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BelleBaby
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And MIL wonders why I don't want her to babysit
BelleBaby
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She proved on 3 different occassions yesterday why I dread leaving my LOs alone with her. Ben was standing by holding onto her fingers (which he does all the time). She let go with one hand so he was only holding on to one. She quit paying attention and he wobbled, rotated his little shoulder completely around, and fell. She could have ripped his arm out of the socket (this actually happened to my brother when he was little so I'm totally paranoid about it). Then to pick him up off the floor, SHE PULLED HIM UP BY HIS ARMS!!!!!
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Re: And MIL wonders why I don't want her to babysit
You do realize that you dont' have to let her watch them, right? being a mom doesn't mean she automatically gets to watch them.
My IL's would LOVE to watch DS, but we simply can't let them. Very similar to you- FIL specifically gets distracted VERY easily. You have to pay attention to DS. We just don't trust that he will pay close enough attention.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Just tell him very strongly that carelessness and infants equals injured infants and he wouldn't want to put his sons in danger. Also if he overrules you and one the boys gets hurt, he'll feel awful because he had a hand in causing it.
I told him that the last thing he wants in the house is 6 month old in a sling because his shoulder was dislocated. I'd rather hurt her feelings every day than have one of my guys injured in her care. She just can't take care of them well enough. She doesn't get around well and she can barely lift them. They are always so sore when she leaves because of the way she manhandles them. Poor little guys.
BTW, did you read the full post (I don't know what happened, but it posted before I finished the entire story)? This all happened after she let Eli hit his head! I wanted to throat punch her!
Explain to him how you want them to be involved, you want your kids to get to know them, etc. However, their safety is your first priority and needs to be his too. There are many great things about his mom, and (again) you love for her to spend time w/ them. however - you aren't comfortable w/ her ability to care for them.
And this is kind of another reality check- they may have done a great job w/ your DH (which I'm sure is what he's thinking), but taht was how many years ago?
My IL's are simply "old". MIL isn't physically capable of keeping up w/ DS, and as I said before, FIL just gets so distracted and is also forgetful. They were great parents to my DH - but as a baby/child, that was 35 years ago!!!! They are in their 70's now, not their 30's. Big difference.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I'd be so done with her. Tell her nicely that you don't want to overwhelm her with the boys, then don't leave her unsupervised.
But I do have to ask- how do you know they are sore?
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
i dont blame you one bit. just dont let them watch DS'
my MIL only watches L if its my last resort. i have actually cancelled plans because i didnt want her to watch her.. shes got this boyfriend that shes so wrapped up in and when they arent 'okay' shes not all there.. so no, thank you.
and FIL will never, ever, ever watch L alone.. he keeps saying 'when are you coming to sleepover?' yeah, probably never.
please withhold the 'they raised your SO' speech, i dont care.
Normally they love to be held and cuddled at bedtime after their baths and bottles. When MIL has been there, they don't want to be touched at all. I'm not sure that it's because they're sore, but it's either that or they're just really tired of being held.
AMEN!