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CaptainSerious
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I guess He said "no."
CaptainSerious
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in Adoption
I just got the results of yesterday's matching session, and both the boy and the two little girls we were considering were referred to families.
I guess all those signs were just coincidences that didn't mean anything after all.
It's just hard because we kept being told by our agency that, to their knowledge, no one had requested to parent them, so we were fairly hopeful that they'd still be available today.
I'm happy they will be going to families that will love and cherish them, but sad that the little boy won't be joining our family. I was really hoping to be able to tell our families over Christmas that we had entered our request, and ask them all to pray for and with us while we waited.
I am so disheartened with the process, as these children have only been on the list for one month. We received their files right away, and just had enough time to have one translated and medically reviewed. I just don't think it's possible to make an informed, reasoned decision in the short amount of time we seem to have.
I told God that I really would love for this little boy to be our son. I asked him to please grant my wish. I told him that I understood that He had a plan, and that I accepted that His will be done. I guess God has something else in store for us, because he said "no."
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Re: I guess He said "no."
I'm SO sorry
God has told me "no" many times in the past couple years but all those "no's" led me to Grayden!
Everything works out according to His plan, I know that probably doesn't make you feel any better right now so just hang in there and keep the faith!
Sorry again, that really sucks.
(((HUGS)))
I'm so sorry. It's so hard to trust God and ask that His will be done rather than our own will. A BM is meeting with her attorney today to talk about surrendering parental rights to us. I keep praying, and it's so hard to not just ask God to make this happen, rather than make the right thing happen - even if that means us not adopting this child.
This is such a difficult and emotional process. Even though we really just started the process, and even though I know in my head that I will eventually be a mommy and things will work out, it doesn't make my heart ache any less for THIS child and won't make it hurt any less if BM does not choose for us to adopt.
I am so so sorry, honey. You are right. God does have a plan for you and its something you can't even begin to imagine in your wildest dreams. He said no to this match because it wasn't meant to be, it wasn't perfect for your family, and He has a better match in store for your family.
I know your heart is breaking on the inside right now, but your positive attitude on the outside is amazing. Keep your eyes on Him and your knees on the floor. It will happen for you!
Oh Captain. I'm so sorry to hear this news. I know I keep saying this, but I think you are so amazingly brave for taking this step to move forward. It can't have been easy to do this.
Even though this time didn't work out, it will...and it will be fantastic. I just know it.
:::Huge hugs:::
I'm sorry to hear that. I know that can be very hard, especially around the holidays when you can't help but imagine what life will be like with a little one and the process sounds so frustrating. I know God does have a plan for you and it will happen. I don't have advice for you on how to get through the frustration as I could talk a long time about my spiritual and emotional ups and downs through this process, but my thoughts really are with you.
Wow. This is EXACTLY what I was saying to myself last week about the b-mom we were shown to.
I'm so sorry this didn't work out. I know you guys really searched your hearts to make the best decision possible. To be thwarted at every turn just seems like adding insult to injury. As others told me yesterday, God has a plan for us and it will be revealed in His time.