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amjra
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Joining Up - Lost twins 23w5d
amjra
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Hello everyone,
Well here I am at last after 4 months of non-stop worring - after finding out 8 weeks. We were diagnosed as having MoMo twins very early on -(identical twins / same sac / risk of death from cord compression / entanglement) and we where trying to make it to 26 weeks for full-time inpatient monitoring.
We lost our identical twin girls at 23w5ds on Monday. We made it so far, I thought that I might be one of the lucky ones. They just stopped moving in the middle of the night - and our MFM said that it probably happened within 45 minutes and that even IF we knew it was happening, we would not have gotten to the hospital in time - and even if we where there - they could not do anything for me as the babies were too young.
So, right now we are dealing with stuff like having to arrange for the remains, choosing between D&E or labor, informing everyone etc. We decided on the D&E because I thought that seeing them would be just way too hard for us. Also, since they are twins and in a bad positon, my doctor informed me that I would probably end up with a partial D&E, or cesarean, right after labor. *shudder* So, I still look about 9 months pregnant as twins are huge.
We named them Priyanka and Asha - as DH is from India. These where our first babies. We have spent the last two days just crying our eyes out. We are pretty numb right about now.
Please send some T&P my way for the D&E tomorrow. I am terrifed. Did anyone get footprints after a D&E?
Other things on our minds are wanting to try again / but being TERRIFIED to do so.
Thanks Angela (Amjra)
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Re: Joining Up - Lost twins 23w5d
So very sorry for your precious loss.
If you want footprints, just be sure to ask. I don't know that they can do that after a D&E, but, it never hurts to ask.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is such a horrible thing to go through. We lost twin boys at 19+ weeks. They just decided it was time to come and I delivered them naturally. I had a D&E after as well. Because my boys were delivered we did get clay footprints and regular footprints as well as pictures. I am not sure that they are able to do that with a D&E. I would ask your doctor if that is something that you are really interested in having. I absolutely love having these memories of my boys...you can see their little footprints below.
GL tomorrow. You are in my thoughts. ((Hugs))
I am so sorry for your loss. We lost our daughter about a week before yours, and have been devastated as well. I delivered her naturally (with the help of an epidural) and it was actually very easy. However, I did end up having to get a D&C as the placenta would not budge. It is a long sad road ahead, but just try and be good to yourself and allow yourself enough time to grieve. Remember we are all here in support of you.
(((HUGS)))
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Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry for your loss. I think I remember you from the tri boards. Lots of thoughts & prayers as you get through the day. I hope you are able to find as much comfort and support here as I have. :Hugs:
I lost Haleigh at 23w 5d. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I know the pain that you suffer... it is extraordinary to say the least.
This is an amazing board w/ amazing women. Unforteately, there are a handful that lost twins near the same gestation as you. I hope that you find some peace on this board....
If you ever want to talk, let me know...
HUGE (((hug))
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I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my twin girls at 23w. My circumstances were different than yours, but the loss is just so great. My girls were fraternal twins. I was diagnosed with a pretty severe case of pre-eclampcia borderlining eclampcia from what I understood.
I went through labor and that was followed by a D&C. I don't know what the late loss D&C process is so I really don't know if they will give you footprints, but if that is something that you want than I strongly recommend that you talk to your doctor and see if that is an option for you.
As far ask trying again, I think that we are all scared. Whether our children had problems or if their passing was due to something that just happened. We are all scared in one way or another. I really hope that we all will get a sticky baby soon!
I am so sorry for your losses.
If you want to read about my labor & delivery experience at 21 weeks, I just posted it on my blog a few days ago. It was a difficult experience, but I'm glad that I did it--and I totally understand your reasons to not want to do it.
The fear of the unknown was huge for me, so I just wanted to offer to share.
Many, many ((HUGS)) to you.
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I am sorry. Any mc is devistating let alone a late loss. Unfortunately you will not be able to get footprints from a D & E. I discussed this with my OB and he gave me details about what they do. (((HUGS)))