Taking DH to first OB appt?

FishNchips1 · December 2009

My first OB appt will be around 8 weeks pg. They said That all im doing is meeting with a nurse to go over a lot of paperwork and questions, the basics and they will send me to the lab for some tests. Also Then they will schedule a future ultrasound. I was thinking ill just let DH work and not try to get off. Seems silly for him to come if nothing big is happening.

What do you think? Did you take DH?

madhatter2003 · December 2009

If he doesn't come, make sure you know his family health history. The questions on the paperwork cover both sides of the gene pool.

krys0322 · December 2009

Im making mine go...lol even if it is my second baby, I dont wanna go alone. Im a baby that way.

wifeandmama · December 2009

I took mine because I was about 9 weeks and we heard the h/b. This time, he is coming with me, simply because he is on vacation the day of my first appointment!

FishNchips1 · December 2009

good point!

Do they normally try to find the Heartbeat at first ob appt?

kmwills · December 2009

I went by myself. Even had a vaginal u/s, but I just showed him the pics. It's up to you, but if you're just doing paperwork, I'd say no need for him to take off work.

braylei · December 2009

I didn't make my DH go to that, but I did make sure to talk to him about his family history. My DH is only interested in seeing and u/s, and at my 8 week appt. there was not u/s. I think he would have been bored if he actually came. I went at 8 weeks and my OB said it was too early to hear the hb via doppler. I did hear it at my gyn's office via vag. u/s at 6 weeks.

jlthompson19 · December 2009

Mine came, but he didn't really need to. We weren't sure what was going to happen, so I wanted him there. After that though, he only came to the 12 week (first for us) u/s and will only ever come to the 20 week and 32 week ones.

RobynandJason05/06 · December 2009

our 1st appt is in an hr. my Dh is going. He doesnt miss any appts. He was that way last pregnancy too.

Mrs.09 · December 2009

My DH is so excited and wants to be at every appointment so he will be joining me to my 1st next week.

clarku2000 · December 2009

If he doesn't go, make sure you get all of his family history. My first pregnancy (which ended in m/c) DH came and it was great because although I knew most, I didn't know all of his family stuff. My second pregnancy I thought we'd be doing all the boring paperwork/family history stuff again so he didn't go, BUT my OB wanted to date the pregnancy so he ended up doing an internal u/s. DH was disappointed, even though he knew the u/s wasn't planned. Maybe leave it up to your DH to decide if he wants to go?

wifeandmama · December 2009

RobynandJason05/06:
our 1st appt is in an hr. my Dh is going. He doesnt miss any appts. He was that way last pregnancy too.

GL!!! Everything will be fine... tell me about it when you get back!

erincon8 · December 2009

I took mine and we had a u/s and saw the heartbeat. He was really excited after being about to see and also ask questions. After we left, he seemed a lot more relaxed/relieved. I was happy that I bought him b/c I was so overwhelmed (I had had previous problems earlier on) that I forgot a lot of my questions but he was able to ask them.

hbwj · December 2009

My DH did not go to the 8wk appt because I was not having an ultrasound. I go in next week for my 2nd ultrasound and he will be there for that.

Mrs.Handy · December 2009

My first OB appointment was very routine like that. DH came because he had off work. I think he'll come to most appointments if he can. His work is pretty flexible so if I schedule early or late in the day he can come without having to take off. Also, our OB is very close to where he works at.

Pink22_83 · December 2009

My DH wants to come- I he wants to hear from the DR that all is good and I am actually knocked up!

BabyOnBoard1984 · December 2009

DH is coming to mine on Thursday...I think it will make it seem more "real" to both of us! Wink

EricsWife2005 · December 2009

DH didnt come to my first appt this pregnancy, but he did come the last time. The only reason was to let the nurse know of any family med. history that I wasnt aware of. And to help me obtain all the info they had just given me.

IrishBrideND · December 2009

DH came. His health history is very complex so we felt it was important for him to be there. Also, he wanted to get a feel for the place as well.

Lolo555 · December 2009

DH came to my 1st appointment. There was really nothing very complicated about his family's health history, but I probably would have felt like I was missing something if he hadn't been there. While DH was obviously bored and felt kind of awkward and useless, it did make the pregnancy more real to him and he felt good about doing his fatherly duty. I was glad he came because I didn't know what to expect, and it was nice having him there waiting with me because I was pretty nervous. He will be coming to the next appointment because we have an u/s scheduled, but will probably only go to u/s appointments after that.

In short: definitely not necessary for him to go, but if it would make you feel supported and if he's willing, go for it!

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