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Should I feel guilty about using a pacifier???

KatefromUpstateKatefromUpstate
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One of my little guys has an intense sucking need, so last night we decided to let him try out a pacifier (he is not breastfeeding, just drinking pumped milk).  I have this guilty feeling about it.  I feel like I am copping out.  Did anyone else have this feeling when they started one of the DC on a pacifier.  I have been using it sparingly all day, but he LOVES it....
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  • fallbride110406fallbride110406 member

    You shouldn't feel guilty.  There's nothing wrong with offering a pacifier if it's soothing to the baby and research indicates that it helps reduce SIDS.

    https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/03/070312152207.htm 

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  • lgurianlgurian
    i sure hope not cause we use them too when they are fussy. i joke and tell DH to put a plug in the baby! i think better then them sucking their thumbs cause at least i can take it away eventually.
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  • shellshavintwinsshellshavintwins

    The nurses at the hospital decided that since my girls were latching on so well I could use paci's w/o worrying about it causing confusion. I don't regret the decision to use them at all.

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  • FullersGirlFullersGirl member

    I'm soooo using pacifiers if my little ones ever seem to "need" them.  I have a little brother who sucked his finger for the first 5 years of his life.  He now has a crooked finger and crooked teeth.  You can't take away the finger or the thumb!!  I have a cousin who's a thumb-sucker STILL, she's 6.  Her teeth are also all crooked, right up front.

    I wouldn't feel guilty, but that's my opinion.  I am still attempting the breastfeeding, but right now we're just trying to get the babies nice and fat, so we're bottle feeding with pumped breastmilk.  I'm not so worried about them going back to breast, so the nipple-confusion thing isn't my top priority.

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  • Temp159135562506975Temp159135562506975 member

    Pacis reduce the SIDS risk- so i feel NO guilt using them! All 3 of my boys love pacis... Griffin has only used his for bedtime since he was about 12mos (we're sending them to the paci fairy when he turns 3... time to get rid of them!)... they have been a great help for him when he needs soothing... and the twins, too.

    IMO- it's better to have a baby who loves the paci than who loves sucking his thumb- b/c i can't take the thumb away!  I was a thumb sucker for many years- my parents had a really hard time breaking the habit - i'm glad all i need to do is take away pacis. :)

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  • ErinCBErinCB

    Don't feel guilty! Paci's reduce the risk of SIDS. Also, babies have a need to suck. It's just something they do. Read "The Happiest Baby On The Block" by Dr. Harvey Karp. It's fantastic for helping soothe fussy babies and one of the things he talks about is the need for a small baby to suck--either on breast, bottle or pacifier.

    You can cut paci's whenever it feels right to you, but for the first few months I wouldn't hesitate at all. FWIW--my nearly 2 y/o still uses his for sleeping. 

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  • regenabregenab member

    I have always said the paci is a multiple moms best friend. I didnt' feel guilty at all for using the paci on my girls. It helped out a lot when I was feeding them by myself, because I would feed the one that ate best at the time first and give the other twin the paci to keep her content until I could feed her. This was when they were really small before I could feed them both at the same time well. Then I used it again for the same reason when one was really upset and I needed to change the other one for bed or give bath when they were really small.

    I also found the paci was great for when I was sleep training my girls to STTN at about 3 months old because they used the paci to help soothe themselves to sleep instead of falling asleep while feeding. I also read it helps reduce SIDS so all around I felt good about using them. One of my twins also was a touchy baby and very high maintenance and she did much better when she had her paci to comfort her. Now that she is no longer on the paci she uses a lovey for comfort at night and during naps.

    I did break my girls once they turned 1 because they no longer used a bottle that had a nipple so I felt it was best to try to break the paci as well because they didn't need the sucking motion anymore. It took almost 3 weeks before they were completely over it, meaning their night sleep and naps went back to normal. I did it cold turkey and the first 3 days are the worst. But even as hard as it was to take them away, I was glad I used them.

     

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  • lajolla09.30.06lajolla09.30.06
    I had zero guilt about using pacifiers, the NICU nurses gave them to our babies right away.  They never developed an attachment to them and were pretty much not even using them by 6 or 7 months.  I'd definitely do whatever saves your sanity
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