has your loss brought out the scrooge in you?

hbkises · December 2009

I don't know if it's the loss of what, but I honestly could care less about Christmas. Our tree has been up for a week and we haven't gotten around to putting lights on it, I still need to do so much stuff and I just don't care to do it.

Amanda78 · December 2009

We haven't even put a tree up. I am such a scrooge-and I really don't even care.

maritzburggirl · December 2009

I'm having the same problem....in attempt to "find" my Christmas spirit, I baked cookies, went to see Christmas lights, wrapped gifts and nada...DH is the same way and we both can only assume it's because of our loss...somehow we don't feel much like celebrating this year. The only decoration I hung this year was the one we bought to remember the little one we lost....hugs and I hope we all find our Christmas spirit again next year.

sydney0928 · December 2009

Internally yes. I didn't give a shiit this year and don't really even want any presents. I totally phoned in buying stuff for everyone else too. Externally I am trying to pretend that everything is ok because if I didn't, my family would throw me a huge pity party and the thought of that is even worse.

babes12 · December 2009

yes it's alittle more difficult to celebrate xmsa this year. in the beginning after our loss i looked forward to TTC but now i'm p*ssed that i have to go through this whole process again. i think that's making me more moody than anything else. i dunno.

i'm going to try and enjoy the holidays for DS though since this is the first year he know's what's going on.

Tapsalteerie · December 2009

I put up a tree and decorated because I knew it would make DH happy and seeing him happy makes me feel better. But as far as cards and presents are concerned, we are keeping it to immediate family and our two BFFs. In the past we tried to give to a lot of our friends at work and other acquaintances, but lately I haven't really been into the gift/card giving mood. I'm slimming it down to people who were actually there for us when we lost our baby.

mrsmacias2008 · December 2009

I just want this year to be over...I could care less about x-mas.

Court1 · December 2009

Ditto what babes12 said, this is the first yr ds knows what's going on....so I've got my game face on on the surface. Then I get in my car to drive to work & cry the whole way here to Christmas music....so yeah, emotions are all over the board this year.

hbkises · December 2009

mrsmacias2008:
I just want this year to be over...I could care less about x-mas.

that just perfectly summed it up.

Amanda78 · December 2009

mrsmacias2008:
I just want this year to be over...I could care less about x-mas.

This is so very true.

Court1 · December 2009

I told my friend this morning that if there wasn't a chance I might be ku, I'd pull out the xanex from my loss & use them to get through this week....

sweetbossom83 · December 2009

this round I am still doing ok.. I am a xmas freak tho Big Smile

Hope you guys make it through the holidays. (((HUGS)))

babygirlpriest · December 2009

I feel like such a fraud. I keep going through all the motions of our traditions. Going to the farm to cut a tree, decorating it, making cookies, shopping, etc... even going through the motions of smiling and giggling, etc. but I just want it to be January 1 already.

The only good thing about Christmas is I get 10 days off.

SavageCarmina · December 2009

I can't wait til Christmas is over with, but my husband wants this to the the bestChristmasever. He decided to invite both families & several friends over for dinner at our house, fully decorated the house, and tells me several times a day how excited he is for Christmas. I think this might be his way of dealing with the loss... spending time with the people he loves most.

I dunno - I'm just stressing because I've never hosted Christmas before, and I have a teeny tiny house and don't know where everyone's going to sit. Huh?

roxyttandme · December 2009

I wish the hoidays wouldn't even happen this year.... I am a total scrooge...

lisamarie_04 · December 2009

Yes! I put out two wreaths and bought presents for my husband and immediate family. That is the extent of my Christmas related activities for this year. I'm soooo ready for the holidays to be over and to start a new year!

ColindaP · December 2009

I'm going all out (well, as all out as I get, which isn't very all out) for Christmas just because I feel like it's something I can control and force to go right for me. (And now I'm sure my tree will catch fire)

However, aside from that, I've been a total biatch lately. It's not just the losses, but I'd be lying if I said that wasn't the main factor.

butterfly843 · December 2009

Yes, we didn't decorate at all this year and christmas is usually my favorite holiday.

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