Pregnant after a Loss

I need an intervention!

Ugh, I am so nervous that I am going to lose this pregnancy that I have convinced myself I am going to start bleeding, so Im not suprised when it happens...  This so sucks!  I have to pee all the time and I always go in there expecting to see blood..

I dont know how I am going to make it through this pregnancy God willing he lets us have this one for 9 months... How did you get over the irrational fears of something bad happening?  Its just so scary.  I was fine for about the first week.  Then reality set in that I am pg again and something might happen. 

I just dont know how I am going to relax...  Calm me down please girls

 

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Re: I need an intervention!

  • I am so sorry you are having such a tough time. I know how hard it is to relax when you've gone through what you have. Just have faith. We are all here for you and pulling for you and your LO!! The power of prayer is an amazing thing!!
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  • It is totally normal to be scared... I think we all would like to just be pregnant and happy and not worried but our past reminds us it isn't always that easy.  Just remember that each pg is different and be positive.  Take each day at a time and try to enjoy the fact that today, you are pregnant.  I know it is easier said than done but we are all here to support you!!

     

  • Oh, I am so sorry you are feeling this stress.  I wish I could say something perfect and magical to make it go away.  Hang in there, I"m thinking about you.  I'd just take it day by day and remember the PgAL mantra.
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  • I have been spending a lot of time praying that God carry this baby and that God carry me (like Footprints in the Sand) during the times that I have fear. 

    I also remind myself that I am doing everything that I possibly could have done.  When I started spotting, I got my betas.  I tried progesterone this time.  I took the recommendation to try baby aspirin.  I am still nervous about what they are going to say at my first US.  But I have God, and God will get me through the truth. 

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  • Ugh, the first trimester is just the worst for that. I agree with PPs--you just have to make it one day at a time. For me, I kept busy to keep from thinking about it, and then once I could find the hb on the Doppler, it was a little easier. I still get worried, but at least I can do something to make myself feel better.

    Do you have your first u/s scheduled?

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  • Relax... these babies ARE our sticky babies.  Every day I wake up, and say "thank you" to God for blessing me (us) with this baby.  In fact, I've been saying it several times a day.  And I know you believe, so that's one thing to lean on during this very anxious time. 

    I'm only a week or so behind you, and I am nervous, but not letting the nervousness rule my life (or as my mom would say, not letting the devil eat my lunch).  I'm focusing on each day being another closer to the day when I get to take home my baby. 

    Does that help?  So far, it's working for me....  PM me if you want to talk.

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  • I was doing the same thing - going to the bathroom everytime expecting to see red blood. The ultrasound really helped me. Stay strong Lynn!! T&P's!!
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  • I'm terrified too! I finally got up the courage today to put up a ticker, but every little thing scares me to death. I'm glad to hear the words of encouragement from the other ladies. Please know you aren't the only one!
  • There is nothing you can do to prevent a m/c or stop it. Just try to take things one day at a time and relax. I know it's easier said than done but I know that once I got to the point where I knew there was nothing I could do to prevent a m/c, it really made things easier. Hang in there girl.

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  • like one of the pp's said, reading the mantras would help me get through a tough time.  but i still check the tp every time i use the bathroom! i think i probably will right until the end.   and i wanted to say thanks cowgirl, you were one of the people on the mc/pl board that really helped me get through my mc, i am SOOOO happy that you are over here now :)
  • I am so sorry you are having a rough time. I am also in this period of denial right now, I feel like I am just waiting for the other shoe to drop. Hopefully you are able to get an u/s soon and can put some of your fears behind you after you see your LO on the big screen!
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  • I did all this, and still occasionally check the tp for blood.  All I can say is remind yourself that you are pregnant today, and love your baby.  There is nothing you can do or not do to change what happens, and every pregnancy is different so your past has nothing to do with this pregnancy.  All this is what I told and still tell myself.  Good luck Lynn, I really hope this is your sticky baby!
  • I wish I could tell you how to get over the irrational fears but I don't have much to add. All I can say is to put it in G-d's hands, 'cause we really have no control.

    Easier said than done, though. Tongue Tied

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    Ugh, the first trimester is just the worst for that. I agree with PPs--you just have to make it one day at a time. For me, I kept busy to keep from thinking about it, and then once I could find the hb on the Doppler, it was a little easier. I still get worried, but at least I can do something to make myself feel better.

    Do you have your first u/s scheduled?

    My first appt is the 21st so only a week. I am praying he does an u/s then

     

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