Tell me about your PPD

Breezer80 · December 2009

Is it possible to just suddenly kick in? Even, like, 4 1/2 months postpartum? I am wondering if this is real PPD or exhaustion from her 4 month wakeful hell ...

evhamm · December 2009

mine kicked in in the past month... prozac is helping.

chucknorris11 · December 2009

evhamm:
mine kicked in in the past month... prozac is helping.

This but I'm on Zoloft.

OSUtiff · December 2009

Effexor

tdalbey21 · December 2009

I can't tell if mine is PPD or extreme PMS mixed with exhaustion.

sam19 · December 2009

It is possible to develop PPD anytime in the first year PP. It could just be exhaustion but if you are concerned then talk to your doctor.

Twin.Peaks · December 2009

I started having real issues when they were 3 months old, saw a doc and got meds at 3 1/2 months and then finally admitted to myself there was a problem and started taking the meds at 4 1/2 months.. Are you just starting to have issues or are you just now realizing what is going on? There is a difference. Either way if you are feeling that PPD is even a option I would call and go see your OB.

C.Mo · December 2009

It is possible. It hit me like a ton of bricks at 4 months. I was trying to be supermom and have the house perfect, me perfect, baby perfect, and work perfect. I wasn't asking DH for help much and, being a man and all, he didn't offer. I just couldn't do it anymore. I started feeling out of control and like I was never going to have fun again. All I did was go to work, come home, and do more work, then repeat. I felt like my life was over and the reality of having a BABY fully sank in at that point. It was rough.

This is what I did to fix it: First, I talked with DH. I told him exactly what I wanted done, when, and how often. Luckily, I have an awesome DH and he did a 180 to help me. I can now come home from work sometimes and just be with DD. Not always doing dishes and making bottles.

Secondly, I went to my OB and told him about it. I was nervous because I didn't think I needed medicine, and he agreed. He told me this is VERY common, and between lack of sleep, the novelty wearing off, and just such a drastic life change, you are bound to get down at some point. His remedy? GET OUT OF THE HOUSE and do fun things, and rest. This led to #3:

Finally, we started going fun places. Parades, dinner, people's houses, anything. You have NO idea how much this helped. I also started going to bed an hour earlier. Things are getting much better now.

Good luck! Talk to your SO and doctor. There are ways to get through it.

Breezer80 · December 2009

Are you all nursing? Has it done anything to your supply?

Breezer80 · December 2009

C.Mo:

It is possible. It hit me like a ton of bricks at 4 months. I was trying to be supermom and have the house perfect, me perfect, baby perfect, and work perfect. I wasn't asking DH for help much and, being a man and all, he didn't offer. I just couldn't do it anymore. I started feeling out of control and like I was never going to have fun again. All I did was go to work, come home, and do more work, then repeat. I felt like my life was over and the reality of having a BABY fully sank in at that point. It was rough.

This is what I did to fix it: First, I talked with DH. I told him exactly what I wanted done, when, and how often. Luckily, I have an awesome DH and he did a 180 to help me. I can now come home from work sometimes and just be with DD. Not always doing dishes and making bottles.

Secondly, I went to my OB and told him about it. I was nervous because I didn't think I needed medicine, and he agreed. He told me this is VERY common, and between lack of sleep, the novelty wearing off, and just such a drastic life change, you are bound to get down at some point. His remedy? GET OUT OF THE HOUSE and do fun things, and rest. This led to #3:

Finally, we started going fun places. Parades, dinner, people's houses, anything. You have NO idea how much this helped. I also started going to bed an hour earlier. Things are getting much better now.

Good luck! Talk to your SO and doctor. There are ways to get through it.

Cmo - this almost brought me to tears. This is it exactly. I feel so ... isolated. Like everything is about the baby. I feel like I can't leave our house, like we're never going to enjoy ourselves again - and then feel guilty for feeling like that. She goes to bed at 8, so we can barely even go out to dinner, nevermind out to a friends house ... I miss all that, but since being back to work I've felt guilty for wanting any time other than baby time ...

evhamm · December 2009

yes nursing and according to motherisk prozac only gets into bm 6.9% (less than 10% they don't worry) and it hasnt affected my supply... actually, the opposite. Since I'm less stressed, I've got more milk to feed DS.

C.Mo · December 2009

Ohhh damn that isolated feeling!! I had that too. Now, when I say that we do fun things, it's pretty much all on the weekends, and we always bring DD. During the week, we are just too busy between playing with DD, cleaning up, cooking, and then bedtime routine. But for awhile, we wouldn't do ANYTHING on the weekends. DH is kind of a homebody, so he would just want to lounge all day. I would feel bad about not doing anything, so I would clean. I literally felt like sleep was the only escape from work, and then I wasn't getting much of that either. It really was horrible.

And the guilt! My God the guilt is horrible. I felt like I should be smiling 24-7 because of my baby, but it just doesn't work that way. Being a mom is VERY hard. They don't tell you that. There is no way of getting over that aspect, you just have to let it go. I know, easier said than done.

Try going to a Target or lunch or something this weekend. Just load up the baby, a friend or relative, and go. It sounds difficult, but once you're there, it's wonderful.

PM me if you ever need to chat. Smile

wendylea73 · December 2009

I've been on Prozac since 4 wks PP and it definately helps keep me from flying off the handle. I just feel much more calm in stressful situations especially dealing with my SO and having to take the brunt of all responsibilities w/LO and keeping the house in order.

But I'll tell you last night when I got home from work to make dinner, the load of towels I had in the dryer were in a pile on the chair...all the 1/2 empty Xmas decoration boxes from the night before were still sitting all over the place...oh and the clean dishwasher wasn't emptied...and there sat Daddy playing his ps3, I have to admit I was pretty flamed.

Nazir · December 2009

I've been feeling more anxious and overwelmed recently. I started Paxil today. Hope it helps!

KV909 · December 2009

Thank you for this post! I am usually just a lurker on here, but your post hit home. This past week has hit me pretty hard. We don't go anywhere, as the ped recommended staying away from crowded places due to flu season. Hello? It's the holidays....even the gas station is crowded. I told my boyfriend that we HAVE to start getting out and doing things...it will help all of us. We can't keep her in a bubble forever (she is 12 weeks old). I'm glad to know you have been able to make some changes without meds. I'm afraid of the side effects of the medications. I did call my OB yesterday, and have been playing phone tag with them ever since. Waiting to see what they suggest. I hate feeling like I should be this smiling, happy, fun-loving person all of the time. Being a mom is hard work!

TommysGirl56 · December 2009

I can't pinpoint exactly when my PPD set in. I know I did not see the doctor about it until 4 months, though.

I was feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I had sooo much going on in my life. DH and I had bought a house shortly before Allie was born and it needed a ton of work. I was so sick with GD and pre-e while pg, I couldn't get anything done. Once Allie was here, we had some issues with BFing and colic. I was becoming more and more stressed. And the way the house was really upset me. Finally, when I went back to work 10 weeks PP, I snapped. Suddenly, I was crying all the time. I was coming home and just going to bed, while complaining about not having time to spend with Allie. I was losing my patience with DH and the dog. I was so sad it hurt deep down inside. I felt like I couldn't contain the negative feelings anymore. I wanted to be able to do everything, and I did not want help.

I was started on Zoloft. It did not affect my supply at all. It is safe for BFing and pregnancy.

If you are having these feelings of being overwhelmed, please see your doctor. It is amazing how much better you can feel. You deserve to feel better!

Good luck to you!

KV909 · December 2009

TommysGirl56:

I can't pinpoint exactly when my PPD set in. I know I did not see the doctor about it until 4 months, though.

I was feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I had sooo much going on in my life. DH and I had bought a house shortly before Allie was born and it needed a ton of work. I was so sick with GD and pre-e while pg, I couldn't get anything done. Once Allie was here, we had some issues with BFing and colic. I was becoming more and more stressed. And the way the house was really upset me. Finally, when I went back to work 10 weeks PP, I snapped. Suddenly, I was crying all the time. I was coming home and just going to bed, while complaining about not having time to spend with Allie. I was losing my patience with DH and the dog. I was so sad it hurt deep down inside. I felt like I couldn't contain the negative feelings anymore. I wanted to be able to do everything, and I did not want help.

I was started on Zoloft. It did not affect my supply at all. It is safe for BFing and pregnancy.

If you are having these feelings of being overwhelmed, please see your doctor. It is amazing how much better you can feel. You deserve to feel better!

Good luck to you!

Did/do you have any side effects from the Zoloft?

TommysGirl56 · December 2009

KV909:
TommysGirl56:

I can't pinpoint exactly when my PPD set in. I know I did not see the doctor about it until 4 months, though.

I was feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I had sooo much going on in my life. DH and I had bought a house shortly before Allie was born and it needed a ton of work. I was so sick with GD and pre-e while pg, I couldn't get anything done. Once Allie was here, we had some issues with BFing and colic. I was becoming more and more stressed. And the way the house was really upset me. Finally, when I went back to work 10 weeks PP, I snapped. Suddenly, I was crying all the time. I was coming home and just going to bed, while complaining about not having time to spend with Allie. I was losing my patience with DH and the dog. I was so sad it hurt deep down inside. I felt like I couldn't contain the negative feelings anymore. I wanted to be able to do everything, and I did not want help.

I was started on Zoloft. It did not affect my supply at all. It is safe for BFing and pregnancy.

If you are having these feelings of being overwhelmed, please see your doctor. It is amazing how much better you can feel. You deserve to feel better!

Good luck to you!

Did/do you have any side effects from the Zoloft?

Not that I have noticed so far. One of the side effects listed on the paperwork was "weight loss". I am hoping that one kicks in... But seriously, I've only seen improvements in my mood and nothing else.

KV909 · December 2009

TommysGirl56:
KV909:
TommysGirl56:

I can't pinpoint exactly when my PPD set in. I know I did not see the doctor about it until 4 months, though.

I was feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I had sooo much going on in my life. DH and I had bought a house shortly before Allie was born and it needed a ton of work. I was so sick with GD and pre-e while pg, I couldn't get anything done. Once Allie was here, we had some issues with BFing and colic. I was becoming more and more stressed. And the way the house was really upset me. Finally, when I went back to work 10 weeks PP, I snapped. Suddenly, I was crying all the time. I was coming home and just going to bed, while complaining about not having time to spend with Allie. I was losing my patience with DH and the dog. I was so sad it hurt deep down inside. I felt like I couldn't contain the negative feelings anymore. I wanted to be able to do everything, and I did not want help.

I was started on Zoloft. It did not affect my supply at all. It is safe for BFing and pregnancy.

If you are having these feelings of being overwhelmed, please see your doctor. It is amazing how much better you can feel. You deserve to feel better!

Good luck to you!

Did/do you have any side effects from the Zoloft?

Not that I have noticed so far. One of the side effects listed on the paperwork was "weight loss". I am hoping that one kicks in... But seriously, I've only seen improvements in my mood and nothing else.

Good to know. I am going in this week to talk to my OB, but am hesitant to go on meds as I've heard there are some bad side effects.

purple_posies · December 2009

KV909:

Good to know. I am going in this week to talk to my OB, but am hesitant to go on meds as I've heard there are some bad side effects.

I won't lie to you ... there CAN be. But sweetie, the benefits far outweigh the risks. There's always a different AD that you can try. It's like finding the right birth control pill, y'know?

Side effects for one on a certain pill, may be completely absent or different for another. When I was on Prozac, it gave me heart palpitations and nightmares; for others, it's a miracle drug. When I was on Zoloft, I was more anxious and gained 100 lb in a year. But it helps some people mentally and also helps them lose weight. Right now I'm on several medications as I've recently been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder, type two, but I started off on Pristiq. This is the third anti-depressant I've been on - but it works for me. Key words: it works FOR ME. It might not work for anyone else. I know myself and one other man have had good results. I've not met anyone else on it to say that they, too, had good results or perhaps bad results.

Give it a shot. Really, you don't have to be on them for the rest of your life ... but seriously, it can make a world of difference. After a while, you really forget what it can be like to feel normal.

Imagine waking from the nightmare of depression after years ... perhaps decades. It was like coming out of a fog for me. I never knew I could feel the way that I do now ... and while I still have my moments (like everyone, I'm sure), I'm much better off now, on meds, than I was before.

KV909 · December 2009

purple_posies:
KV909:

Good to know. I am going in this week to talk to my OB, but am hesitant to go on meds as I've heard there are some bad side effects.

I won't lie to you ... there CAN be. But sweetie, the benefits far outweigh the risks. There's always a different AD that you can try. It's like finding the right birth control pill, y'know?

Side effects for one on a certain pill, may be completely absent or different for another. When I was on Prozac, it gave me heart palpitations and nightmares; for others, it's a miracle drug. When I was on Zoloft, I was more anxious and gained 100 lb in a year. But it helps some people mentally and also helps them lose weight. Right now I'm on several medications as I've recently been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder, type two, but I started off on Pristiq. This is the third anti-depressant I've been on - but it works for me. Key words: it works FOR ME. It might not work for anyone else. I know myself and one other man have had good results. I've not met anyone else on it to say that they, too, had good results or perhaps bad results.

Give it a shot. Really, you don't have to be on them for the rest of your life ... but seriously, it can make a world of difference. After a while, you really forget what it can be like to feel normal.

Imagine waking from the nightmare of depression after years ... perhaps decades. It was like coming out of a fog for me. I never knew I could feel the way that I do now ... and while I still have my moments (like everyone, I'm sure), I'm much better off now, on meds, than I was before.

Thank you for the encouragement. I am anxious to see what my OB will say and what the next steps will be. Is medication always the answer for PPD, or does it vary from OB to OB/ patient to patient? At this point, I'm just guessing that I am suffering from PPD. My DD is 12 weeks old and I still have the overwhelmed, mad at BF, can't do anything right so I'll just cry about it feeling.

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