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Ladies.. help REALLY needed

CarrieLeigh84CarrieLeigh84 member
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So, we had our staff x mas party on Friday, and my very hated co-irker brought her boyfriend.

He spent the entire night calling her names like fatass, b!tch, flirting with our boss' 16 yr old daughter, and tried to make out with another one of our co-workers.

We didn't realize that all this had gone on until this morning when a couple of us were filling in another co-worker who wasn't there.

What the eff is the ettiquete to deal with this? Do we just not say anything to the co-irker? Does one of us pull her aside and tell her? Tongue Tied

Advice PLEASE!!

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  • SonadoraSonadora member
    I would say nothing.
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  • CLAYLIOVERCLAYLIOVER
    If you dont like her....screw it :) but thats just me being a bitter b*tch.
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  • 3ltlones3ltlones member
    OMG! I have no idea, but what an a$$hole. I think I would say something, is there someone who is close to her?
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  • CarrieLeigh84CarrieLeigh84 member

    imageCLAYLIOVER:
    If you dont like her....screw it :) but thats just me being a bitter b*tch.

    I don't like her at all... but no one deserves to be treated like that.

    I guess he was texting other girls all night, making comments about picking up chicks.. just an effing hot mess all night. We didn't realize until this morning, and everyone had their 2 cents to add in. 

    I myself was witness to the attempted make-out... gah.

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  • shall923shall923 member

    Do you think she doesn't know? I mean he didn't just start acting like a jacka$$. If he treats her that way then she probably knows how he is. I hate it when women put up with things like that but for some reason they do.

    If I was close to her I might talk to her but if not I would probably stay out of it.  That is just me.  May not be good advice. 

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  • CarrieLeigh84CarrieLeigh84 member

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    OMG! I have no idea, but what an a$$hole. I think I would say something, is there someone who is close to her?

    No, no one. She's a b!tch to me and the only other girl in the office

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    imageCarrieLeigh84:

    image3ltlones:
    OMG! I have no idea, but what an a$$hole. I think I would say something, is there someone who is close to her?

    No, no one. She's a b!tch to me and the only other girl in the office

     

    I don't know then.  I think she must know, I mean at least the name calling.  Maybe say something like, I was surprised the way he talked to you, or something.  Since she is a b!tch to you anyways.

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  • PixiestxPixiestx

    She might not deserve your friendship, but like you said no one deserves that.  I think it would be an easy decision to tell her because unlike when it's a good friend, you don't have to worry about ruining a relationship.  If she tells you it's none of your business, oh well. 

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  • travers081906travers081906
    Unless ur really close with her... I'd say nothing Hmm
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  • ShellShockedMamaShellShockedMama member

    I wouldn't say anything, only b/c it wouldn't help. A friend of mine was in an abusive relationship and no matter how much I talked to her and whatnot, she didn't leave him until he tried to kill her.

    So, it's useless.

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  • Scout05Scout05 member
    imagePixiestx:

    She might not deserve your friendship, but like you said no one deserves that.  I think it would be an easy decision to tell her because unlike when it's a good friend, you don't have to worry about ruining a relationship.  If she tells you it's none of your business, oh well. 

    I agree. Who cares how she takes it, and at least then your conscience (sp?) is clean,

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    She might not deserve your friendship, but like you said no one deserves that.  I think it would be an easy decision to tell her because unlike when it's a good friend, you don't have to worry about ruining a relationship.  If she tells you it's none of your business, oh well. 

    I agree. Who cares how she takes it, and at least then your conscience (sp?) is clean,

    Ditto this.

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  • Amanda78Amanda78 member
    imagePixiestx:

    She might not deserve your friendship, but like you said no one deserves that.  I think it would be an easy decision to tell her because unlike when it's a good friend, you don't have to worry about ruining a relationship.  If she tells you it's none of your business, oh well. 

    I think I'd have to agree with Pixiestx.  I don't think you have to list out every offense-but wouldn't you want to know if your BF was hitting on the boss's daughter at least?

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  • denise_mdenise_m

    I'm willing to bet she not only realizes this but has low self-esteem issues and that is why she's such a ***.

     

    What about trying to take her to lunch or something and then maybe bring it up and see how it goes?

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  • sinisterkat01sinisterkat01
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    I'm willing to bet she not only realizes this but has low self-esteem issues and that is why she's such a ***.


     

    I agree with this.  Although it is not your responsibility, she might appreciate a kind gesture from one of you.  It's not like she gets any at home.  I think she should know if he was hitting on/attempting to make out with other co-workers.  If she is a total biotch, I am wrong to think that she should be asked to leave him at home next time, because his behavior was inappropriate for a work party?

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  • JayandTay09JayandTay09
    I would say and do nothing..I know that sounds mean but I prefer to mind my own business in that sort of a situation...Maybe she knows but pretends not to, you know sometimes ignorance is bliss...
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  • mamaholicmamaholic member

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    I would say nothing.

    Me too. If he said these things to her in front of people he doesn't know, I'm sure she is well aware because he's probably done it before. If she can't see that he is a no-good-trash-bag-loser herself, then it's her problem. 

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  • Erin RNErin RN
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    She might not deserve your friendship, but like you said no one deserves that.  I think it would be an easy decision to tell her because unlike when it's a good friend, you don't have to worry about ruining a relationship.  If she tells you it's none of your business, oh well. 

    This. I agree, if she gets mad, oh well. Its no loss to you and your coworkers.

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