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Reasons I hate my MIL (vent/long)
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Statement: #1: I hate my MIL.
Reason #1: When we lost Haleigh ? she decided to attend to her rental property (2 hours away) instead of be at our hospital bed like my whole family. DH literally cried out loud for his mother ? and my family had to pick up the pieces.
Reason #2: After our loss, we specified that DH, I or MIL were the only people that could pick up the remains at the mortuary. About 2 weeks after the delivery ? DH and I gathered enough courage to go get her ourselves. She felt that since we didn?t notify her that we were doing so- that we were no longer a family and we should have told her ahead of time. Huh? I have no clue how she came to that conclusion? but, whatever? she is psychotic.
Reason #3: So, MIL shows up at our door last night (unannounced) to drop off a present for DH and I ? and we start getting into all this drama. She says that if we wanted support from her after Haleigh- than we should have picked up the phone and requested it! Are you f?ing kidding me?!?! IMO, she gets the worst mother of the year award for that one?.
Reason #4: Then she says goes off that she hasn?t received wedding picks (which were her x-mas present) and says her co-workers don?t even think there was really a wedding (we got married last May ? BTW). I told her that we got the picks in July? August we had Haleigh and no one but DH and I have the pics- cause they were going to be x-mas presents? Then, I walk into the house and dump all the x-mas presents (full photo album of our wedding and four 8x10 pics, framed, matted) in her truck? as if to say? here you b!tch have the damb pics?
Reason #5: So long story short, we are not having an x-mas w/ DH?s family this year. I can?t even imagine how much this hurts DH? The year we need her most- she turns her back to us.
Reason #6: So, DH no longer wants anything to do w/ his mom any more? and the really sad thing is.. DH?s little brother, Garth (27 yr. old ? but mentally a 5 yr. old) loses his brother. BTW- Garth was sitting in the truck w/ his mom listening to all this drama last night? as if that is appropriate! He was crying the whole time that he no longer has brothers cause they never come to see him anymore. We all know she fills him w/ her Psycho-babble and he misinformed and confused. My heart just breaks for him? he is literally the only person in the situation that is innocent ? yet he suffers the most.
Bottom line? I hate my MIL and don?t care to ever see her again. I think what she has done to DH, myself, Haleigh and Garth is despicable, unexcuseable and cruel. I hate her, I hate her, I hate her....
The End... Vent Over.
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Re: Reasons I hate my MIL (vent/long)
I'm so sorry. I wish people would learn to love family and support them instead of thinking of only themselves.
I wish you a holiday filled with peace and love. ((hugs))
My god, like you need any more SH!T!!!!!????
Grrr...I'm ANGRY for you.
I am sooooo sorry, E. So so sorry 
So so awful, I think your hate is completely justified.
I am sooo sorry that you MIL is just a mean person. I am also very sorry your DH has basically lost his family b/c of her inability to see that she is not a victim in this and she is being selfish.
Just remember-you and DH are a family and you can celebrate the holidays ANY WAY you want.
I'm so sorry this is happening. She's crazy and, even if it's hard, it sounds like disconnecting from her is the best thing. I hope that you and R can find a way to still have time with Garth.
As for the one-star person, some idiot one-stars people on a pretty regular basis. It seems like there are a few people on the sh!t list that they pick on. Whoever that person is is a coward. They hide behind an anonymous starring system instead of saying what they really think. The star has no bearing on what people on this board think about you or your posts - only the opinion of one person who is too scared to say what they really think because they know that they'll get flamed for their hatred. We've found that the best way to deal with them is to just ignore them.
Christ...mine is a freaking saint in comparision. Huge hugs to you and poor DH. We have had to cut my husbands bio father completely out too and it sitll is hard for my DH...
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I'm so sorry. My heart just breaks for you.
She is awful. Just awful.
Lots of hugs.
I am so so so sorry...I can't even imagine...your hate is definitely justified...what a ***!...It seems like you guys are better off without her in your lives anyway...(((HUGE HUGS)))