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Did you consider yourself a mom before DC was born?
Someone on the sahm board is getting her panties in a twist because some pregnant women are posting there and not *specifying* that they are sahws at current and not sahms.
holy run on. anyway. thoughts?
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Re: Did you consider yourself a mom before DC was born?
I am from the camp that the second that little swimmer dipped into the egg. I was officially a mommy.
So to that very uptight momma I would say "Down Boy".
Oh and it's not like I ran around calling myself a mom or anything. But had DD not been born on Mother's Day, I'd have been demanding a gift anyway! And pregnant women are more than welcome on the SAHM board - should they have to preface every post with "My child has NOT been born yet, BUT..." or "I'm currently a trophy wife."
I think it's funny that it's worth making a post about. That's all.
There's drama on the SAHM board? I don't believe it.
Sounds like someone needs to get a hobby if this is the kind of stuff they worry about.
haha, and they said we were boring
And dumb. Don't forget dumb.
Almost this exactly. The first time, no...I really didn't consider myself a mom. I considered myself pregnant. But, I do think of myself as a mom of three now that I'm 34 weeks pregnant with our third.
I considered myself a mom, but not in the same sense that I do now. It's hard to explain. I knew that I was that baby's mother no matter what happened.
I think it's silly to make fun of other women for that, unless they are really going overboard.
I think there's a difference in what you are and how you feel. I mean, a lot of us probably didn't really think of ourselves as moms for a few weeks...maybe even months. Like still giving someone your maiden name after you were married a few months...it can all take a while to sink in.
But the fact remains, I had a child to love and cherish, a child I would protect at all costs. If that doesn't make you a mother, what does?
A step mom. because I was one.
But not a mom.
Not until I was holding that baby. I don't care if people want to think they are a mom beforehand, whatever, to each their own. However, if I see a 1st tri girl with a SAHM badge in her sig I am going to give her hell. I'm sorry, you're not a SAHM yet. You might be a pregnant chick not working, but you're not at home with a baby every waking second yet.I don't know why that bothers me, it just does.
DS1 born June 2008 | m/c at 9w March 2011 | DS2 born April 2012
That is exactly what I am talking about. You're #1 while you're pregnant. After delivery you're #2 and you are shackled to the new #1.
Yeah, that's dumb. I'm with you on that one! I didn't call myself a sahm before I had DD either.
I've always thought that "SAHW" is a nicer or even a braggy way to say unemployed.?
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I was voluntarily unemployed and pregnant more than once in my life. I've had a few losses. I do feel that I was a mother before my daughter was born. But I wasn't a SAHM, or a "SAHW". I was just unemployed.
I did consider myself a mother. But as I play a SAHM in the summers, it is quite a different thing to be a SAH pregnant W than it is to be a SAHM.
For example, if the husband of a pregnant woman is unemployed, would he be considered a SAHD? I know it's not exactly the same thing given the fact that hs'e not actually carrying the child, but I think you get the point.
Ditto. I guess I consider pregnant women as moms-to-be or mothers in transition. They definitely love and care for their unborn baby. But it's a whole different ballgame from taking care of a baby outside the womb.