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Sex of the baby...

sdb0424sdb0424 member
in Pennsylvania Babies
So my husband and I are going to our first ultrasound on Weds. afternoon.  He doesn't want to find out the sex of the baby, but I do.  I know I can't keep it a secret if I find out.  But I was curious, did you find out the gender of your baby?  Why or why not?[Poll]
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  • MOORENOLESMOORENOLES
    I found out because I am a HUGE planner/organizer and wanted to know how to decorate the nursery, buy clothes, etc.  I would have gone crazy if I didn't know.  
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  • innerpeaceinnerpeace

    I did not find out, despite being a huge planner.  I don't think you need to know the sex of the baby in order to decorate a room and buy necessary items.  We plan on having more kids so I would want to re-use the items possibly on another gender anyway. 

    Also, hearing my husband say "it's a boy" when I was done with labor and delivery, was so so sweet.  He was so excited to be able to announce it!  No matter how many kids we have, we will never find out until his/her birthday!

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  • ntnylizardntnylizard

    We did, just because it would have driven me batty to know I could know, but didn't.

    But we have friends that did NOT find out, and the mom says it was one of the best moments of her life to see/hear her hubby blither repeatedly, "it's a Blake Michael!" while bursting into tears.  (As opposed to the girl name they had picked out.

    Even though I'd love to have a memory like that, I know we'll find out the sex of any future kiddo, too.

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  • PennyLane06PennyLane06
    We did because there was absolutely no way I could have waited until birth to find out.  I also did not want or like a lot of "gender neutral" bedding, clothing, etc.  I felt knowing I was carrying my son made me feel closer and bond with him prior to birth.  This is obviously just my opinion and how I felt about my particular situation.  For what its worth finding out the gender at the ultrasound was still special to us.
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  • rlthomas7rlthomas7

    I really respect people who don't find out, but I'm not one of them. My personality is one where I need to know as much as possible about everything. If I see a movie based on a true story, I then go to the library and check out books about that story and learn as much as possible about it. So having the opportunity to know something, I had to take it.

    And I do kind of echo Penny Lane's comments above. When I was having trouble during pregnancy and we almost lost him a few times, I felt like it was easier to bond with the unborn baby when I knew it was a boy and I could call  him by name. "Adam Clark, you settle down and stay in there! Do you hear mommy? No punching holes in your room. You can do that to your fraternity house in college, but not yet." He wasn't actually punching holes in my uterus, but that was the best analogy I could come up with that night in the hospital.

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  • mrspablondiemrspablondie
    DH and I had always agreed that we didnt want to know the sex until delivery day, but then I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy and like the pp's , I decided that with my next pregnancys I would want to know the sex as a way to bond with the baby before he was born. 
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  • fxz109fxz109 member

    DH didn't want to, I would have gone either way.  We figured it's one of the truely good suprises in life, so we waited.  And I don't regret it at all.

    Plus, I had the nagging  fear that they could be wrong - we would be all set up for having a girl and the baby would be a boy, or vice versa, and that would have made me angry.  So it was easier not to find out.  And now all our basic baby gear is gender neutral and it doesn't matter what Lo#2 will be, when the time comes.

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  • PAAZwifePAAZwife member
    imageinnerpeace:
    I did not find out, despite being a huge planner.  I don't think you need to know the sex of the baby in order to decorate a room and buy necessary items.  We plan on having more kids so I would want to re-use the items possibly on another gender anyway. 

    Also, hearing my husband say "it's a boy" when I was done with labor and delivery, was so so sweet.  He was so excited to be able to announce it!  No matter how many kids we have, we will never find out until his/her birthday!

    I agree 100%.  I am a huge planner as well, but this is the one and only big surprise left in life.  DH and I both wanted to enjoy it to the fullest.  There couldn't have been anything better than that moment when he was born and the doctor held him up for DH and I to see the little man parts as we both exclaimed, "It's a Boy!" with tears streaming down our faces.  I'm fairly certain that we'll do the same for all future children as well. 

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  • RaeAntRaeAnt member
    Our main reason was so we didn't have to do gender neutral everything. White, yellow and green gets boring really quick. Plus as Lesli said, it's so much easier to plan when you know what your are planning/shopping for. It's also less stressful when family asks. Some people have had folks buy gender specific items only to have to return them because the baby was not that sex.
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  • lindyannelindyanne

    We are only planning on one so I didn't have to worry about having gender neutral stuff. I also am too impatient. We had definite names picked out before our ultrasound and started calling the baby his name before we even knew for sure (they told us 70% at 20 weeks and I had to wait until 28 wks or so for sure). I loved being able to say his name instead of "it" or "him" or "her" when I didn't really know for sure.

    I actually had the u/s tech write down what it was on paper because DH ended up having to be out of town at the 28 wk ultrasound. It was such a special moment when I opened it up on the phone and we both started crying. 

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  • Tabby2727Tabby2727
    imagentnylizard:

    We did, just because it would have driven me batty to know I could know, but didn't.

    But we have friends that did NOT find out, and the mom says it was one of the best moments of her life to see/hear her hubby blither repeatedly, "it's a Blake Michael!" while bursting into tears.  (As opposed to the girl name they had picked out.

    Even though I'd love to have a memory like that, I know we'll find out the sex of any future kiddo, too.

    We wanted to know too but have friends that didn't.  I think next time I'd like the suprise, even though I REALLY want to know. ;)

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  • Taylor44Taylor44
    Obviously, it is a personal decision.  However, I can't imagine not knowing the sex the entire pregnancy.  I like to call the baby by it's name during the pregnancy.  But if I could wait, it would be an exciting time at the delivery.
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