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blessed82
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New and wishing I would have discovered thebump 9 months ago.
blessed82
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My son Alexander was born March 3, 2009. Due to an infection that crossed into the amniotic sac my precious baby was delivered an 15 weeks and 3 days. The autopsy showed that he was a strong, healthy baby that wasn't ready to meet the world. He was such a fighter and his precious heart beat for nearly an hour while I held him and loved on him. At 15 1/2 weeks this is unheard of, but I know that my miracle hour was a gift from God. My DH was on business and was unable to get home in time for the birth, as it all happened so fast. Luckily my parents were there for support and thanks to technology my DH was able to be on the phone for the entire experience.
I had tried to find something like this website right after it happened but sadly only stumbled onto this site a few days ago. I'm so blessed to have had that time with Alexander and to have walked away with pictures and the blankets he layed upon, but not a day goes by that I don't miss having him in my arms.
Has anyone else had an experience similar to this? An infection of the amniotic fluid?
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Re: New and wishing I would have discovered thebump 9 months ago.
Wow. ?I can't believe he was even able to survive for an hour being born so early. ?What a strong little guy!
?I don't remember who posted it, but I remember just reading last night about a woman who lost twins due to an infection of the amniotic fluid. ?(At least that's what I remember reading. ?I hope I'm correct and not just making things up.) ??
?I am sorry that it took you so long to find this board but am happy that you're here. ?I'm sure you'll find a lot of support and strength here. ?I know a lot of us already have!?
BFP #2 4/13/10. Bridget born 12/28/10
BFP #3 Finn born 8/11/15
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I lost my twins due to pre-eclampsia on April 13th this year at exactly 23 weeks.
I know it isn't quite the same, and I don't think that even two identical situations are the same for any 2 mothers. We go through a lot of the same emotions and feelings, we think a lot of the same things and we have the same tendency to feel bitter and jealous and angry not only at the world but at Mother's that are lucky enough to have their children and not see how truly blessed they are.
I mean no offense to anyone with what I am about to say, I swear I don't. I have had both late and early losses and I am not diminishing the pain of either. But I do feel there is a different form of grieving with a late loss than there is an early loss. Like I said I am not saying the pain is different I am just saying that it is different.
Like you I was blessed with being able to meet my girls face to face. I got the gowns they wore, pictures, blankets, foot prints and 2 days with them in my room. Mind you they were born silent, but I wouldn't have had it any other way. To hold them and tell them all the things I still had to say.
Ok wow... tangent much? Lol. Sorry about that. I just wanted you to know that you have found a great place, I didn't find it until probably 3 months ago. And I promise late IS better than never. I think that you will find a connection here. Whether it be with the list as a whole of individual posters, I think that you will find the support, love and understanding that we all come here looking for. My thoughts are with you and your family!
I am so sorry for your loss. You are absolutely right-what a miracle your son was. I'm so glad you were able to hold him and that he was with you for so long, and likewise so sorry your DH wasn't there with you.
I hope you'll find support here.
miscarriage on 11/26/09 at 5w6d
It's definitely better late than never, and I'm so glad you found us all. The women here are super supportive, caring and understanding, and we all know (to one degree or another) what losing our babies feels like, unfortunately. I truly believe there's no better place to come to when you need advice, friendship, empathy and guidance. I'm so sorry you lost your strong little son - it sounds like he was quite a miracle to have stayed with you for a while.
Hopefully this board will ease your healing, and help bring you peace in companionship...
Jenn
IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN
Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10
BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11
Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11
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I'm so very sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine. I just can't. I'm so glad you found us and hope we can offer you support as you grieve and celebrate the life of your little boy. How amazing and how strong he was!
T&P to you.
Wow, that is amazing that your son made it an hour at 15 weeks! Wow. What precious time that must've been to spend together. I'm so sorry for your loss, though.
We have a late loss check in group that chats on Wednesdays--we keep a list that's separated by condition that you could search through. I seem to recall infections, but I can't remember if they were cord infections or fluid (and I don't know if one leads to the other).
Here's the link to this week's check-in... This post has a link to the week before's post that has the entire list of members of this group and what their children died of. I hope you can find someone there to connect with, it has been helpful to me to connect with people whose babies died of the same condition.
Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss. We lost our son almost 4 weeks ago now.
I was exactly 18 weeks pregnant. There was a complete absence of amniotic fluid around the baby-somehow my water broke and all the fluid leaked out. I had been bleeding most of the pregnancy, and just didn't notice.
There is nothing more beautiful than being able to hold and see your child; I'm glad you had that opportunity. We delivered as well and were able to spend some time with our son, although his heart was not beating when he was born.
Glad you found the board. It helps to know there are other women out there with the same heartache. I hate that other women have to go through this, but, it's great to be able to chat with those that have.
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I was lurking but wanted to respond to your post. I lost my baby Grace at 18 weeks March 09 due to chorioamnionitis (infection in the amniotic fluid). My situation was very much like yours. Grace was strong and healthy, just born too early due to the infection in my body.
Im so sorry your DH wasnt able to be there. But Im so glad that you go to spend time with Alexander before he passed on. My Grace lived for 4 1/2 hours at 18 weeks which is also unheard of but I treasure every moment we had with her.
Im so incredibly sorry for your loss. And I pray that you are not offended by the ticker in my siggy. I have been in your shoes. {{hugs}} If you want to talk about the situation more please feel free to PM me anytime!
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I lost my son at 18 weeks due to an infection.
The doctors noticed 4 days prior to losing the baby that my aminioc fluid was low and my cervix was measuring 2.3. My cervix was never checked offically prior to that visit. The doctor said we will never know if the bacterial infection caused the cervix to shortened or if I had a short /weak cervix and that made my chances of getting an infection greater.
Email me if you have any questions.
I had an early-ish loss (8w2d) and I agree completely. You could lose a parent at age 10 or age 45....the pain would be there in both cases but it would be different. Just.....different.
When I read about late losses and hear the things the women say about what they're going through I often think that I can't relate to it at all. I can relate to the PAIN, but I can't relate to the specific feelings.