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SIL had her first check for dilation today....

bebebluesbebeblues
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Big whoop. I don't really want to hear about it. My MIL called and was watching my nephew for my SIL and said that she gets to start going every week now. (she's 35-36wks?) Anyway.....I really don't care.

Terrible---Yes. I know. I should be smacked.

I'm just doing what I was told by her at the very beginning of her pregnancy----"not letting it affect me" because her pregnancy had nothing to do w/me.....so-----even though we were bff's....Now, I'm not caring..

That's her calling on the phone......

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Re: SIL had her first check for dilation today....

  • bebebluesbebeblues
    Devil I didn't ask how it went.....she was waiting on me to ask---I could tell.......Nope, not letting her pregnancy affect me.....I'm so terrible. God is totally going to smite me for this.....
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  • shall923shall923 member

    I am so sorry. I know the feeling. I have a friend that wants to meet up with us over Christmas. We will all be in the same state for the first time since July. She will be 35 weeks which is 8 weeks ahead of where I should be. The idea of seeing her makes me sick.  

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  • cintimcintim
    You're not terrible.. I probably wouldn't have asked either. Hugs.
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  • Court1Court1
    I feel your pain.  I'm lucky enough to not have any pg family or friends right now (I'm sure I will very soon, there's always someone).  I avoid pg women like the plague.
    Connor Thomas 6/6/08. Discovered missed miscarriage at 17 wks 3 days, D&C 11/25/09. Please, please, please - BFP 5/21/11, EDD 2/1/11. Beta@12DPO=52, Beta@14DPO=158. U/S 7/7/11 shows strong baby measuring a couple days ahead!!! Pregnancy Ticker
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  • jennaanddanjennaanddan member

    You are NOT terrible.  I completely understand your feelings.

    I am dreading going to my family's Christmas this year.  My cousin's wife is 5 months along and instead of comparing bumps (even though I wouldn't have had one anyway), I'm going to spend the whole day waiting until we can leave so I don't have to pretend that I'm "okay" with my loss and oh-so-happy for her. 

    Hugs to you, dear.

    My Babies:
    Reid: 10/30/2010
    Blake: 5/11/2013

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  • travers081906travers081906

    imagebebeblues:
    Devil I didn't ask how it went.....she was waiting on me to ask---I could tell.......Nope, not letting her pregnancy affect me.....I'm so terrible. God is totally going to smite me for this.....
    I dont ask, wait I barley talk to my SIL since my mc!!! Um wow just realized that!! We were becoming BFF's when we were both ku...ummm wow. See it is a damn club!!!!

    She wont even say HI to me on fb either...Crying Some days I miss her but now b/c of all of this... I am realizing the true person she real is!!!

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  • Mia07Mia07

    UG, I'm sorry bebe... if it helps I'd be doing the same thing.

    I can't believe she told you not to let it affect you!  I think I might have blown up at that point and not talked to her since.

    ((hugs))

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  • candycane3tcandycane3t
    ugh Bethany I am sorry, I know the timing is especially going to suck over xmas.....stay strong girl!
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  • andrea zandrea z
    Big hugs dear.... I am so sorry you have to deal with that.  Way to go on not falling into her conversation trap!
    IVF cycle 1-BPF!
    9/13/09-Twin boys born at 23 weeks due to Pprom.
    Ethan and Jacob-our beautiful angel babies lived for 11 minutes and 23 hours.
    Single embryo FET 12/2009-BFP! Blake born 8/2010 at 39 weeks after 36 hours of labor and an emergency c section < IVF 2- BPF! Due April 27th Our Story
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