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I"m about to be catty...flame away if you want

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My SIL has no kids (she's not married yet), and she tries to be like "super aunt" to her nieces & nephew. Well, she's not very close to her sis these days, so all her energy is on being sooooooooooooo close to kadence. So much so, that I start to feel posessive of my own child!! I can't really explain what she says or does, aside from the constant "how's my baby". There's lots more though, but nothing I can accurately explain right now.

Anyway, I texted her and told her K was at my work with me this morning and will be back at 3. Her response: "I want her to come to my work. :("

I'm so tempted to write back, "Well, when you're her MOTHER, she can!"

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Re: I"m about to be catty...flame away if you want

  • meggiekinsmeggiekins

    Yeah, catty and irrational, but I think we've all been there! Wink

    I hope she stops annoying you soon. Maybe buy her a reborn for xmas?

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  • KittyCatBioKittyCatBio
    I do understand how you feel.  I have a sister the same way.  Just remind yourself that it's one more person who adores your child, which is not a bad thing.
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  • MrsGladneyMrsGladney
    I understand the feeling.  My mom does that.  It sucks b/c I get very possessive but I know she means well.  It's taken me a long time to get that and now that I do I just let it roll off my back and don't feed into it or fight it.  I just don't respond.  I know easier said than done.
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  • DrswifeDrswife member
    I think it those pregnancy hormones getting to you!!!  HA!  I hope you are enjoying your time with K today!
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  • carolinagcarolinag member
    haha. not katty. it's fine! at least she's family. timmy has a super stalker who is just a random friend!
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  • honeyfwhoneyfw

    That is a little catty but sometimes I want DS to myself as well so no flames from me Wink

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  • yoko589yoko589
    Seriously, I feel the same way about my SIL.  She has 2 kids that are 9 and 12 but she still acts this way.  It drives me crazy and she is constantly complaining about not seeing DD enough.  I feel your pain and I hope things get better for both of us!!
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  • kipper1128kipper1128

    imageKittyCatBio:
    I do understand how you feel.  I have a sister the same way.  Just remind yourself that it's one more person who adores your child, which is not a bad thing.

    And in that same breath - no one loves her more than her Mama, and your DD knows it too!

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  • AngelEyes06AngelEyes06
    I completely understand how you feel. My MIL is that way about DS and it drives me crazy. I feel like she makes me a very posessive, over protective mother because I'm always "competing" with her!
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  • Lucy_Plus_One!Lucy_Plus_One! member

    I wont flame you. That would annoy me too!

    I would just respond with, "Wont it be fun when you have a little one someday and you can take them to work with you!? I really enjoy it was K can come in with me." Lol.

    Just remind yourself that this means there will be someone besides you to put their energy into making K feel special when baby #2 arrives. Its hard, but it will be good for her in the end, right?

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  • murphyecmurphyec
    Ah yes, MIL makes me the same way.  She will pout if I try to take my own son somewhere when she is visiting.  Not to mention when she refused to put him down to run around cause he wasn't wearing socks (it was August!).  I could go on and on and on.  Sorry your SIL is making you feel this way too.
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  • star173star173 member

    Thank you all for understanding. I love my SIL and I know she means well. She'll see one day when I call her baby "mine". Stick out tongue

    And I am thankful to have someone who loves K so much- God knows my own sister isn't interested in her!

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  • kelbriankelbrian

    imagecarolinag:
    haha. not katty. it's fine! at least she's family. timmy has a super stalker who is just a random friend!

    Bwhahahahaha. I know who you are talking about. I think you yourself also have a stalker :P 

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  • star173star173 member
    imagekelbrian:

    imagecarolinag:
    haha. not katty. it's fine! at least she's family. timmy has a super stalker who is just a random friend!

    Bwhahahahaha. I know who you are talking about. I think you yourself also have a stalker :P 

    Hey, Kel. I was just thinking about you- I feel like I haven't seen you on here in a while..maybe just not in the same posts? How are you?

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  • kelbriankelbrian
    imagestar173:
    imagekelbrian:

    imagecarolinag:
    haha. not katty. it's fine! at least she's family. timmy has a super stalker who is just a random friend!

    Bwhahahahaha. I know who you are talking about. I think you yourself also have a stalker :P 

    Hey, Kel. I was just thinking about you- I feel like I haven't seen you on here in a while..maybe just not in the same posts? How are you?

    Hm, I've been lurking more than anything :) I'm doing okay. The kids I watch are burning me out and I'm ready for my two week break. Just one more week to go!

    How are you doing? Feeling?  

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  • blushadoblushado
    I know how you feel--my mom is like this.  Highly irritating.  Just know that at the end of the day (and all the hours in between), you ARE her mother and your daughter (and--I would hope--your sister-in-law) knows this, too. 
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  • star173star173 member
    imagekelbrian:
    imagestar173:
    imagekelbrian:

    imagecarolinag:
    haha. not katty. it's fine! at least she's family. timmy has a super stalker who is just a random friend!

    Bwhahahahaha. I know who you are talking about. I think you yourself also have a stalker :P 

    Hey, Kel. I was just thinking about you- I feel like I haven't seen you on here in a while..maybe just not in the same posts? How are you?

    Hm, I've been lurking more than anything :) I'm doing okay. The kids I watch are burning me out and I'm ready for my two week break. Just one more week to go!

    How are you doing? Feeling?  

    I used to babysit all the time and LOVED it. I really can't imagine doing it regularly now that I have a child though. Although, it would beat coming to the office every day! Haha. Enjoy your break! I'm feeling and doing very well, thanks. :)

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  • SBear12SBear12 member
    imageLucy_Plus_One!:

    I would just respond with, "Wont it be fun when you have a little one someday and you can take them to work with you!? I really enjoy it was K can come in with me." Lol.

    Ooooh, LOVE this response. And definitely no flames from me. If she's really that over-the-top, this response might serve as a healthy (but without being mean) reminder to her that K's role as niece is a bit different than her role as daughter.

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  • SenoraKristinSenoraKristin
    A little catty, but I've been there with my ILs.  SIL loves your kid a lot, and that's always a good thing.  Try to distance yourself by planning things without her and establishing clear boundaries.  GL!
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