I am thisclose to defriending...

lisaroo · December 2009

I have a friend who likes to get on me about childbirth choices. She doesn't understand why it isn't routine for everyone to schedule their c-section as soon as they find out they are pregnant. She doesn't think anyone should have a vaginal birth because "why, when you can have a no muss, no fuss delivery planned ahead of time?" I opted for a med-free vaginal birth.

I actually stopped talking to her for awhile during my first pregnancy because she began every conversation with "You're not still planning that ridiculous natural birth crap, are you?" and it really started to tick me off.

Anyway, I posted the CNN c-section article on my FB and commented that I liked how it encouraged women to ask questions when faced with a non-emergency c-section. She wrote a long comment on how if she ever gets pg, she won't second guess a c-section and just because it's not for me blah blah...

My problem isn't that she wants something different from me. That's allowed lol. My problem is that she has never even been pg, doesn't even know if she wants kids! So how is she always lecturing me on childbirth?! And she is so condescending about it.

She also said that I need to respect everyone who gives birth regardless because it is such a huge deal to bring a child into the world and be devoted to that work, etc. I KNOW! I have a child!

Sorry for the vent. I don't know why I let it get to me, I know she is just pushing my buttons...

mieuxmieux · December 2009

I think I would have to defriend her. Wow...

*NNO* · December 2009

Defriend her...NOW. She is not worth the stress.

redstars93 · December 2009

I have defriended people for much less (like updating too many times about what kind of sandwich they're eating).

this would have been a no brainer.

MrsVictoriaB · December 2009

Eek I would defriend her too. I wouldn't like the constant stress and arguing with a twit

southernbelle82 · December 2009

LOL at the attitude she has on c/s. Does she not realize the c/s recovery is longer than vaginal? Does she not realize that recovery hurts like he11? (before anyone gets upset, I know vaginal recovery hurts too...I'm not saying it doesn't, just saying c/s recovery isn't a bed of roses like this moron thinks) Does she not understand that c/s delivery can have complications and leave scar tissue which could limit the number of children you can have?

I'm obviously not anti-c/s since that's what I ended up with, but her attitude is annoying. Especially the fact that she doesn't even have a kid!

ETA: I'd defriend her too.

lanie30 · December 2009

I'd just ignore her. I do laugh when people think that c sections are just super easy and "the easy way out." I had one. Wasn't my finest hour. I get why women like them, like scheduling them etc.. and I can certainly see that side of things. But the recovery was beyond painful. I still can't feel anything from my bellybutton on down, and I couldn't sit up without assistance for the first 3 weeks.

It was way more painful than what I experienced during labour.

carolinag · December 2009

hahahaha. i was just thinking "ah different strokes for different folks" until you said she's never had a kid. brilliant. she sounds like a whackadoodle.

lisaroo · December 2009

That's the thing, if she had experienced one or the other, I would be able to have the discussion with her. But she hasn't.

Southern - I once mentioned to her that the recovery is longer and more complicated. She flippantly answered "Oh, we're VERY fast healers in my family. I would be easy." LOL.

southernbelle82 · December 2009

lanie30:
and I couldn't sit up without assistance for the first 3 weeks.

Ugh yes that part was AWFUL.

violetvirgo · December 2009

i always "hide" these types of crazies. i have a few in my life that get soooo defensive on articles i post, etc. they get the "limited profile" group

J+O · December 2009

Wow, what a PITA.

I would say, "talk to me when you're prego!" That will tell her to STFU till she's at least in the same ballpark as you.

AND! If she upset you with her comments she made when you were prego I would let it be known!! Tell her you thought she would be so much more supportive, and you were just posting that article for all the mothers who are not being supported in their decision and they have a right to ask questions and be active in their medical decisions.

southernbelle82 · December 2009

lisaroo:
Southern - I once mentioned to her that the recovery is longer and more complicated. She flippantly answered "Oh, we're VERY fast healers in my family. I would be easy." LOL.

LOL what a clueless moron. She'll find out soon enough.

iris427 · December 2009

I think WE should be FB friends LOL. I would like to see the article you are talking about.

I would be really annoyed by your friend. Is she someone you see much IRL? Would it create problems in your life if you defriended her? If not, then maybe you should for your own sanity Wink

KatieTheMagnificent · December 2009

She gets a gold star for being The Most Prepared Woman That May or May Not Want Children in the Future.

I'd ignore her.

lisaroo · December 2009

iris427:
I think WE should be FB friends LOL. I would like to see the article you are talking about.

I would be really annoyed by your friend. Is she someone you see much IRL? Would it create problems in your life if you defriended her? If not, then maybe you should for your own sanity

YGPM

I used to see her a bunch. Now I find myself avoiding her...I wonder why? lol

mary5198 · December 2009

iris427:
I would be really annoyed by your friend. Is she someone you see much IRL? Would it create problems in your life if you defriended her? If not, then maybe you should for your own sanity

This is what I was thinking!

inbetweendreams · December 2009

Your friend is a fool. I had a c-section, and I would definitely not describe it as "no muss no fuss." Granted, it was unplanned but still.

I'd nix her. Quickly. It's fine she has a different opinion, but her behavior is not that of a friend.

madhatter2003 · December 2009

I would have already defriended her

iris427 · December 2009

Ditto to what all the other c/s moms in this thread said. No muss no fuss? LMAO They had to get a senior physician to come look at the buckets of blood in the OR to decide whether I had bleed to much or not. Sounds like a whole lotta mess to me.

mamamoos · December 2009

J+O:
Wow, what a PITA.

I would say, "talk to me when you're prego!" That will tell her to STFU till she's at least in the same ballpark as you.

AND! If she upset you with her comments she made when you were prego I would let it be known!! Tell her you thought she would be so much more supportive, and you were just posting that article for all the mothers who are not being supported in their decision and they have a right to ask questions and be active in their medical decisions.

yup. tell her, "i'm posting this for people like me who have unsupportive twit friends like you." ok, that might not go over so well, but man would i be tempted....

femmeftle9 · December 2009

Can't we all just get along??? LOL

Seriously, I just do not understand WHY people get so uptight about childbirth choice.

You do what you want, I do what I want, we are happy, the end.

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