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If your Dad is alive...

Bride_BestBride_Best
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I posted the below on FFFC or whatever below; however, I wanted to share again with additional thoughts...

I absolutely love the holidays!  I am an absolute mess right now in tears, as I miss my Dad terribly.  I think it has gotten worse now that I have a son.  My Dad never met my husband or my son.  I so longed for the day that my Dad would be a Grandpa.  My parents were divorced and my Dad was remarried when he lost his battle to cancer.  I held the family together and made an effort to communicate with my Dad even though it was hard at times.  I am jealous of all of you who have a Dad.  It makes me sad to hear stories about negative relationships that you have with your Dad.  Totally wish that my Dad were here.  It's been 5.5 years since his death and the pain gets worse over time, not better.  I wish that I could have afforded to be off of work to spend quality time with my Dad as he was dying.  At the time, I wasn't told exactly how sick he really was.  I wish that his wife had told me how bad things really were; however, everyone made it seem like he would be healed and would make a full recovery.

Hug your Dad for me, because I sure do wish that I had a Dad to hug right now!

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  • mary5198mary5198

    I'm so sorry honey. My dad passed away on Christmas Eve last year. Last Christmas was a nightmare for my family.

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  • LondonBridgesLondonBridges

    This made me sad.  I'm so sorry.

    I can't imagine my life without my parents.

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  • ChristinaCTChristinaCT
    You bet your butt I wll give him many hugs.  I am so very sorry for your loss.  I don't know what I would do without either of my parents.
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  • JessibellJessibell

    Christina and Mary, I am so sorry for you both.

    My Dad is my rock and I don't want to imagine the pain ya'll must be in.

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  • Bride_BestBride_Best
    Thanks.  I am sorry for all of you who have lost a parent or a child.  The loss is something that nobody can understand, unfortunately, unless they have experienced it.  I try to be strong and act like things get better over time, but that's not the case.  I'm also tired of being sympathetic to my DH's family around the holidays.  They lost their mother a year and 3 days after my Dad died.  However, around the holidays, nobody acts like they have a clue that I no longer have a Dad.  Just pisses me off.  Thanks for listening to me vent!
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  • victoria1977victoria1977
    I complelety understand what you are saying. And I also agree that time can make the pain worse. At least it did for me. It definilty hasn't gotten any easier. I have lost both my parents, something very few people at my age experience. This time of year is the worst by far for me. I am so sorry for your loss and just know that you are not alone.
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  • carolinagcarolinag member

    i am so very sorry. i think the holidays just really make the loss harder, and more present in our lives. i hope that you find healing in time. the pain will never go away, but i hope that it lessens. 

    and next time i see my dad i will remember this and give him a big hug. 

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  • MEJ2008MEJ2008
    I'm so sorry. Today is the 4th anniversary of the death of DH's dad and I can't imagine the pain of losing a parent.
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  • mama_kmama_k
    Thank you for posting this. My Dad died in October. I mostly try not to think about it, since I am so busy with work and DD, but I have a feeling Christmas Day itself will be terribly painful. Add to that my Mom is extremely dysfunctional/abusive/whatever and I don't speak to her anymore....I am pretty much feeling like an orphan this Christmas :(
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  • BeachydreamsBeachydreams

    I'm so sorry for your loss & can understand the pain of losing your Dad. 

    I was a total Daddy's girl & was so very close to him.  When he died many years ago, I was completely devastated.  Now I also have a husband & daughter who never got the pleasure of meeting him :(   It is not easy to deal with during the holidays especially.  Just know you are not alone.

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  • AmyDrinkieAmyDrinkie member
    I'm so sorry.  Even though my dad and I have had our share of disagreements (he has had a hard time letting go of his little girl) he does a lot for us and I love him to pieces.  I can't imagine life w/o my daddy.
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  • GRKatersGRKaters member

    Aww! This made my nose get prickly and my eyes all teary :( I will definitely hug my dad when I see him.

     

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  • jilleyjilley
    I am so sorry to all of you who have lost a parent. I really don't know what I would do in that situation, my parents are my very best friends, and I hate living 18 hours from them, but I can't imagine if they weren't around at all. {{{{{hugs}}}}}
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