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Oh MIL...

laurenrobbielaurenrobbie
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This is not a big problem but since I am pregnant it is 1000% more annoying than it would be otherwise.

DH and I are hosting Christmas at our house so we do not have to travel. I just don't feel like it. I love to host and we have parties, dinner parties, etc a lot. The ILs are traveling in from out of town to stay with us and we will have about 12 total @ dinner.

MIL keeps calling with "I was thinking we could do this for a side dish...." and "I have a good idea for place cards..." but I've got everything taken care of already. Plus, WE are hosting it, not her - and she is trying to take over all these little aspects of the dinner that we have already made arrangements for and that don't really matter. I keep telling her (nicely) that we have what we need, thanks, and then she acts as if her feelings are really hurt because I am not taking her suggestions. I don't mind taking anyone's suggestions to be nice but at this point everything is almost done and it would be even more work to go back and change it. 

Now she is calling DH instead of me to "suggest" things! She is determined to have things her way and I have a feeling that there are going to be some clashes on Christmas Day...

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  • gingerfamilygingerfamily member
    Stop answering her calls.
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  • JaysonandKristinJaysonandKristin member

    Happy Holidays! 

    I love, love my MIL, but she'll do this to me, too.  In all fairness, I do it back to her.  Don't know if it's 'cause I actually want to help, or if I'm trying to be annoying back at her. 

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  • SLOmamaSLOmama
    Can you tell her nicely that you appreciate her "help" and next year you would love to give up hosting duty, but this year you have everything under control and that she should try to relax and enjoy the time off!
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  • glasgow_girlglasgow_girl
    My MIL never calls me to "suggest" things - she always calls DH, and then I have to be the bad guy, which I don't really have a problem with, but I hate that it always feels like its me vs. her, with DH in the middle.
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  • northernkatenorthernkate

    Honestly, I would find the dish she is most proud of making and ask her to please bring it and maybe a favourite dessert too.  It's probably hard for her to pass the torch.

    I make a certain special dish for the holidays that I kind of invented and one year someone else made it and I felt like they had stepped on my heart.  It was my DISH Ahhh!  Anyways - the way they did it was gross and it never happened again and now it's funny (sort of)

    I know my MIL is not ready to completely stop being the mommy yet so I ain't forcing her (completely) 

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  • FasaFasa
    This sounds exactely like my MIL.  I'm a planner and when I'm having that many people over, I like things done ahead of time.  If I end up giving her a job, she almost always has to (after she gets here) go shopping and then prepare what ever it is in my kitchen.  It stresses me out!  I like to have control of my kitchen (a self proclaimed control freak!) and control of when things will be done!
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  • northernkatenorthernkate
    Oh my god - My MIL does the same thing!!! Weird. Sucks doesn't it!
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  • ChaneltaraChaneltara member
    That's tough, for her and you. I'd do what the PP said, and give her a couple things to do or make that would make her feel important...even if you don't need what she makes or does...
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