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Getting slack for being on "team green"

Oct03Bride2BeOct03Bride2Be member
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So we found out the gender with DD #1, shared the gender, shared the name and we LOVED the experience. 

This time we decided not to find out.  Partly, because we think this will be our last baby, partly because I think it will help me work towards a VBAC, and mostly, because I am excited for the surprise.

Most people are supporting me, but I have some friends who are telling me I need to rethink my decision. One of the people telling me this just went through a pregancy where she didn't find out.  She keeps telling me it's a bad decision and I shouldn't do it. Ugh...I'm so annoyed.

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  • kate930kate930

    I think people complain either way. I have been told I made the wrong decision for finding out. 

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  • BelhurstBrideBelhurstBride member
    Just ignore her. There isn't much else you can do.
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  • IrishBrideNDIrishBrideND member
    Just ignore them. We get comments because we "ruined the surprise." People are opinionated no matter what you do.
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  • laurasuelaurasue member
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    I think people complain either way. I have been told I made the wrong decision for finding out. 

    This! There's a group on both side to criticize your decision. But you've made it so enjoy it!

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  • hydies33hydies33 member

    I really don't understand why everyone is so opinionated about pregnancy! Especially about things like gender that don't make a difference for the baby's health. I could never be Team Green (I'm too impatient) but I would not care if a friend of mine opted to keep it a surprise. 

    My pregnancy mantra has become, "smile and ignore". 

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  • LexisNunezLexisNunez
    You need to do what you want!  Not what everyone else thinks is right for you.  You and your DH know what is best for your family!  If you want it to be a surprise to experience it that way then I think you should wait.
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  • MorissaWMorissaW
    I feel your pain sister! I am so annoyed at everyone that is pressuring me to find out. We already have 2 girls and a boy. This is our last baby and I want to be team green. It is a PITA though. My grandma is on me everyday about it. I finally told her to shut up yesterday. LOL
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  • kaay16kaay16 member
    This is your pregnancy, you do whatever you want! :) People think I'm crazy I tell them we are waiting to find out (and wanting to go natural is even more bizarre to people) .....It bothered me in the beginning now I could really care less what people say or think.  I don't give a damn about any of their decisions so I smile and let it go in one ear and right out the other...Stick out tongue People are idiots and thats what I have come to realize the past 6 months!
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  • LaurelBeeLaurelBee member

    imageLexisNunez:
    You need to do what you want!  Not what everyone else thinks is right for you.  You and your DH know what is best for your family!  If you want it to be a surprise to experience it that way then I think you should wait.

     

    Agreed- what was right for her does not mean it's right for you and DH!  If she won't stop blabbing about her "mistake" just say maybe you're completely right and I will wish I would've listened to you, but this is something you're committed to

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  • pinkcallalilypinkcallalily member

    I find it really odd that someone who was team green thinks it's a bad idea, unless she wanted to find out and had an uncooperative baby (or she wanted to know and her husband didn't).  Most people love the idea of us not finding out, I think my mom is the only person that wants us to (and she would never say this, but she doesn't seem as excited about waiting as the rest of us).  I figure everyone will know by sometime in April and we can wait they can wait too.

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  • sherina825sherina825 member

    I'm sure it's annoying because you want to feel supported by those you care about, but it's no one's business other than yours and your SO.  I agree w pp saying that it makes no sense how everyone is so opinionated about other people's pregnancies.  If you are happy and comfortable with your decision then go with it.  Tell everyone else Stick out tongue

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  • CiconradCiconrad member
    It's your baby so ignore them.  I don't really understand why anyone would regret being on Team Green.  As long as you have plenty of gender neutral clothing options, I don't understand why this would cause any inconvenience and I think the excitement of finding out in the delivery room would outweigh any negatives.  I would love to be able to hold out and be Team Green....but I know I could never wait that long to know. 
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  • lolagrinninlolagrinnin
    imageOct03Bride2Be:

    Most people are supporting me, but I have some friends who are telling me I need to rethink my decision. One of the people telling me this just went through a pregancy where she didn't find out.  She keeps telling me it's a bad decision and I shouldn't do it. Ugh...I'm so annoyed.

    Bwa-ha-ha!!! I don't think either choice can possibly qualify as a "bad decision". I'm sorry, but that's just stupid. Maybe you could explain to her that things like "married someone who was a chronic liar," "chose to get a St. Bernard while living in a 350 sq. ft. apartment" or "got a tattoo while drunk on spring break from a drunk guy who seemed cute" qualify as bad decisions. Laugh at them. Directly at them. And then mock them for their irrational reasons.

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  • smssy2005smssy2005
    This decision is between you and your husband. Don't listen to anyone else's opinions. That's about them, not you.
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  • MrsEmmMrsEmm

    ugh - im trying to prepare myself for this too. I know people will try to convince me otherwise. :P

    Stick to it! From what I hear its totally worth it!?

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  • chazlewochazlewo member
    hang in there!  the closer you get, the more people around you will be just as excited to have a surprise! (at least that's how i felt when my bff was team green!)  GL!
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  • cdc1982cdc1982 member

    Don't worry too much about it.  Everyone is going to give their opinions, esp when unwanted.

    We're Team Green & thankfully have only had 1 person now thrilled with our choice (to my surprise, it's my preachers wife!!  She's upset because it makes it hard for her to buy a gift)

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