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How many people have told you (clicky poll)

that it happened for a reason? [Poll]

Re: How many people have told you (clicky poll)

  • my mil and  HUSBAND.

    oy.

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  • I must have heard it 20 times at my MIL's viewing and funeral. Though, In some ways a do believe it. She had grandchildren waiting for her in heaven. But I still wish we had them here with us.
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  • Okay, totally read that wrong.

    MANY. And I hate them all.

  • imageShellShockedMama:

    my mil and  HUSBAND.

    oy.

    Talk about close to home.... I am sorry, hun. That must be hurtful!

  • Too many to count.

     

    And of course:

     

    He's in a better place.  As though there is ANY better place for a baby than in their mother's arms.

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  • I know I might be in the minority, but no one has said that to us.  Why did you not put a 0 there?  That is what I would vote for...
  • imagedenise_m:

    Too many to count.

     

    And of course:

     

    He's in a better place.  As though there is ANY better place for a baby than in their mother's arms.

    In your situation... I would agree the best place for him is with you... and I am so, so sorry he is not, hun.

    For me, she really is in a better place. Haleigh suffered so much. This world was cruel to her and caused her much pain and discomfort.... but, I could see how that statement would be hurtful in your situation.

    (((hug)))

  • imageambrandau2:

    Okay, totally read that wrong.

    MANY. And I hate them all.

    did you read it as "how many ppl have YOU told it happened for a reason?"

    cuz that was how i read it the first time. 

     

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  • imageTexas77again:
    imageambrandau2:

    Okay, totally read that wrong.

    MANY. And I hate them all.

    did you read it as "how many ppl have YOU told it happened for a reason?"

    cuz that was how i read it the first time. 

     

    Yep! I was trying to come up with an answer, put something in and then thought I should go back and re-read the title.

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  • imageTexas77again:
    imageambrandau2:

    Okay, totally read that wrong.

    MANY. And I hate them all.

    did you read it as "how many ppl have YOU told it happened for a reason?"

    cuz that was how i read it the first time. 

     

    Exactly how I read it too! 

  • imagejumagirl:
    imageTexas77again:
    imageambrandau2:

    Okay, totally read that wrong.

    MANY. And I hate them all.

    did you read it as "how many ppl have YOU told it happened for a reason?"

    cuz that was how i read it the first time. 

    Exactly how I read it too! 

    Did I write it wrong????

  • imageroxyttandme:
    imagejumagirl:
    imageTexas77again:
    imageambrandau2:

    Okay, totally read that wrong.

    MANY. And I hate them all.

    did you read it as "how many ppl have YOU told it happened for a reason?"

    cuz that was how i read it the first time. 

    Exactly how I read it too! 

    Did I write it wrong????

    No, I think it's just playing tricks on us. Might be the booze :)

  • imageambrandau2:
    imageroxyttandme:
    imagejumagirl:
    imageTexas77again:
    imageambrandau2:

    Okay, totally read that wrong.

    MANY. And I hate them all.

    did you read it as "how many ppl have YOU told it happened for a reason?"

    cuz that was how i read it the first time. 

    Exactly how I read it too! 

    Did I write it wrong????

    No, I think it's just playing tricks on us. Might be the booze :)

    But if you want to be more clear define "it" as "loss" and that might help...

  • imagesuntoto@gmail.com:
    I know I might be in the minority, but no one has said that to us.  Why did you not put a 0 there?  That is what I would vote for...

    Me too. Not a single person has said that but (a) a lot of people seem to be just not talking to me or acknowledging it (b) most people in my life know I'm an atheist and to keep all that god stuff to themselves. 

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  • imageroxyttandme:
    imagedenise_m:

    Too many to count.

     

    And of course:

     

    He's in a better place.  As though there is ANY better place for a baby than in their mother's arms.

    In your situation... I would agree the best place for him is with you... and I am so, so sorry he is not, hun.

    For me, she really is in a better place. Haleigh suffered so much. This world was cruel to her and caused her much pain and discomfort.... but, I could see how that statement would be hurtful in your situation.

    (((hug)))

     

    I'm sorry :(  Sometimes life just sucks

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  • imagePixiestx:

    I know I might be in the minority, but no one has said that to us.  Why did you not put a 0 there?  That is what I would vote for...

    Me too. Not a single person has said that but (a) a lot of people seem to be just not talking to me or acknowledging it (b) most people in my life know I'm an atheist and to keep all that god stuff to themselves. 

    I have A LOT of IRL friends who have gone through similar losses so they know about it.  Now having said that, I do have IRL friends who have not had losses but have said insensitive things to me, but are not the same as what is asked above...

  • Every time I hear it I want to scream...Really it happened for a reason??? I would love  to know what reason there was for me to lose my baby...See I told you I was bitter and nasty today...lf I hear it again I may have to smack someone!
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