give her money, or a place to live or anything other than support and hugs and prayers that she find her way in her own time. Point is, when we can't fix things for our loved ones it's frustrating. Your friend might be feeling that?

    Maybe you could tell your friend that you'll heal in your own time, but in the meantime you need distractions. Maybe spend time with her doing active stuff (taking a walk/sports/mani-pedi/anything that makes you laugh and keeps you busy)?

    In the end my advice is to take care of yourself at all costs. True friends will be there on the other side. Geez! Sorry this is so long! Good luck!Smile

    I totally appreciate this perspective Wink

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  • BlasianloveBlasianlove member
    What a jerk.
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  • MixiePixieMixiePixie

    What the f - that is pretty rude.  She has no right to tell you how fast you should get over a trauma!

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  • 5ftsmall5ftsmall member
    You should mention that you just can't seem to find your magic wand lately.
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  • kelliejeannekelliejeanne
    imageMrs.M317:
    imagekelliejeanne:

    Yeah, just start to heal so she can be okay. Kinda selfish, no? Seriously though, her job is to support you and give hugs and listen - for a day or for a year - as long as it takes. Different topic/similar situation: My mom has been out of work forever. It's not the economy - it's her. She's just got stuff she needs to deal with and some ignorance about taking action. I love her and I wish I could fix things for her. But I can't - and it's taken me a loooong time to be okay with that. I used to pray for her to be ok/get a job/get security so that I'd have an easier time and not worry about her. I can't give her money, or a place to live or anything other than support and hugs and prayers that she find her way in her own time. Point is, when we can't fix things for our loved ones it's frustrating. Your friend might be feeling that?

    Maybe you could tell your friend that you'll heal in your own time, but in the meantime you need distractions. Maybe spend time with her doing active stuff (taking a walk/sports/mani-pedi/anything that makes you laugh and keeps you busy)?

    In the end my advice is to take care of yourself at all costs. True friends will be there on the other side. Geez! Sorry this is so long! Good luck!Smile

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  • Mrs.M317Mrs.M317 member

    image5ftsmall:
    You should mention that you just can't seem to find your magic wand lately.

    ::saves this comment for later:: 

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  • 5ftsmall5ftsmall member
    imageMrs.M317:

    image5ftsmall:
    You should mention that you just can't seem to find your magic wand lately.

    ::saves this comment for later:: 

    If you need anymore, just let me know.  My snark comes out at random times.

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  • MSC03MSC03 member
    I hate when anyone tells me what I "need to do."
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  • Moonbeam828Moonbeam828 member
    I know I'm just a lurker, but I'm really sorry she said that to you.  My MIL said pretty much the same thing to me after my mom died, and I'd never really, truly thought I might punch someone til then.  As a PP said, I just love it when someone decides things like that for me.
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