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V.E.N.T. Bowl game and MIL

hamillmhamillm
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So, DH and I bought tickets to the Outback Bowl.  Well, I thought it would be a nice little "get-away" trip for us after the hustle and bustle of Christmas.  Why I would ever think that, I don't know.  So his mother called last night, and they up and decided to go also, and are coming here to ride with us.  Lovely.  Don't get me wrong, I love them, they are great IL's, but she can drive me INSANE with J. 

I told Jarrett I had originally thought it would be just us, so now he feels bad because he didn't think about that (and doesn't want me to be mad/disappointed and not have a good time).  He said he could talk to his mom about it, but what good would that do?  I told him no, that it would make me look bad for no good reason, and also make me feel bad.  I probably shouldn't have said anything after it was said and done, but I just couldn't keep it in.  Please don't think I'm a horrible person for not wanting a trip with my IL's, but is it too much to ask to have a long weekend with just my little family?

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  • Soon2BMrsWileySoon2BMrsWiley member
    Not horrible at ALL and I would be upset, too.  DH did something similar regarding Christmas and I put my foot down.  He was apologetic at first and didn't get what I was saying, and finally realized that WE need time as a family apart from his family or my family.  In my Bible study we talk about this situation a lot...needing to find a balance b/t what our families expect and what is best for us.
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  • ricejlricejl member
    You are not a horrible person and don't feel bad for saying something to your husband. I've learned that sometimes you have to be very honest with men for them to understand. Plus, everyone needs breaks from their IL's so your feelings make perfect sense. Hopefully you will have a good time because I'm sure Auburn will stomp the Wildcats!
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  • uagirluagirl member
    You are not horrible at all.  DH and I have this discussion way to often since his family lives less than a mile from us.  They think everything should involve a group, and sometimes I just want a chance to do something with only DH. 
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  • SeasideBride06SeasideBride06 member
    Don't feel bad!  We are all "newer" parents, and we do need time away...by ourselves.  If I were you, I would still have DH say something, but that is who I am.  She should understand the need for some alone time.
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  • aubie96aubie96 member

    I can totally understand your feelings and it's perfect timing for just you guys.  I think you should just let J handle it w/his parents, what he thinks is best.   I'm sure he will not say anything so it looks as if it is your feelings.  He can state it a certain way and I'm sure he will.

    I'm going to email you as I'll be down there for WAY too long!!!!

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  • kc0721kc0721 member

    You are not a horrible person for wanting some alone time with your family.  Like Katie said, I would probably let J handle things with his family, I'm sure he wouldnt say anything that would make it out to be bad on your part.   Off the subject, your new siggy pic is ADORABLE!! 

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  • MrsAOMrsAO

    I think you did the right thing by saying something to your husband because even if it doesn't end up being just you guys this time, he'll definitely have that little bug in his ear for the next time you guys plan something.  Although, I realize with parenting and busy schedules it may not be as soon as you'd like.

    If they end up coming, try and use them to your advantage and steal a dinner, go shopping, or something away alone with your DH while his parents watch J.

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  • soon2Bmrs.AGEEsoon2Bmrs.AGEE
    I agree what with all the pps. Yall need some time as a family. Maybe saying something to DH about it helps. I wouldn't want MIL to know either bc its done now. I hope yall can make the best even though it sucks.
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  • Leelee06Leelee06
    Definitely don't feel bad for wanting time for just your family.  It's a good thing you told your DH how you were feeling b/c he needs to remember to consider you before agreeing to things like that in the future. And I agree that there's no point in him talking to his mom about it now.  No good would really come of it.  I'm like you and love my IL's, but sometimes...  You definitely need your own family time, especially as a new parent.  They had their turn at raising their kids and you deserve your own.
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