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TTC After a Loss
Why can't she be happy?? (Vent)
So, I decided that I wouldn't tell a lot of people that I am pg. But I did decide to tell one of my dear friends at work. She also works out with me at the gym. I figure that she'll know when my routine changes that something's up. So I waited all morning to tell her. And then just before lunch, I showed her the picture of the test on my phone (bumping from it now). Her response?? "Ok...so??" I didn't know what to say back to that. Not a congrats or anything!! She is not TTC and has not had any losses (that I know of), so it wasn't a sensitivity issue. Just a "blah" reaction. Now mind you, I am not looking for jump up and down excited (that's DH's job) reaction. But something other than acting like it's really nothing at all would be nice. You're supposed to be my friend!!! Ugh. I just needed to vent. I would love to tell others, but don't want to yet because it is so early. I just wanted one "safe" person to tell who could share in my happiness.
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Re: Why can't she be happy?? (Vent)
Well, to be honest, nobody IRL knows that I miscarried and that it took me so long to get my first BFP. Even some of my super good friends, I just don't want to tell them.
I'm sorry that she wasn't more excited for you, but maybe there are issues in her life that make it hard for her. I don't really expect any of my friends to care about my pregnancy, if they do great, if not, than fine. That's what family and this board is for
Labor Buddy to Blowfish11
Ugh..so sorry to hear that. When I got my second BFP last month, I had a friend tell me "don't get your hopes of b/c of last time"...well I did miscarry again and she finally did apoligize for saying that. Some people just don't know how to react to certain situations.
Take care and a H&H 9 months!
I'm sorry that you're disappointed because it hurts when friends do things that hurt you - but she might not have been intentionally trying to be hurtful you know?
I don't know. My DH has had a similar reaction this time around (as have I). We're guarding our hearts.
Maybe she's doing the same on your behalf?
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well poop on her. She probably secretly wants to be pregnant and is jealous. Screw her.
btw, when i told my mom, all I got was an oh, really. And then when i mc she said yeah well it happens.......
some people are insensitive
I'm sorry - that is a crappy reaction. But just like Shellshocked, I hardly told any of my friends IRL about my m/c, and they don't have any idea that we are trying right now. Maybe there is an underlying issue with her that she hasn't shared with you.
By the way, did you tell DH yet? How did he react? I've missed a couple of days, and I've been curious.
BFP #2- 1/5/10- Baby Jack born at 37w2d, 6lbs 13 oz, 8/24/10
BFP #3- 7/30/11- Baby Boy Due April 3, 2012