Did you do anything on your EDD?

sassafras007 · December 2009

December 23 will mark my EDD with my first pregnancy. I am not doing well as the day approaches. I find myself getting upset the past couple of days. Just wondering if anyone did anything "special" on this day to remember their LO?

Thanks!

BabyLove987 · December 2009

We wrote letters to LO. Then we tied them to a helium balloon string and let the balloon go. Sounds kind of dumb, but it helped me so much!

MrsGhappilyeverafter · December 2009

I might be different from most people, but I tried to distract myself from my EDDs as much as possible so I didn't dwell on them and get too emotional. For my first EDD that was pretty easy because I was on a Mediterranean cruise and was in Florence for the day so I was super busy which kept me distracted. For my second EDD which was last weekend, I just kept busy all day and hung around family and DH. Of course, I took time to remember my LOs, but I didn't want to spend too much time thinking about my EDDs because I knew I'd get too emotional.

PurpleK26 · December 2009

I spent the day making a shadow box of pregnancy momentos from our pregnancy. I was 13 weeks when we had our loss.

The shadow box included the paci that I used to tell DH I was pg. The test. a memorial necklace 2 of my girlfriends gave me, and a cross engraved bracelet from my parents. Also,My parents had given us a tiny stuffed animal at Christmas (we were still pg at the time) and my sisters had given Pumpkin a box of diapers. We had gotten several things from the hospital: Tiny blanket, 13 week footprints (not our LO, but the right size).

I put all of that stuff, one of the diapers, and a few other things in the shadow box. It's now hanging outside of our bedroom so it's the first thing we see when we leave our room. It was a nice way of remembering our LO. I'd gotten so nervous to do it, that I put it off for months, but I figured I'd already be sad that day... so why not just go all out in making myself miserable. It ended up feeling like a huge accomplishment.

I plan on taking it with me to the hospital as my focal point during labor, and to help remind me that all the pain means I get a baby this time.

Hope you're able to do whatever makes you feel best on your EDD. Hugs.

someflower6 · December 2009

today's my EDD.originally, i thought it wouldn't be that upset given that i'm so happy and excited about this pregnancy... but i was pretty upset this morning about it. after allowing myself to cry and get a little emotional, i felt a lot better. i was going to cut my hair for locks of love in honor of my peanut today, but it snowed and the roads are awful. so for today, i think it's enough that i acknowledged the loss in my heart (and on these boards, and with my friends and family).

i'll be thinking of you.

emma9 · December 2009

wow, I feel for you - my EDD was in March and it was rough- I had an IUI that morning and I hoped it would be good luck , but to no avail -

surround yourself with supportive people and maybe treat yourself a little

hugs !

jen-dale · December 2009

We did not do anything special with our first EDD. I am pretty sure we did conceive this LO on that day though ;-) Our 2nd EDD is not until January but we won't do anything special. I don't feel attached to those pregnancies at all. It's not that I don't wonder about those babies, but I only knew I was pregnant for about a week each time and I just don't feel that bond. I know that probably sounds terrible. DH and I are just trying to focus on this LO now. I think if it wasn't that way I would be a nervous disaster.

Eviebee · December 2009

My LO's EDD would have been tomorrow, I plan on writing a letter to her tonight and tomorrow burying it in the garden I made for her (we have no snow). I was planning on spending the whole day on having fun with DD outside the house so that I can't spend the whole day in tears. I was crying more over December arriving, and I think the day will be a little smoother, hoping so anyways. Big hugs to you.

Addicted2thenot · December 2009

(((HUGS)))

I am sorry that you are having a hard time with the EDD as it approaches.

I had planned on going to the beach & releasing a balloon.

Mine was November 19th

I was so worried/upset in the weeks leading up to it .... Then all of a sudden I looked at a calendar & it was November 22nd... I had missed my EDD!

I have another EDD approaching on Jan 31st

Lets see how that one goes

DebbieJS77 · December 2009

My hubby and I cleared are calendars and just tried to plan something fun with each other that day. We ended up bike riding to a favorite breakfast place and then sitting outside and the deck and looking over the lake. It was a great day with my husband and it helped me feel like we would be ok someday. My loss was at 22 weeks.

breazzzy · December 2009

I am so sorry you are having a hard time right now. It was hard for me to go through mine because one of my close friends had her baby the day after my due date which was hard knowing I would have been having my baby around that time. On my EDD DH and I cooked and nice dinner and lit a candle and said a prayer asking God to bless our missed LO and keep this baby safe until he is in our arms. It was hard but I think it would have been so much harder going through the day not being pregnant. So I am thankful that we had this baby to focus on.

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