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Working moms: is anyone afraid of getting mommy tracked?

Julia-HenryJulia-Henry member
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I must admit, I'm a little worried about this. I've worked really hard and I'm worried that the opportunities just won't come along as often after #2 arrives. My husband and I are in the same industry, and nobody ever seems to worry about whether or not he can do the job. Even worse, some people seem to assume that I'll take jobs at a lower level of responsibility or salary, just because I'm a mom - or that I don't "need" the more interesting jobs because I have a dh to provide for me!

How about you? Do you ever worry about this?

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Re: Working moms: is anyone afraid of getting mommy tracked?

  • D*sMayBrideD*sMayBride
    I worked through my first two and am staying home with number 3 any day now. Keep open the possibility that it's likely you'll "mommy track" yourself. In the first 18 months of daycare they get sick quite often (even if you BF) and you'll be out with a sick child a lot. If you are BF'ing, you'll be pumping a couple times per day, and you may shorten your hours as little babies sleep best with a 6:30 or 7pm bedtime, so you'll want after work time with the child. Then once they get older you'll be out a lot for parent teacher conferences, activities and parades and shows at daycare, etc. and the children will always come first.
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  • fellesferiefellesferie member

    In my company of ~120 people, approximately 10 of us have children. It creates an atmosphere that ranges from hostile to nonunderstanding about kid/family issues. They let me take off work when my kid is sick and I HAVE to keep him home from school, but they refuse to let me work from home or have any flexibility with my schedule, which forces me to either submit work late or rely on someone else to cover for me?which sucks. 

    I had been on a promotion track (from writer to editor), and as soon as I announced my pregnancy, that evaporated. I'd also been told that I was in line for a raise, and that evaporated?although that might have more to do with the financial climate.

    It's all a big part of why I'm not returning here after the baby's birth. 

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  • Anna&MattAnna&Matt member
    I definitely worry about it especially since I will be out during our busy season. The past 4 years I have worked 60-80+ hour weeks from Feb - April and now that I will be out during that I worry that it's going to totally screw my potential for raise/bonus/promotions this year. I also worry that when I go back and put my foot down a bit more about how many hours I work I will get backlash from that - but my baby and family come first. Always. So I think I will just have to live with the possibility of being mommy tracked.
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  • TimegTimeg

    I personally want to quit and work part-time. I use so much leave already, because I have to take off whenever my daughter is sick, there is some kind of emergency, or my mom is ill and cannot watch her. Plus, when I was BFing, I had to take extra time to pump.

     What I hate is that right now, when I have to work, people treat me like I'm a moron because I have "pregnancy brain." It's really not that bad and I feel like I am being under utilized in a lot of ways...frustrating!

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