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How are you controlling yourselves emotionally?

brandywardbrandyward
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I've done well until the past 3 weeks and it's been all downhill from there. I've tried talking calmly with DH, crying it out, yelling, everything!

I know I'm crabby because I'm too big and extremely emotional. So, since I know I'm like that I feel I should be able to control it. It's not fair to DH for me to use the same excuse over and over. BUT, I just can't control it. I get so mad and feel like I'm boiling over all the time.

Anyone dealt with postpartum or depression that begins before LO arrives? I've heard the same postpartum symptoms can set in early. I am taking a weak anti-depressant (was taken off most of my meds), but it's not working well lately. Just wondering.

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Re: How are you controlling yourselves emotionally?

  • aegrimmaegrimm member

    I was doing REALLY well. Until last week.

    I actually cried last night because our outdoor Christmas lights blew a fuse and so they were all out and DH wasn't going to fix them until tonight. That meant no Christmas lights for a whole 24 hours.

    It, obviously, was because he doesn't care about Christmas or my feelings or what's important to me. Not because he was tired and it was 30 degrees outside. ::eyeroll at myself::

    Today, I came home and immediately got pissed off that my garage door was open because it meant my step-dad was there. How DARE he not ask me if it were OK (He had asked DH). AND , he was there fixing my Christmas lights as a surprise. Embarrassed

    So, to answer your question, I'm not. And I feel terrible and I pity the poor people around me.

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  • sunflowergrlsunflowergrl member

    I'm not yelling or getting mad often, but I'm crying... a lot.  I suffer from depression to begin with, and made the choice to go off my meds while TTC and remain that way through the pg.  I did okay until about 6.5 months and it started getting harder.

    I am seeing a therapist, and have since seen a woman who specializes in depression meds (can't remember her title).  She gave me a new prescription to start as soon as LO is born to help control any kind of PPD I may have because I'm a serious candidate for it. 

    As of now, I'm just crying all the time, I think mainly its becasue I'm sooooo depressed that LO isn't here yet.  I had it in my head, that she would be early (Who knows where the hell that thought came from).  And I feel like everyone I know who has EDD's after me has already had their LO's.  (We have a lot of friends who are also pg right now)

    It's gotten so bad, I can't even open the "He/She's here" posts anymore.  I hate that I can't be happy for others, but really it just sends me spiraling.  About 2 hrs ago Dh came home and told me about our other friend who is having a c-sect now next week because her LO is breech.... yup, I just finished crying over that. 

    Don't get me wrong, I'm so happy that LO is healthy and in ready position, but it's just so hard wathcing everyone else have their babies.  Then I get on myself for being jealous and how stupid and childish that is, then I cry more.  

    So yea, I'm not really handling myself emotionally right now.  (Bet that's a bit more of an answer than you were looking for)  But it felt really good to type all that out.  

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  • OhioBobcatOhioBobcat member
    I've been catching myself being a bit short with DH in these last few weeks, so it does make me wonder how I will be after the fact. I hope he understands though that it is all down to the imbalance at the moment and not me being personal with him. I am trying my best to keep it in check though.
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  • misswhit85misswhit85

    I can't controll myself emotionally. When I cry it seems like I can't stop, when I'm angry it seems completely justifiable until the hormonal rage passes, then I feel awful and appologize to anyone who witnessed it.

    I also have OCD, I'm basically obsessed with symmetry and neatness to the point where it infuriates me if things aren't symmetrical and in perfect order. For example DD pushed the right side of the coffee table out two inches farther than the left. I can feel my blood boiling at how much this pisses me off. It's hard for me to remember that I'm the freak of nature and I do not need to call her over to fix it. My OCD was much more manageable until a few weeks ago.

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  • rhannanrhannan
    I also have had depression/anxiety issues prior to TTC, and went off my meds when we started and have stayed off throughout the pregnancy (I was on Cymbalta and it's not safe, and although they offered to switch me to something else I wanted to try to go without anything.) Overall I have done pretty well, but a month ago we moved from Chicago to TX and it has been pretty hard on me.  I am so homesick and lonely it has made me cry a lot lately.  I haven't gone off on DH too much, but I cry often and he doesn't understand why--of course he's not lonely, we moved here to be closer to his brother!  I try to think positive and enjoyed painting her new nursery and getting it together, but now that that project is done I am sad and pissy again.  I'm not like this all the time fortunately, but it seems like I am on an emotional rollar coaster. 
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