I'm scared of the future...

lnle · December 2009

being up late at night (snacking, of course!) gives me too much time to think. I'm so grateful that everything has gone well so far, but I'm scared that things could change at any minute. I'm nervous before every ultrasound. I want to keep them in as long as possible, but I'm scared of all the discomfort that goes along with being 30+ weeks w/trips. I'm scared I'll never get back to work as planned.I don't do well with lack of control...

anyone else feel this way??

Carmela752 · December 2009

*chomps on a snack*

Yeah...I've known too many people who had tragic things happen late in pregnancy to ever feel comfortable. I've recently had issues with contractions and started to dilate a little, so I'm worried about delivering prematurely. And I work part time and am in graduate school part time (I'm off everything now) so I'm really worried about how to balance everything once I'm supposed to start everything back up again. I wish I could plan it all out...but I know there's no way I can.

*sigh*

preheatedoven · December 2009

I am scared all the time, even before this PTL issue. My OB told me that the best moms are the ones that feel this way while the babies are still inside and just to brace ourselves for the fear when they get here:)

I know you are doing the best you can, fear is normal.

lgurian · December 2009

i hate to sound cynical, but get used to it. once they are born you worry about SIDS, H1N1, other sickness, are they eating enough, pooing enough, spitting up too much, too hot, too cold, and on and on it goes for the rest of their lives i imagine. i deal with it by taking a deep breath and knowing that i am doing the very best i can. i think thats all we can do. motherhood is a long road my friends.

CER+MEL · December 2009

I have an appt with a peri today that I made just to feel more certain that I'm doing all that I can. I have an u/s tomorrow and my regular OB appt, the first since the twins discovery - no more surprises, please! Everything has been pretty smooth so far, but I know how quickly that can change. Anticipating these appts is really upping my anxiety this week.

To make matters worse, I feel guilty for worrying and not keeping my spirits up and my stress level down, esp. when everything is going fine so far. It helps to picture two healthy babies, the two of them giggling together, kissing the tops of their heads as we snuggle, anything that brings back the joy when I get worried. When the worry subsides, I feel like I'm giving them a better place to grow.

pea-kay · December 2009

i may worry now about my boys, but nothing compares to how stressed and worried i was when i was pregnant. it was all on me, then, you know? at least now my husband, parents, doctors, teachers help. but when i was pregnant, i was the only one who could protect them and nourish them and help them.

and yeah, the later stages of pregnancy are hard, no doubt about it, but you are doing something SO amazing, so rare, so awesome, and it really did help me to deal with the last few weeks. but the thing is, that discomfort is TEMPORARY. you can handle anything for a month or two, right? when it means so much for the rest of your little ones' lives, you can do anything.

and NOTHING compares to the first time you hold all three.

Breenie29 · December 2009

pea-kay:
i may worry now about my boys, but nothing compares to how stressed and worried i was when i was pregnant. it was all on me, then, you know? at least now my husband, parents, doctors, teachers help. but when i was pregnant, i was the only one who could protect them and nourish them and help them.
and yeah, the later stages of pregnancy are hard, no doubt about it, but you are doing something SO amazing, so rare, so awesome, and it really did help me to deal with the last few weeks. but the thing is, that discomfort is TEMPORARY. you can handle anything for a month or two, right? when it means so much for the rest of your little ones' lives, you can do anything.
and NOTHING compares to the first time you hold all three.

Couldn't have said it better myself! Just take care of yourself and enjoy everything.

Dec31stBride · December 2009

I'm definitely anxious. I try to allow some worries, but also temper them with positive mental images and focusing on things I can control. For example, yesterday afternoon I just felt wiped out. I listened to my body and took a rest.

Another good "technique" is to focus on right now - if I feel a twinge and start imagining something awful, I stop and think about objective evidence - is the pain extreme - no. am I bleeding - no. if I rest, does it get better - yes. Stuff like that helps me.

At the end of the day, it does really stink to feel so out of control, but just keep hoping for the best!

jenkm · December 2009

lgurian:
i hate to sound cynical, but get used to it. once they are born you worry about SIDS, H1N1, other sickness, are they eating enough, pooing enough, spitting up too much, too hot, too cold, and on and on it goes for the rest of their lives i imagine. i deal with it by taking a deep breath and knowing that i am doing the very best i can. i think thats all we can do. motherhood is a long road my friends.

This is along the lines of what I was going to say.

I think motherhood is a wonderful opportunity to learn to let go a little... You can't control everything. Life happens. Do your best and love your kids and hope for the best, that's about all you can do. It's actually kind-of freeing when you realize that so much is out of your control...

It will be ok.

I'm having my first kids in April - TWINS - so needless to say I have my moments of panic! But I try to shake it off b/c the reality is, I just have to roll with the punches. lol

Nikki1007 · December 2009

I am terrified all the time. Its crazy. I have gone the longest time between u/s this time and i don't have another one for a week and I don;t start my NSTs until Jan 22. I am hoping once I am being monitored more often I will feel better. At least thats what I am telling myself for now. I know motherhood is still full of worry, but at least I will feel more in control once they are here.

Temp159135562506975 · December 2009

as others have said- worry is just part of being a mom- there are a whole new set of worries when the babies are born -even when they are healthy. Prayer is the only thing that gets me through each day without being consumed by worry!

FWIW- my twin pg was MUCH easier than my singleton pg... yeah- with triplets you are bound to be pretty uncomfortable- but you might not be as bad as you think. I had so much pain/issues towards the end of my first pg --- so i assumed my twin pg would be worse- and instead it was SO much easier - less pain, less issues, etc.... i never would have guessed. Just goes to show that you never really know--- so stressing about what MIGHT happen is not worth it- deal with each day, one day at a time- and you'll get through!

gumiberg · December 2009

i worried every single day i was pregnant but i dont think i have worried for more than a second since they've been born. whether you are pregnant with 1 or 3, i think pregnancy is very worrisome because everything is unknown. the unknown is scary!! but once its here, and its your reality, you adjust to it and roll with the punches. not to say its easier, but its less scary.

outofcntrl82 · December 2009

Im totally with you! I worry all.the.time. I worry about everything- aside from being pregnant and if they are ok, I worry about money and how we will afford everything when I am not working, I worry about breastfeeding,etc etc.

But then again, worry started when we started TTC..

Hibiscus2007 · December 2009

lnle:
being up late at night (snacking, of course!) gives me too much time to think. I'm so grateful that everything has gone well so far, but I'm scared that things could change at any minute. I'm nervous before every ultrasound. I want to keep them in as long as possible, but I'm scared of all the discomfort that goes along with being 30+ weeks w/trips. I'm scared I'll never get back to work as planned.I don't do well with lack of control...
anyone else feel this way??

I feel this way, but try to just take it one day at a time and try not to even think about the things I can't control. Like you this has been hard for me, I am such a planner, but this pregnancy has already taught me to be more laid back and roll with the punches (for the first time in my life!)

lnle · December 2009

thanks everyone! I think I need to stop reading scary things online in the middle of the night...that might help my worrying some!

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