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Stressed and paranoid about DH
Hey girls, I think I need some help here.
The last week or so I've been feeling more and more stressed about stuff. I've got plenty to legitamitly be stressed about (hours cut at my work, hubby laid off, freaking out about going back to work after ML is up..ect ect ect), and I am an certified grade A worrier, but I'm starting to relieze I'm stressing out about stuff that shouldn't even be on my radar.
I'm have crying fits over stuff that happend years ago, and staying up at night worrying about things in the future (stupid stuff, like how to handle our usual summer vacation with the baby...& it's not until August!)
I also can't shake the feeling that my Hubby dosn't really like me very much anymore. We had a huge, weird fight this past summer that never really got compleltly settled, but I thought I was past it. But the last few days I'm right back there again, only now I'm adding even more onto it.
I feel like Hubby hasn't actually smiled at me since the day Lorelei was born, plus he keeps telling me what to do for the baby, and usually in a very curt and some what p.o'd tone of voice. If I'm changing he diaper, I'm not doing it quickly enough, the same if I am making her a bottle.It makes me feel like a kid being scolded by a parent, which pisses me of to no end.
Plus there is other random stuff he says and does that makes me feel this way. More than I want to really go into here and now.
At this point I really can't decied if what I'm feeling is genuine, or if post pregnancy hormones are making me kinda paranoid or what. Part of me is worried that this is some sort of PPD, but I'm really happy when I'm with my baby and love her and love taking care of her. It's just everything else that has me on edge.
Anyone else having or had any issues along these lines. Or am I nuts? And do you think I should try and talk to my Hubby about how I've been feeling. ( part of me is scared of re-starting the past summers fight again)
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Re: Stressed and paranoid about DH
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Despite whatever craziness has been brought on by hormones, you probably need to talk to DH. Obviously, with everything else going on, you guys are stressed and it's taking a toll on your marriage. I would assume he's probably feeling pretty bummed about being laid off with a new baby he's supposed to provide for. He may be more irritable and more likely to snap at you. Ask him how the whole dad thing is going for him. You might want to say you are worried about him bc you feel like he hasn't smiled since your DD was born -if he won't take it as a judgment. Then you can tell him how you are feeling as a mom/wife. Share your concern about being overly anxious, ask for his opinion on it. You guys are on the same team, so you need to lean on eachother during these stressful times (even though it can be a guy thing to pull away and be distant).
It sounds like whatever started this summer with the fight is unresolved. You might also want to consider marriage counseling. It saved my marriage and really helped us resolve the annoying little things we do that unintentionally hurt the other person. It sucks at first to delve into the messiness, but when you come out on the other side, things are so much better,